How to talk correctly?

[Sophah]

Hello dear Forum Readers. I have a Question about the right talking. So, when you talk, i heard you have to talk more melodic, and such. But, how do you correctly do that? For example, should you just go up and down while speaking?

And are there any ways of Controlling that? So like, checking if you talk right?

Are there any ways to practise that? So, like, practising the fluent speaking?

 

[MaryEllen]

You can find a lot of good advice here. https://www.google.com/search?q=Transgender-gaining+a+female+voice&rlz=1C1AVNC_enUS679US679&oq=Transgender-gaining+a+female+voice&aqs=chrome..69i57.25852j0j4&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

MaryEllen

[Sakura]

I have told many a trans lady over the years. That voice and speaking correctly comes with time and practice. By practice I mean real world practice. Practicing by your self at home is fine but when it has to work to keep from outting your self it shapes its self and becomes more natrual and will take on its own uniqueness.

[tracy_j]

I would agree.

I found it one thing to change my voice in private, but yet another to change it in the stress of a genuine real world communication. My voice just failed! I am not sure that it is very female at the moment but know female company and the natural (if slow) adaption to the way they speak is changing things.

Tracy

[Guest Rachel Gia]

I worked for a while on the various techniques I found online and aside from them greatly helping me as a singer most of the work seems to using my preferred voice in daily situations even when I am presently not so trans fem which is mostly how I present even though I have been on HRT for a while now.

As I was learning I started thinking about what I wanted to sound like and even moreso what I didn't want to sound like. Since I have a rather hi midrange voice and have spent most of my life trying to get .more resonance for singing and basic conversation the last thing I realized I did not want to send my centre back up into my nose where it was many years ago.

As was said in other posts I think it's something one just gradually works on and you know you're getting there when you do it when you don't necessarily want to. 

I have read that choice of words is almost as important as pitch and tone and believe this to be true.

ie "Thank you so much!" as apposed to "Thanks."

I met a Trans woman in a support group and her voice was amazing and sealed the deal so I know it's doable for those who work at it. I commented on how wonderful her voice was and she said she had worked a lot on it.

Cheers 

CR

[Jani]

As they say Practice!  But this is an important point that Cerise makes

32 minutes ago, Cerise said:

As I was learning I started thinking about what I wanted to sound like and even moreso what I didn't want to sound like.

I don't want that typical falsetto voice so i practice altering my natural tone with more words

33 minutes ago, Cerise said:

ie "Thank you so much!" as apposed to "Thanks."

and letting my cadence roll up and down instead of the old monotone delivery I used to have.   And most important, I smile while I speak to others and that really helps with acceptance.

Jani

[VickySGV]

7 hours ago, Jani423 said:

And most important, I smile while I speak to others and that really helps with acceptance.

This is a tremendous point to make here!!  Even if you are not smiling with your lips upturned, your voice can still smile.