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Guest Emily H

Hi,

My girlfriend lives in Canada, and I don't. Enough of that though.

I told her before, a long time ago, about me wearing girl stuff every now and then, and they was she took it, was that it was something I did when I was younger but really won't do now. And I remember her saying "I have done weirder things, don't worry".

Another time I said something about my skin not looking as pale as it did in the pictures I sent her. I remember her saying "Good. because ugh, I wouldn't want you feminine, I want you to be my man :)"

now today she said something about how she hated skirts, she'd prefer dresses or short shorts. Oh how I'd love to chide in, argue over how dresses are the best, skirts second, short shorts third, but...I'm worried she'd think it was weird, fi she realized, her boyfriend DOES still wear bras and panties sometimes...

I'm wondering if i could tell her...I'm thinking when I told her about it more seriously, I must say I just be this way by myself, I love her, I have no interests in anyone but her, my love, and that I am still the man she knows me as, this is just something I do on the side.

Any advice?

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Guest April63

If you tell her and she dumps you, move on to someone else.If she keeps you, congrats.

If you ever actually get together (physically), she'll have to find out, but if you're planning on keeping this relationship long distance, then there's really no rush to tell her these things.

April

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Guest Ryles_D

I think you should tell her. Even if she isn't accepting, isn't it better to know now then spend all that time on energy on someone who can't accept all of you? And if you ever do meet, it'll be easier if she's known for a long time and had plenty of time to process it instead of finding out when she first meets you.

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Guest Donna Jean

Hey, some Guy.....

It sounds to me that you're a cross dresser....Is that the case...not really Trans?

If so, the biggest percentage of male cross dressers are hetrosexual....They don't want to chand gender and they just have a strong feminine side that needs expressing once in a while...

Heck you can be a manly man and yet cross dress...Just look at J. Edgar Hoover..the past director of the FBI...

He was said to cross dress and it didn't affect his regular life at all!

So if that's your situation....April is right...no big rush!

Good luck, Hon!

Donna Jean

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Guest Evan_J
If you tell her and she dumps you, move on to someone else.If she keeps you, congrats.

If you ever actually get together (physically), she'll have to find out, but if you're planning on keeping this relationship long distance, then there's really no rush to tell her these things.

April

For once me and April agree :) April have a smoothie (or some other beverage) on me :P

Everyone else? Grab an umbrella. The world is coming to an end lol. (oh c'mon April, you know me, it was coming)

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Guest Ashlee

<as I stand under the umbrella... ;) >

I too agree with April, better for her to know now and you both can either move together with your lives or find someone else.

Ashlee

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