New and Scared

[unsung-sovereign]

Hello everyone,

This community seems almost too good to be true. My name is Ksenia. It's not my birth name, but I want to cut ties with my former self. He and I are very different people and I want this to be a fresh start for little ol' me. I want to transition MtF, but I'm still working up the courage to come out to friends. I would say family as well, but I've alienated them already. I didn't have to find myself to know that they aren't good for me. I'm afraid that once I come out, I'll lose a lot. Be prepared for the worst, they say. I know that I'll be happier once I do, however, and once I allow myself to explore this new life I wish to start, it will all be worth it.

Much love to everyone here and all that they do for each other. It is truly wonderful to read all the support that is expressed and practiced here.

Sincerely,

Ksenia

[Dev]

Welcome to Laura's Playground!  I enjoyed talking with you in chat a bit ago, and I'm glad to see you here as well.  I hope that as you take your next steps, whatever they may be, you'll keep us up to date so we can celebrate with you and cheer you on (or up) as needed.

Your friends may well surprise you.  I know when I came out, I lost some very close friends who I had been sure would support me.  But I gained a new close friendship for almost every one I lost, those being people I was certain would walk away but who turned out to be amazingly supportive.

I look forward to seeing you around!

[MaryEllen]

Hello Ksenia,

Welcome to Laura's Playground forums. If you have any questions, feel free to ask. We're here to help.

MaryEllen

[Charlize]

Welcome Ksenia.  I had decided that i would accept whatever came just like you.  Amazingly while it was quite rough to start today my life is better than ever and i'm on the right side of the gender spectrum for a change.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[Guest AshleighP]

Hello and welcome. You are among friends here. The site may seem too good to be true, but it is real and the advice, support, and guidance you will find here is invaluable.

[Timber Wolf]

Hi Ksenia,

 

I know the feeling you have of this being too good to be true. When I first found this site, I remember having to stop reading to do something at work and saying, "Please don't douse this ray of hope."  This site seemed too good to be true, and I was afraid I would find something that deminished it. I haven't found a deminishing element yet! I was given some advice early on, and that was to take it slow and really learn myself. That advice has been some of the best advice I've received. As far as coming out is concerned, I can't promise you that all your friends will accept you as you with open arms. The person I thought of as my best friend, almost a brother, does not accept me as me at all. We have parted ways. But I have survived it, and I have found so many wonderful friends here and in this community. I hope things go better than you could ever dream with your friends, but we're always here to cheer when things do go well, and to give a big hug when they don't. Welcome to Laura's! We never have to be alone again!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf?

[Guest Tamar]

Welcome Ksenia. 

Laura's is an awesome place,to find friends,support,and information. I'm glad you have found it. 

Welcome. 

[MarcieMarie12]

Welcome to Laura's! 

Coming out is not easy, there is a good chance it will change relationships. Some for the better, some for worse. But in the end I found that most of my anxiety went away, and that the realization that others reactions were their own choices and was not my fault. 

Hugs,

Marcie

 

[unsung-sovereign]

Thank you, everyone for the warm welcome and advice! I will try my best to stay in contact and contribute to the forums. I have a good feeling about the future, through all the hardships that are sure to come, I know that I will be happy one way or another. 

 

Best wishes,

Ksenia

[gennee]

Hi Ksenia and welcome to Laura's.

 

[Briana]

Hi Ksenia and welcome!  Based on my experience here I'd say like others above that you've come to a good place to discuss, ask, & learn.  

As for friends, thery're always a little bit of a wild card when you come out and move forward.  Like you said, prepare for the worst.  But, definitely give them a chance.  Sometimes with a little effort on both sides things can work out.  And for those that totally bail...well you just have to let them bail.  Maybe someday they'll come around but if not, it seems best to move on cause new friends always await.  

[Guest]

Welcome to Laura's. Look around for local trans organizations or groups on Google and facebook. New friends that support you are always available. 

-Fiona