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Chided For Not Wearing A Bra -- Good Naturedly Albeit


VickySGV

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A couple of days a week I have breakfast at a local Breakfast / Lunch only diner not far from my house where they have seen me transition over the last five years, All of them on staff know me and we  do have "girl talk" from time to time.  Today one of the waitresses came over to me privately , and said that it had been noticed that I was not wearing a bra regularly, and I should probably go back to wearing one since my nippies were visible under my T shirt, and a couple of customers who do not know my history had said something to her about it.  It was a girl to girl thing, and while I blushed a little, it was heart warming at the same time. It was and is acceptance at its best. 

For heavens sake, I only have B sized boobs on a 42" chest. I am going back to wearing a bra daily again.  SIGH, being a woman is a world of its own.

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I have to get on a friends case about that sometimes. She is a good C, and well it is noticeable when she does not have one on.

 

 

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I'm not large but there is no way I can wear nothing; too much to show.  Its either a sports or regular bra for me.

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 I like showing my high beams. Sometimes just a hint, sometimes "look at these" Dress, formal occasions, work or when completely inappropriate, I hide my girls like a proper lady. I grew them, I'm proud of them. I'm wondering how well my pencil erasers will show when my new "Proud to be a Nasty Women" shirt arrives. Giggle

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Guest noeleena

Hi,

Well I have not worn bra,s for over 4 years and really cant be bothered any more and many times I only have a black silk, top on ,I,m a 41 in  D cup,  and what you see is just normal

many times it a white one and I have some 14 or more white tops nothing else under that them .

nothing is ever said to me about it though then again why would any one Im, a female . so maybe its just normal and accepted , and to tell the truth I never thought about it,

...noeleena...

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I generally do although I physically don't need to but I often wear very close fitting clothes. I am generally accepted round and about but I prefer not to attract too much attention. Going obviously bra-less in our conservative neighbourhood would be noticed!

 

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That's great Vicky she knows you well enough to bring up such things, that's a good friend you have. My wife is usually the first one to tell me I have a fashion "faux pas" happening. 

It's a personal thing, I think about going braless. 

I'm a 38 B and there are some days I do like to go braless, like with certain tops (soft material). 

As far as visibility goes, panty lines are usually a no no, showing bra straps can be considered a no no, showing nipples, well that might bother some folks, it might get you a bit more attention from males....

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I got chided yesterday for wearing my skirt too high at work by one of the other women in the office. I didn't think it was that short, but somehow it shifted from my belly button to below the girls....:poster_oops:

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41 minutes ago, MarcieMarie12 said:

I got chided yesterday for wearing my skirt too high at work by one of the other women in the office. I didn't think it was that short, but somehow it shifted from my belly button to below the girls....:poster_oops:

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Well that moved my skirt just a bit higher than mid thigh, so if I bent over it would have been a show.

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I have to wear a bra 24/7.  I had augmentation surgery and was very happy with a 42D.  Then I gained a little weight mostly in the boobs and now I'm a pretty full 42DD and I need a bra to keep the girls in control.

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