Integration With Possible Passing.

[Guest Jeannine Bean]

Well, I may not be able to pass. My primary obstacle is that I'm severely bald. I want to have FFS, and I hope to do what I need to do to reduce and minimize scarring after surgery, but I don't expect any miracles in my hair. I'm training my voice with dilligence and patience. I feel like I have a lot of control over that outcome so I'm making it as good as I possibly can.

However, I know there are some pretty nice hair systems out there. I'd be comfortable to wear one of those on many occasions, but I know I will continue travelling around Asia, then out through Eastern Europe, down across Romania, through Egypt, then finally to Morocco, continuing to teach English all along the way. Maintaining a hair system under all those conditions seems unlikely. It's actually one reason I'm seriously considering waiting a little longer on SRS too, because dilation in the middle of the Gobi Desert, when travelling as minimal as possible, seems like hell to me...

Still, I actually intend to independently develop my femme persona throughout these situations so... I'll just do what I do. I actually think shaved headed women are almost always incredibly sexy. I haven't seen an example I didn't think looked good. I have every intention of pursuing FFS, and I'm saving aggressively for it. I believe by the end of next year I'll be able to do some or all of what I want. I hope that will help me.

One thing I've been thinking about is the importance of integrating my identity with my life. Unfortunately, without passing, I kind of feel like my best bet is militant gender transgressiveness ... yea, being one of THOSE people, LOL.. It fits me okay, but I don't know how nice it will be.

Also, I can potentially adopt an androgynous status, and just do what I want to do. I feel pretty good about that identity.

Anyways, I'd like to here people's thoughts on integration of identity with "some" passing. I'd also like to hear what people think about a shaved headed Transgendered lady riding her Ninja motorcycle around the back roads of Asia...

Jeannine

PS: I also have this dream of stopping in Shanghai for six months to a year with a nice hair system and a little while after my FFS and teaching English completely stealth. To the Asians, American women look weird anyways, so that helps my pass-ability...

PPS: I never thought about all this before but now I see it's important to an integrated lifestyle, mostly because people aren't comfortable with folks who are ambiguously gendered or too far outside their boxes. And yea, socializing is important!

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Hey Jeannine,

Well I'll give you this... you cetainly have a plan, and that is good. Hon, I would suggest that you simply do and look the way that makes you feel the most comfortable and expresses who you are. People really respond to those who are confident in who they are. You are going to be fine my dear!

LOL

bernii

[Guest Donna Jean]

Jeannine........

Sweetie, I'll have to agree with Bernii...you DO have a plan..and good luck to you with all that you want to accomplish in this world.....

I, personally am a hair person....I've had my hair long since 1973 and I have a long ponytail (16-17") and being 59 it's not as thick as it used to be...but it still works...

But as to the shaved head....I, too think it sexy on a beautiful woman, but I think that it would only work on a feminine face....any less and it would be hard to pass, I think...but, no reason not to go for it along with FFS!

Do what you need to do to make YOU happy!

Bigg Hugg!

Donna Jean

[Guest Neuro]

I think you have a great plan there, Jeannine. I think women without hair are actually, quite sexy... Like Natalie Portman in V for Vendetta.

Americans actually pass fairly well in Asian countries. (men and women). Asia has a thing for androgynous people, at least in Japan where I plan to live and work as a host, or teach English (or both, oh hoh hoh~) Like anywhere, discrimination may be present; but Asia has a pretty good reputation compared to America. Their clubs are amazing <w< I wish you the best of luck on your journey, wherever it may take you.

[Paula ult]

Jeannine, you could give Finasteride a try, it stops DHT which is the more potent part of testosterone that causes hair loss, I don't have allot of hair loss but what i did have is returning. It is usually given to men with prostrate problems to shrink it, i have seen some dramatic results from others using it, and if you are going to be teaching for some time yet why not give it a try. It is a prescription medicine so a doctor will be needed to get it, but a little goes a long way.

Paula

[Guest Nelly]

Hi,

you can do a digital hair cut. I once give me a shaved head in photoshop to see what it looks like. It is easier than I thought. Than you can decied if you like it or not.

I was sometimes in Asia. the people are nice and I think you will only get the normal problems you get as a single traveling woman. In a lot of countries women wearing some kind of head clothing. I think it would help to adjust to the local fem fashion.

I see problems with a wig on a place close to the equator

I would not travel into countries with islamic laws. That can maybe kill you.

Greetings

Nelly

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Against the grain here a bit, maybe... but just a personal opinion.

May talk about androgyousness - many talk about partial transition.

Me? I am a woman, but the body needs some adjustments.

All or nothing - bald head or whatever - I would make it work!

Lizzy

[Guest angie]

All or nothing - bald head or whatever - I would make it work!

Lizzy

Speaking of baldness,

I was wearing a wig for the first six/eight months.Then a Natal man asked me why I didn't just

go with my natural hair?It was to the small of my back,the wig never sit right and shifted at

inopportune times,but I had a monk spot I worried about.Once Joe planted the seed though...

It germinated until one Sunday I went au-naturale and haven't worried about it since.I no longer

have any baldness,HRT took care of that.

Angie

[Sally]

I have a very high hairline one on side - think Higgins on MAGNUM PI - but if I part it in the middle it is only slightly high and I pass rather easily.

I don't look at a girl on a motor bike and think, trans, butch or anything else - most 'gender norms' have been broken down by now and you can get away with any of it that you want to as long as you don't consider it 'wrong' for your new gender.

Love ya,

Sally