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Came out at work a lot sooner than I planned...

Shiratori

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Had an interesting experience at my new job. I told my boss that I'd need to take a day off every few months for a hospital appointment and that I'd also be late in a couple of days every 3 months due to a nurse appointment and a blood test. I kept it deliberately vague as I wasn't ready to let them know that I'm trans yet (still presenting male 100% of the time until the HRT works its magic and I start getting male-fail).

 

My boss is also new to the company so he didn't know what the procedure would be in this case so he went and asked the HR department and I was called in for a little chat to sort things out. The HR lady is very nice and explained that it wouldn't be a problem but that I'd have to show my boss the letter for the hospital appointments just to show that I wasn't trying to cheat the company out of an extra day off. I asked her if it would be acceptable for me to just show the letter to HR instead of my boss as it was quite personal (it's my GIC appointments). She asked me if I'd like to have a chat without my boss present and I said yes, so he left. 

 

Well, basically I ended up coming out to HR a whole lot sooner than I'd planned, but it went really well. I told her that I only statrted HRT a couple of months ago and that any changes would take a while so for the time being no-one would be anythe wiser. She was really nice about it and said that the owners of the company arevery big on equality and that I'll get all the support I need when the time comes. Apparently I'm not the first person to transition on the job in the history of the company, which is nice to know.

 

Also, apparently a couple of months before I started the owners had started making plans for a transgender speaker to come in and do a presentation to educate the staff on trans issues so I gave the HR lady the details of an FTM friend of mine who does public speaking on this very subject so hopefully he'll get some work out of the deal.

 

TL;DR - Came out to HR department and it went way better than I expected. :)

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Very good.  I'm glad it went well for you.  Having an understanding and supportive employer is certainly a bonus.

 

Congratulations.

 

Jani

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     I am very happy for you it is very important to know you are accepted at work as much of our social interaction is there and it is the source of our financial stability  and this will remove much stress from your life

 

     bobbisue:)

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BrandiBri Ruthenium Member

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That's good news. I'm going to talk to HR at a company

about some issues I have with my application for part time employment. I spoke with the manager earlier about being trans and she said, no problem. She said that there are already two transgender employees working there.

 

Hugs,

Brandi

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SugarMagnolia Germanium Member

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That's great! I'm in the process of doing that myself and it's encouraging to read your news!

Hugs,
Julie

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BrandiBri Ruthenium Member

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It's wonderful to see that companies are beginning to open up to the trans* community.

 

Brandi

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Jennylynn Senior Member

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That's awesome that it went well! I'm dealing with much the same in my job change!

 

Hugs!

Jenny

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Charlize Rhodium Member

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Congratulations.  Your honesty and openness has certainly served you well!  That must be a great weight off of your mind.

Try not to smile all the time.  I know that would be my reaction.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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That makes me so happy! Congratulations! :D

 

Lots of love, :rolleyes:

 

Brenden McCormick 

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