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Hello,

 

It looks, like my old post is missing! So I will introduce myself once again:

 

My name is Michelle Koleva (preferred since child)

 

I am 34. I was born in Ruse, Bulgaria, studied my master degree (psychology) in Veliko Turnovo and now I am living and working in the Capitol - Sofia!

 

I am engaged. I don't have children. Just a sweet little, biting puppy (she totally fills the role of a child).

 

I started to cope with my Gender Disphoria at age 4-5. I deal with it alone, most of the time, secretly wanting to be m-complete-self. The bad news is that it's sort of visible in my manners, my voice, that the things are not exactly how they are looking like. So, I regularly received insults, like '-awesome person-', 'you are acting like woman', etc. It was sad for me because I didn't do it with even 100% consciously. I got angry, because I thought, that this is not any of some strangers business. I even became a little homophobic, back there!

 

In May, 2017 I started my HRT. I am still looking forward to enjoy my physical transformation. Mentally -  I was and still am an overemotional, feminine in many cases, so I can feel the difference. I am happy that the anti-androgen is blocking my body-hair quick growth, and my breast is hurting whole get sort of humble. (that is very important biographically) :D;) 

 

I hope to have SRS and FFS in the future. Of course I have a dream about where they will happened, as the one is looking like doomed (the SRS one). 

 

Meanwhile I am participating in some activism. I am the founder of one small group for support in Facebook. Now we are working on a project for community building and virtual resource center.

 

So that's all, folks! 

(If you find somehow my post from Laura's Forum I just want to apologize for repeating myself) 

 

Love and Respect,

Shell

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Welcome to Trans Pulse, Shelly.  We don't have many members from Eastern Europe, so its especially nice to have you here.

 

Congrats on the HRT!  Yes, the changes will start happening more noticeably now, and it really is something to look forward to.  Those little pains mean progress, and you'll find it a wonderful experience.

 

I know resources are hard to find in your area, and you should be very proud of your efforts to make such resources and support available to people in your community.  You are doing a great service,

 

I look forward to hearing more about you and from you.  I hope you participate in the forums often.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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Welcome back Shelly! It is great (and brave) that you are getting into activism. I have more than a few friends that work with or have volunteered with the  Transgender rights and advocacy groups in the DC area. BTW, as a psychologist, have you thought about being a gender therapist?

 

Hugs,

Marcie

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Hello Shelly and welcome back.   Its good to hear from you.  That's exciting that you were able to start HRT.  By now you are hopefully past some of the initial pain from growth spurts.  It will subside.  

 

That's great that you are working on an online resource center.  I am sure it is hard to find information in your part of Europe.  Be safe.

 

Jani

 

 

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About the Gender therapist role!

 

I thought and I am still thinking a lot about it! I am currently reading Dara Hoffman-Fox book 'You and your gender: A guide to discovery' and I am trying to learn as more and much as I can. One of the problems in my home country is that we are not having that qualification (Bulgaria, you get the picture), but I am trying to be supportive as much as I can. Sometimes it's really hard, because you are left unappreciated (I am not talking about gratitude at all). Your attempts are not taken seriously by the young people in here, for example. They want you just to tell the HRT dosage and then to leave, without being clear and honest with themselves.

 

Love and Respect,

Shell

 

 

 

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Welcome Shelly. Glad you've joined us here.  Many here seem to dislike the fact that it is difficult to get HRT.  I'm happy for the restrictions and medical support.  HRT is potentially dangerous.

How are you enjoying the Hoffman-Fox book?

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Hi Michelle! Really nice to hear from you. Good to hear you are on HRT, it's an important decision and a big step!

 

All The Best,

Sunny Kay

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