Clueless

[Guest Frost]

I really don't know what to do now. Let me explain;

Ever since I was little, around 7 or 8, I would dress up in either my Mom's or Grandma's clothes. At that time, I didn't wonder what it would be like to be a girl. Bu that all changed when I entered 3rd Grade. My school district had four separate schools. One for kindergarten through 2nd, 3rd through 5th, 6th through 8th, and 9th through 12th, so I entered a whole new atmosphere. I started to become curious about what it was like, but those feelings seemed to have passed.

When I was 12, the feelings returned with full force. I attempted cross dressing and, well, it felt like everything was right. But after a few days, I became sort off weirded out by the idea. So I tried to forget about what happened and move on. As you probably guessed, the urge to feel like everything was in the right place came back, and I've been secretly cross dressing ever since.

Last year was when I seriously thought about being a girl. I looked into it and took the Cogiati, S.A.G.E., and BBC tests and they all came up with the same answer: I am most likely a transsexual. Now, I know enough to not self-diagnose myself and go by the tests, but I really feel like I should be the opposite gender.

Currently, I'm 14 going on 15 and I'm going into high school. And I have no idea on what I should do.

[Sally]

Hi Frost,

Well you have come to the right place, Laura's but if you will follow me over to the members lounge in the introductions forum more of our members will find you and say hello.

Have a seat and I will get you some sweet rolls and hot coco, I'm so sorry you had to wait so long in the other forum but I was watching one show sitting in my recliner and that evil chair put me to sleep.

I'm awake now and glad to have you here.

You are very wise to not self diagnose, the next step for you before you do anything would be to find a gender therapist and check things out.

You should be able to move fairly slowly without too much trouble as the strong feelings have only surfaced recently - I've know scine around 7 and that was 50 years ago, I finally start hormones in July!

Relax and before too long a lot of really nice people will come along to say hello.

Ask questions and let us know what you think, you are part of one really big and extrememly interesting family.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Welcome my dear Frost!!

You have come to the right place my dear! You have a lot of questions... well dear... you know who you are! Based on the tests you have taken, you now have a clearer idea of who you are! I imagine you scored in the range of "possible transsexual" right? Well, if this is the case then, I suggest that you get some formal affirmation of identifying the woman you are. Finding a gender therapist is your next course of action. From there, you will be able to take the next necessary steps towards transitioning! Welcome Frost! You have already taken your first important step... realizing that you are transgendered!!

Love

bernii

[Guest DanM]

Hey Frost welcome to the playground. I see Sally is taking good care of you with food and drink, ain't she great? First you will need to see a therapist and have your tests confirmed. Then he/she will be able to help you figure out what it is exactly you should consider for your future. But for now you have came to the right place for advice and guidance. The people here are very caring and just like you.

Please make yourself at home.

Peace and Love

Dan

[Guest Frank67]

Hello Frost,

welcome to Laura's.

Sally served some sweet rolls and hot coca (seems the pizza is sold out for today), so it is time to put off your shoes, take a seat and relax.

Sally, Bernie and DanM are right with the next steps and if you have any question just ask, everyone is willing to help.

Hugs

Frank

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Frost

WELCOME WELCOME WELCOME

I know everything is confusing to you - so look around and see how others react to some of the things that happened to you. There is a huge collection of young people here, see the teen forum. You are welcome to post anywhere, and you will probably have some questions, so if you run into problems - please let us know.

Honey, its difficult knowing what you really may be. Pleaase don't get hung up on names and labels - you are what you are and evrthings fine! We all seem to have something like your story - and we always try to help each other. We are non-judgemental and really a friendly group.

And you really need to see if you can get your parents or whoever is your caretaker, to see a gender specialist therapist. They are really friendly and can help you out a lot. Don't tell them you are a girl - too strong. Say you feel weird being a guy and wonder what it would be like to be a girl. Insist on a 'gender; specialist - a regular therapist will only say it's a phase or something.

So glad to meet you!

Lizzy

[Guest Anthelia]

Hello Frost,

Nice to have you on Laura's. I am in a very similar spot as you and have my first session with a therapist tommorow. The people here are amazing and always willing to lend a helping hand.

-Anthelia

[Guest Frost]

Thank you all for warm welcome.

I've actually been seeing a therapist for almost a year now due to some issues I had with cutting. I've gotten past that though. Currently, I'm not seeing him because school tennis is taking up much of my time now. I've thought about bringing the subject up, but I felt either too embarrassed or anxious to bring it up. I know that if I brought the subject up, he would mention it to my parents.

I haven't told my parents yet because my Mom has anger issues and because I don't know how my Dad would react. I would really want to start taking hormones, t-blockers, etc., but I'm also worried about what would happen at school. High school is around the corner and my peers are not the most accepting people around.

[Guest Donna Jean]

Hello, Frost!

My turn now!

You are a very smart young person...and this is all very confusing stuff...Please do look around and read...there are so many stories that are like yours that I'm sure that you can take comfort in some of them and maybe get some direction, too...

We're all so different and yet we all cross at a point...and that is our gender ....

We want you to be happy, Dear...listen to some of the really awesome advice.......OK?

Lots of love!

Donna Jean

[Guest Little Sara]

Hi Frost, I hope you find the answers you're looking for.

While a therapist might be able to help you, the answers must come from within. Don't let anyone tell you who or what you are, only you can know that.

[Guest Frost]

I've decided to talk to my therapist about my feelings and see if I try to get some anti-androgens. Then I plan on coming out to my parents.

Also, is there a certain age you must be before being allowed to take hormones? I'd like to take them as quickly as I possibly can so good results are insured.

[Sally]

The age for starting hormones is debated by a number of doctors and will really depend on your doctor.

Love ya,

Sally