Under dressing

[Guest notsure2015]

So it's been quite a while since my last post. Since then I've been suppressing the thoughts and feelings about who I am. I've been reading some of the newer posts not too long ago and I noticed one where someone asked "how they could feel more feminine without completely coming out?". A lot of people mentioned under dressing, and I've known about this and have done this only a few times, mostly at home alone (but not often cause I live with my parents who don't know), but a few times outside for short errands. I feel so conflicted because I want to play the hand I was dealt being born a man, but I don't always feel that's who I am. I am very attracted to women and would like to have a wife and kids someday and that's why this feels so wrong as well. There's somedays I'll look at a girl and think damn she's so hot, and then others where I am like I wish I was her. Today the feelings have hit a peak and I couldn't suppress them anymore. The last few nights I've been having dreams of wearing women's clothes in public or being caught by family members (I almost never remember my dreams especially on consecutive nights like they have been happening), and the only way to stop them is to dress in women's clothes. Right now I'm in my room and going crazy over what going on in my mind. Last year when the feelings got this bad I bought a lot of panties on line because I could hide wearing them, but I guess I'm scared to go out wearing them cause someone will see. I bought a pack of hipster panties that are nice and I feel comfortable in, but I'm worried someone will notice and force me to admit that I'm wearing panties. I guess where I'm going with this is: is it noticeable when a guy wears (a few are girly colors some pinks, purples, laces and bows) panties? Is it worth the risk to explore my feelings longer than a few hours?

[MarcieMarie12]

I've been under-dressing at work since September of 2015. No one has noticed. You can also get your toe nails painted and not worry about it too much. Summer might be an issue though.

[Guest notsure2015]

I'm mostly worried because I have to lift a lot at work, so there's a lot of bending to lift and reaching up to high shelves and my shirt comes untucked.

[Charlize]

if you wear a bikini type panty all anybody could see is skin even with low slung jeans.

I remember being afraid of underdressing simply because i thought about how terrible it would be to get into a car accident. I could see myself being found out at some hospital.

It has been years since then. Time and little steps have finally allowed that feeling that i was somehow "wrong" to be pushed away. That only happened with small steps. Bit by bit the fear left me.

Hugs,

Charlize

[SoSarah]

I was in a head on collision in 1996, my toes were painted and I was wearing ladies undergarments. In the ER I woke up hearing my wife trying to explain me to the nurse. I survived both and went on to bigger transitioning challenges and more hospital's. Smile's... Sarah

[Charlize]

OMG my worst fear come true! Thanks for sharing Sarah. That somehow puts a smile on my face.

Hugs,

Charlize

[Guest Denise007]

Notsure, Just a suggestion....please look over what you are saying. Do you see, that you seem to have a fantasy of being caught, aroused by wearing female clothing? which is all ok, but I wonder if you have spent much time really digging into the reasons why some of us still claim to be TS and not CD It also seems you are entering the "binge and purge" point in your transgenderism. I know it well! wasted so much MONEY on clothing only to toss it and go back to finding a "cure"

One of the reasons back in the day for "testing" was to determine if we are turned on by clothing and the escape fantasy or if we really do want to be and live as female.

Wherever we are in the gender spectrum, we should find a way to be happy safe and sane.

Good Karma to you!

[HannahMarie]

It is totally possible to underdress at work. I occasionally do and don't seem to have a problem. If I'm wearing slacks I'll wear a thong and I have to wear a smock over my tucked in shirt so there's always something covering it. The only nerve wracking thing is when I'm using the restroom and have a feeling someone is looking at my bright pink underwear in the stall. I'm sure that's just my anxiety though. Honestly I feel so much more comfortable in panties than boxer shorts. If you do a lot of bending at work you can also just choose white panties like the other ladies suggested. You could even just wear a feminine tank or Cami under your work shirt. I also do that and it just looks like an undershirt of they see it.

[Guest Alicia Rose]

It is totally possible to underdress at work. I occasionally do and don't seem to have a problem. If I'm wearing slacks I'll wear a thong and I have to wear a smock over my tucked in shirt so there's always something covering it. The only nerve wracking thing is when I'm using the restroom and have a feeling someone is looking at my bright pink underwear in the stall. I'm sure that's just my anxiety though. Honestly I feel so much more comfortable in panties than boxer shorts. If you do a lot of bending at work you can also just choose white panties like the other ladies suggested. You could even just wear a feminine tank or Cami under your work shirt. I also do that and it just looks like an undershirt of they see it.

I've been under-dressing for a couple years. Although I wear woman's jeans and shirts (shirt passes as unisex), I always wear my sport bras, un-padded along with a nice tank/cami under my shirt. The only concern I ever had was people seeing the bra straps through my shirt and perhaps some have.. and that's why I wear women tanks over my bra too, to help cover it. I'm about to start HRT and begin coming out and going full-time, so I'm not worried really.

[StephanieVikingGirl]

If I remember correctly, I started under-dressing back in 1991 or 1992 when I was a Special Police Officer for the Department of Energy. It helped me during some stressful times. Sure, I was afraid of it being discovered, but then again the most likely cause for me to need a hospital visit would be if I was shot on duty, and I guess I was more worried about the possibility of gunshot wounds than medical folk seeing my panties. Of course under-dressing did eventually lead to other things, I don't own any male clothing anymore since I live as a woman 24/7 now, lol..

hugs,

Stephanie