No binary people

[Guest miss andros]

I dont see any people who dont recognize either male or female.

And doctor dont believe me. Sometime I feel so lonely!

What cant i say? I want a woman body, and i have masculine personnality.

Any else in my situation?

[SoSarah]

Miss Andros, sorry to read of your frustration. Sometimes trying to survive in a society to feel safe emotionally and physically we become great actors. With my personality I made a good man with all the right moves. But through therapy and work on "inner child" stuff, and with new conversations with my family I remembered being a very shy boy and not very out going because I could not play with the girls on the playground. There our are women and men on this site that lived such a opposite life for years and overcame the act. The best to you. Smile's... Sarah

[Charlize]

I think a great many trans* people share your feelings. We are all a mixture of male and female even those who are cis gender (content in their birth gender).

When i first transitioned i didn't know hat to do with myself. i felt that as i presented as female i should somehow change roles and do only "female" things. Life quickly got in the way and i found that to work the farm i had to use what are often considered male attributes. It has taken time to embrace that part of me but as i do i'm feeling whole, at peace with my gender for the first time in my life.

I am not surprised your doctors don't accept your desire for a female body with a male persona. Changing gender presentation and body to "live" as the opposite sex is something they may understand but being a mixture that allows one to be oneself is a much more difficult concept.

Hopefully you will find a path to your comfort zone.

Sharing here may well help.

Hugs,

Charlize

[VickySGV]

Unless one of your doctors' is Trans* themself, it will be very difficult to get your idea across to them. I am a volunteer with a group of Trans* people that has a number of members who are non-binary and even though they are loved by the other more binary members, it is hard even for some of the binary people to understand their friends completely. As they work together though, it becomes less and less of an issue, and the differences become less and less, but each identity is fully honored.

I have found that in the last three years since my GCS, that I have become less "BINARY" than can be comfortable for a lot of people, but which is less of an issue than it first appeared to be. More of my old male personality is at play today than I thought would happen, but in really looking at it, my "male" personality was NOT what is idealized as male even back then. I know what it is like to have YOUR personality which is NOT a stereotype of either gender, and maybe is better than either.

I do have a feeling that you may be over-thinking the NB thing at the minute and trying to rationalize it to people who will balk and not accept it. I would suggest simply becoming the personality that you feel is your best expression, no matter how you look for now, and in time the desire for the bodily transition will then seem like a normal and predictable thing for YOU!! You cannot THINK and rationalize it to death, but you can show it as feelings.

[gennee]

Miss Andross, each of us needs to find where we feel comfortable. So folks will never understand. I can understand because they're not living life as non-binary. Find out where you feel most comfortable and embrace it.

Personally, I'm not completely male and not completely female. I'm very happy where I am now.

[Guest miss andros]

And about orchiectomy?

[Charlize]

I have had an orchiectomy but i am also legally female at this point. i'm not sure that our legal system has space for a 3rd gender like exists in India. At this point i feel that genders don't particularly fit me. Yes I'm female but i still have male parts as well. I guess i exist in a kind of middle ground a 'mugwump' of sorts. I'm just me and thats better than being forced into the male role that didn't fit. It has taken a few years now but i'm pretty content.

Hugs,

Charlize

[Guest miss andros]

Yes another option than M or F