HI I’m Ade

[Jani]

You should definitely inform your spouse of what is going on.  As painful as it may seem it is the proper thing to do.  The longer you wait the worse it will be because she will rightly say you've been hiding or lying.   Your marriage is a partnership.  

 

Jani

[Guest Ade6589]

Just now, Jani said:

You should definitely inform your spouse of what is going on.  As painful as it may seem it is the proper thing to do.  The longer you wait the worse it will be because she will rightly say you've been hiding or lying.   Your marriage is a partnership.  

 

Jani

Yes I know what your saying 

but I’m sure it’s over as inside I’m gay and she’s a woman 

so I guess I’m running the risk of losing her and that’s why I’m not telling her 

[Daisy Mae]

Just now, Ade6589 said:

And what did that intale ?

I shaved  my chest recently too but after I read it’s better to wax or have lazer 

First I had to go through hormone therapy and intense therapy before the therapist and two doctors signed off that I was emotionally ready for the surgery. It wasn't just saying I'm going to get this done and going to a surgeon and setting it up. As for the procedure what the surgeon does is removes the testicles and most of the penis.The urethra is cut much shorter. The skin is used to produce a fully functional vagina. Part of the penis is use to make a neoclitoris for sensation. After that and all the swelling goes down and soreness from the surgery you have a fully functional vagina which is very sensitive. 

[Daisy Mae]

Just now, Ade6589 said:

No she knows nothing I keep them locked up safe so she won’t see them 

she knows from when we met that I had small boobs but excepted them but I always hide from her as I wasunt proud of them covered in hair 

I haven’t had sex with her in 5 years eithier 

I know she’s having sex 

 

You stated you are interested in men and you say your wife is having sex. Do you think it would be best for the both of you to go your separate ways?

[Guest Ade6589]

Wow that’s sounds absolutely perfect I think that step will be in later years 

but yes I’m only a month in on this and loving every bit 

[Daisy Mae]

Just now, Ade6589 said:

Yes I know what your saying 

but I’m sure it’s over as inside I’m gay and she’s a woman 

so I guess I’m running the risk of losing her and that’s why I’m not telling her 

I guess I am fully not understand the situation. I understand she is your wife and there must be some attachment to her even if it is not romantically. I just don't think it is fair to the both of you to keep going this way. I agree with you that sooner or later she is going to leave.

[Guest Ade6589]

6 minutes ago, Daisy Mae said:

The last procedure I had done was the the transgender reassignment surgery. 

And what did that intale ?

I shaved  my chest recently too but after I read it’s better to wax or have m

Just now, Daisy Mae said:

I guess I am fully not understand the situation. I understand she is your wife and there must be some attachment to her even if it is not romantically. I just don't think it is fair to the both of you to keep going this way. I agree with you that sooner or later she is going to leave.

Yes but honestly our marrrage is already over so I’m prepared for that we have a home together and two kids 

[Daisy Mae]

Just now, Ade6589 said:

Wow that’s sounds absolutely perfect I think that step will be in later years 

but yes I’m only a month in on this and loving every bit 

Like I said that was the last step for me and it took the most time to fully get through with all the therapy and what not. I had never engaged in sex as a male because even though I was attracted to males I did not identify as gay and could not be in a romantic homosexual relationship. Now when I am with a man in a sexual relationship it feels so right and wonderful. Whenever I am starting a relationship with a man the first thing I tell them is I was born a male and I am fully transitioned. You'd be surprised that I have never had a guy look at me as some freak. 

[Guest Ade6589]

Aw that’s good babe 

so u woukdunt know it sex was better as a f or a m 

see where I know I’m gay as I’ve been with guys since I was 24

i got very emotionally involved with a guy around a year ago 

we were sleeping together regularly 

[Daisy Mae]

Just now, Ade6589 said:

And what did that intale ?

I shaved  my chest recently too but after I read it’s better to wax or have m

Yes but honestly our marrrage is already over so I’m prepared for that we have a home together and two kids 

I understand the kids part to some extent, but you also have to look out for your own well being.

