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Hi All,

So my Florida driver's license expired back in September...   They are requiring me to go into the DMV to renew because a new photo is required.  I have been terrified about going in because A) I don't want to go in without makeup for the photo. B.) Rejection that I can't take my photo looking like a female and C) I don't want to pay any late fee charges :P   My name hasn't been changed to Milani and my sex still says 'M'

 

Has anyone had any experiences with this?

 

Thanks,

Milani

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Milani, I am not familiar with Florida DMV laws, but I strongly suspect that when you do get your legal name and gender changed via court order, the DMV will take a new photo when you go there to get your new DL.  But please don't put off getting your renewal and risk driving without a valid license.  So just be patient and wait for the right time to take that photo of the real you.   if I know the DMV, you probably won't like the way you look in that photo, anyway.  LOL!

Carolyn Marie

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FL = Court order for name change.

FL = Dr letter for gender change (SRS not required).

Instead of worrying, take action and do take care

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I went into the NJ DOT and got a new photo done prior to my name and gender change.  I made a quick explanation to the lady behind the counter and she was very kind.  Ever since then when i go to that office i have great chats with the folks there.  I guess i was their first trans* license or at least the first one to get a photo looking like a woman and being a man legally.

As an aside i didn't need rouge as my face was a bit red with embarrassment. 

The others are right....get to work and stop worrying.  Things do work out and a bit of embarrassment is livable.  Certainly better that a great deal of embarrassment and a big fine!

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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It's better to be legal than not legal.

My advice would be to get it done with your current legal name, old gender, and go in boymode. Then when the name change is final, go make yourself pretty and go as your true self and update your driver's license with your new name and picture. And then when you have the Dr letter for the gender marker change, go make yourself pretty again and have your license changed to reflect your new gender. 

Again, it's better to be legal than not legal. If your therapist gave you a carry letter, you can always use that if stopped by police if you don't look like your photo. Explaining to the nice police officer why you look female is a lot easier than explaining why you're driving on a suspended license.

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Good advice from Lizzie!

I think it far less of an embarrassment to get the updated license than what may come if you have not got a valid document.

My experience is that people cope well with gender issues, although it will depend somewhat on the local situation. My take these days is to look feminine even if not outright female. With my current hairstyle, for someone of my age, it is very feminine. When I look at my last work ID photo which looks more  'US Marine' the difference is dramatic.

Personally I would just do it with confidence (like taking a nasty medicine).

Tracy

 

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Tracy, you got my funny bone.  Is a 'US Marine' more or less tougher looking than a UK 'Royal Marine'??  LOL  Now I'm wondering... 

Hi Milani, good advice from the above posters for sure.  If you'd like your photo to match the direction you're heading, you could call the state DMV office or the DMV you're planning on going to and explain and ask what their policy is. 

 

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There is probably little difference Briana, but with the greater coverage of your marines in films people are more likely both here and on your side of the pond to realise what I mean. The sorting of new recruits always seems to feature loss of almost all hair :) With a stern looking pose as well, the difference between then and now is more than noticeable!

Tracy

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