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By awkward-yet-sweet · Posted
Well, here's the big questions: What does it mean to be masculine? What does it mean to be a woman? I've been around a lot of rule-bending in those areas. There's all sorts of "traditional" views about what men and women do. Men work on mechanical things, defend/protect, earn a living, play rough sports, etc. Women cook and clean, are gentle and nurturing, value aesthetics over function, etc. Yet, my very "masculine" industrial-manager husband cooks just as well as any Betty Crocker wannabe, and tells the bedtime stories that are most in-demand by the kids. My GF, who is surely "ALL Girl" is a highly skilled mechanic, a street racer, was busily laying concrete while 6 months pregnant, and practices kenjutsu (Japanese sword fighting skills). And me? I'm AFAB but I'm infertile and I feel like I should have had a male body...yet I possess very little in the way of "manly" skills or desire to acquire them. I'm in my boy form these days, but pretty much useless for accomplishing "boy stuff." I think my family blew those definitions out of the water. Yet, somehow our family structure is also religiously patriarchal....and happily so! It'll bend your brain to try to figure that one out. I'd say its just important to be you, do what you do best, and stick your tongue out at anybody who doesn't like it. -
By JenniferB · Posted
Welcome to the board gizgizgizzie! I sure can understand what dysphoria feels like. I found it stayed in my head during nearly all waking hours. Although, sometimes held in a little deeper. But it was triggered easily. I hope you can find that place you feel comfortable with yourself. This is a good place to find help as you traverse your journey. Jennifer -
By VickySGV · Posted
Welcome to the Forums @gizgizgizzie we have folks in your situations to talk to and share with. -
By gizgizgizzie · Posted
hi everyone, my name is giz (or gizzie), i use all prns but i prefer they/it and i just found out abt this place pretty recently !! im really excited to find community among other trans people from so many walks of life !! in my personal life, i do have trans/queer friends but its not easy to navigate that without coming out all willy nilly (and i can't come out to my family, pretty much ever) so this is a pretty good place for me to get to know people and make new friends !! i also have this weird dysphoria issue that i feel like everyone (and society at large lol) is attaching me to categories and boxes that don't really fit me (obviously this is to do with my agab) so being here without that presentation is also really helpful !! i also hope to be able to start and share my transitions goals and things like that (just getting my body to a more androgynous look) !! thanks for reading, and i hope to see more of y'all soon !! -
By awkward-yet-sweet · Posted
Well, my friends are out publicly. Openly transgender, and on HRT. I agree that the survival of all of us is at stake. But I think there are threats greater and more dangerous than those faced exclusively by LGBTQ folks. Rising prices. Unaffordable food. EPA strangling transportation and energy. Needless foreign wars that put us at risk of literal nuclear annihilation. A government that wants to tax us, track us, and control every aspect of our lives...including using us as guinea pigs for their medical experiments. Trump is no savior. Neither is the Republican party. But I believe that a vote for Democrats in the federal government is for sure a vote for globalism and what follows it. War, famine, plague, slavery, and death don't care if we're trans or cis. -
By Ladypcnj · Posted
There is light at the end of the tunnel, just believe. -
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By Ivy · Posted
People who are out publicly, and openly transgender, maybe on HRT, having changed names and gender, have a lot to lose if anti-trans politicians take power. They have openly called for our eradication, and promise to do everything they can to accomplish this. (again, 2025) For someone in this position the election is about our survival. It's foolish to delude ourselves into thinking "Oh, they don't really mean that. It's all for show," or, "There's other more important things to concern ourselves with." Maybe for some people the other things take priority. But if you have skin in the game, things look different. -
By awkward-yet-sweet · Posted
If that happens, a lot of things I don't want to see might also be codified into law. And some things that shouldn't be law might not get repealed. To me, progress in one area isn't worth the price we'd have to pay in several other areas. For me, voting on LGBTQ issues always ends up as an "out of the frying pan, but into the fire" sort of event. -
By Ivy · Posted
Trying out a new wig. Got my reading glasses on. I've also got dark roots now - first time in years. -
By Vidanjali · Posted
Thea, your post made me think of a comic named Chloe Petts whom I saw recently on Hannah Gadsby's Gender Agenda comedy special on Netflix. She is a cisgender masculine lesbian. She is brilliant and so funny. I was intrigued by her identification - specifically masculine, not butch. And it seems to me there is a difference. -
By Vidanjali · Posted
Today I had a dr appt. When I checked in, I was asked my surname, which I gave. Apparently there were two patients with appointments at that time with that same surname. The receptionist asked, "Are you (my legal name which is feminine) or Paul?" I got such a kick out of it not being assumed I had the feminine name. -
By Vidanjali · Posted
That must have felt affirming, albeit perhaps weirdly so. However, I'd construe that more broadly (no pun intended) as sexism rather than misogyny where the latter would imply contempt. Also, incidentally, I've heard chivalry referred to as "benevolent sexism". -
By MaeBe · Posted
My boss is in a panic. His business is a couple straws away from breaking a camel in half. He's just handling the stress very poorly. My dad, though. He's handling things pretty well, as long as I continue to don't get massively offended by being called: son, boy, etc. His eldest is leaving the State and looks so different than he's been used to over the years. I haven't told him I'm on HRT, but to be fair the changes haven't been massive. I've always had boobs, more so after COVID weight gain and made more obvious with its loss, but now I'm not hiding them--and obviously wearing a bra. The estrogen has done some work, but nothing major (sadly). I think the biggest HRT changes have been my skin and a mild amount of fat redistribution. Today I'm wearing my cheater, I almost have cleavage! :D I need to get another t-shirt bra to keep a good rotation. I only have two, one push-up, and the rest are unlined (great for Summer, but not great for my Summer wardrobe ).
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