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Coming out - so far so good


Cecilia

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I am pretty much complete on my coming out list.

Work - that went exceptionally well.  I am with Dell Technologies,  so followed their Transgender Toolkit to the letter.  I was assigned a wonderful HR Champion and my conversation with my boss went great.  Turns out his daughter is in grad school for psychology and specializing in transgender issues.

Mom - I wrote my mom a long letter (about 2 pages) and she wrote back saying she loves me and supports me 100% in my life and just wants me to be happy.

Dad - he left my Mom when I was 2 and I haven't seen him in 30+ years so I blew him off. 

Children - I did the 6 kids via the same email content I sent my mom.  So far my youngest daughter wrote back saying she supports me (she is LBGT too), my second oldest called me for about an hour and that went well,  and I still am waiting on 3 daughters and a son.  My son texted my wife to ask if he should buy me a pink patriots jersey for Chanukah.  So I am sure he is totally cool with it.   The oldest daughter will be a problem, and one of the middle daughters that is estranged from my wife.   But I am remaining hopeful on those two!

Friends: My three best friends in the world wrote me and one called me.  They were super supportive 100%.  My 2 besties from work sent me wonderful letters of response to my big 2 pager,  and one called.  I think one of my besties was kind of hinting he would date me.  LOL   he's such a cutie.

Neighbors - my trusty sidekick and his wife that are always helping me with the farm wrote back nice letters and texted me on Facebook.  They are 100% supportive.  My other neighbor going through a divorce was silent, as was his son.  I told them on Facebook and didn't send them the 2 pager.

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Congratulations Cecilia you should feel more free now. Coming out process is mentally very hard and tiring. But it worth it.

The best is now waiting for you. At first people would perhaps needs some time to adapt. You will still hear false pronoun or your dead name for a while. 

Soon you will be able to meet the persons you like and they will treat you like the woman you are! And this is priceless heaven. It's your reward. 

 

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Good for you, Cecilia! I know you were worried about not hearing back right away. It sounds like things have gone pretty well today!

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you on your oldest and middle daughter. :groupwavereversed:

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33 minutes ago, SugarMagnolia said:

Good for you, Cecilia! I know you were worried about not hearing back right away. It sounds like things have gone pretty well today!

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you on your oldest and middle daughter. :groupwavereversed:

 

Oldest and middle chimed in,  so now down to 1 daughter and 1 son left to connect with me (4 down, 2 to go!).   I'm feeling pretty good overall about my last daughter;  but I am concerned about my son. I have a weird feeling about him for some reason.  Maybe it's just me being insecure. 

 

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Sounds wonderful Cecilia!  And don't worry too much about your son.  I think it's hard for male children to get their heads around the concept - the idea that their dad is a woman now.  You'd think I'd be completely fine and accepting with it but I've thought about it in the past - trying to conceptualize my farther transitioning to a woman.  I'd have a great big struggle with it. 

Likewise, I'm sure it's difficult for girls when their mom transition's to a man for some of the same reasons.  All in all, it sounds like things went really well for you which is fantastic.  :-)

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Cecilia it took my son awhile to adjust.  He has and we are perhaps closer than ever.  Give him time.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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He wrote me a few sentences via text yesterday.   First he texted my wife after reading my coming out letter.  I am paraphrasing,  but he said something like "Should I get Dad a pink Ladies Patriots jersey for Chanukkah?"  We love the Patriots NFL team and he buys me jerseys or hoodies when Christmastime comes around.   I wrote him back saying "Mom said you were shopping for a pink Pats jersey for me.  That's so sweet! Please do 4x so I have room for my bewbies".   Then silence for a few days.  Then last night he wrote "I have read your email. It's a lot to process. A bit bizarre, but I will reach out to you.  I'll have to obviously before coming up in the fall".     He lives in GA and we live in NY.    Not a great set of texts going back and forth;  but I guess I should be happy there is a line of communication, right?

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