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First trip to the ladies room


Jill55

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Today I finally got up the nerve to use a public ladies room in a busy retail store. At first it was very nerve racking but after I sat down I was able to calm down a bit. After doing my business I wash my hands and left with no problem I hope this is my first step to many more uneventful trips to the ladies room.

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Good for you Jill, uneventful, that's the best news.

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Congratulations!

It will become second nature in no time.

Way back in male mode I used to be nervous many times in the men's. I think it was partly dysphoria. Now I have got to the position of being equally nervous (obviously dressed correctly for the place I am using). Maybe I just don't like bathrooms or maybe it will settle down in the end :unsure:. I think it will

Good luck :)

Tracy

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It certainly is not the big problem we have getting ready for it mentally. It got to the point I was being steered toward the women's room by men who were afraid I was headed into their man cave. High wave girl!!

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It struck me the other day that even here in Colorado where bathrooms are gender neutral, some find it harder daring to get there. For many, finding the confidence even if they pass well is hard. The "I'll go with you" campaign is a good thing and here "Let's go shopping Sister" is even better. Of course it helps to start with LGBT friendly places even coffee shops where hipsters and queerfolk hangout. Even here with a population of 100,000 there are well over a dozen places that are very accepting no matter how well you pass. Yes, some ask questions but, if they don't understand you can always ask they why they have sleeve tattoos or a big ring in their septum. Then they get it.

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I've gone into ladies rooms by myself, with my wife, with my sister and in a line with other women. As Tracy notes, it becomes second nature after a while. I was terribly nervous when I've had to go to a mens room at the airport when we were traveling recently. I was in guy mode to align with my current ID. I need to get that fixed!

Jani

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Most awesome for you girl. People who have not walked this path or even considered what all the fears are that we face is the reason people can not understand what we are each going through. With every small step you take honey, the stronger your steps will be.

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Congratulations on what is to any of us a memorable event.

Funny how a simple act can mean so much to all of us.

Hugs,

Charlize

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Awesome! Pee in peace! No more belch and fart room. No more wall of weird of bathtubs standing on end. No more sticky floors from the spatterings from the shaking dances of the roosters. The profiling of maleness to meet each other's approval.

I chalk up that room as a right of passage to gain an appreciation of a new joy. Sitting privately in a room of my sisters, where nothing has to be proven in the turf war. Sisters that caring and helping me with that offending up turned blouse tag, mal adjusted skirt I can't see from behind. Not laughing and pointing out I don't measure up, leaving me to my own embarrassment. Enjoy a gentler place to relieve. Giggle. Hug. JodyAnn

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