 

Also I didn't answer your shaving question. Do not shave your chest. When you shave any area of your body it will only come back thicker. Waxing is a cheaper but more painful method and the hair will still come back after a longer period of time. Laser Treatment is expensive and it isn't just one treatment that will get rid of the hair for good. I was lucky as I was always blonde and had fine hair and hardly any body hair at all other than my underarms and slightly on my legs.

[Daisy Mae]

Just now, Ade6589 said:

Aw that’s good babe 

so u woukdunt know it sex was better as a f or a m 

see where I know I’m gay as I’ve been with guys since I was 24

i got very emotionally involved with a guy around a year ago 

we were sleeping together regularly 

Yes, I only know sex as a female and I love it. 

[Guest Ade6589]

Thanks yeah I read that waxing or lazer is better

i do plan on getting a full body waxing soon too and I need a new bra as their growing fast lol 

[Daisy Mae]

Go to a Salon Spa that offers Champagne or Wine and drink up. You will need it especially for those sensitive areas.

 

If you have Victoria Secret's in your area I would recommend going there for the bras.

[Guest Ade6589]

Thanks for your advice why go their do u cater for m to f breasts 

yes champanys looks a nice spa too 

but need to get away alone soon 

[Guest Ade6589]

I’ve read that soya milk helps the growth is that true 

asbive also been drinking that a cup a day for a month too

[Guest Ade6589]

2 minutes ago, Daisy Mae said:

Yes, I only know sex as a female and I love it. 

That’s good to here

do have female orgasms 

ir do u squirt etc 

[Daisy Mae]

32 minutes ago, Ade6589 said:

That’s good to here

do have female orgasms 

ir do u squirt etc 

Like anyone reaching orgasm it is different in what makes it happen. After reassignment surgery the clitoris and labia are made with the tissue that is most sensitive for the most part. So right there it is a positive feeling. Self pleasure at first took some time just finding the right spots that made me feel really good. Think a preteen girl and the first time masturbating. Many times I would have to stop because I have to pee. After awhile that got better. Sex was also the same. It was just having the guy find the right spot. There has been times I have had OK sex and others I have had wonderful sex. In the end it is sex and that is a good thing. The whole process of being held by a man and kissed and touched all over makes it the best. 

[Guest Ade6589]

Just now, Daisy Mae said:

Like anyone reaching orgasm it is different in what makes it happen. After reassignment surgery the clitoris and labia are made with the tissue that is most sensitive for the most part. So right there it is a positive feeling. Self pleasure at first took some time just finding the right spots that made me feel really good. Think a preteen girl and the first time masturbating. Many times I would have to stop because I have to pee. After awhile that got better. Sex was also the same. It was just having the guy find the right spot. There has been times I have had OK sex and others I have had wonderful sex. In the end it is sex and that is a good thing. The whole process of being held by a man and kissed and touched all over makes it the best. 

Aw i bet baby 

it’s really interesting chatting with you thanks for replying you looking great in your pic too 

I’m still like a man really just with slightly larger boobs 

I enjoy running too so I’m staying slim and I’m drinking soya milk daily 

my boobs felt good earlier out in the sun with just a thong on i guess I’m confident when it comes to life in general and being naked 

I served 12 years in the army and had to hide being gay As i wouldn’t of got in 

lifes been a roller coaster to be fair 

but I’m here now I’m 40 and going the whole way with this change. 

but I won’t rush 

 

[Daisy Mae]

Just now, Ade6589 said:

Aw i bet baby 

it’s really interesting chatting with you thanks for replying you looking great in your pic too 

I’m still like a man really just with slightly larger boobs 

I enjoy running too so I’m staying slim and I’m drinking soya milk daily 

my boobs felt good earlier out in the sun with just a thong on i guess I’m confident when it comes to life in general and being naked 

I served 12 years in the army and had to hide being gay As i wouldn’t of got in 

lifes been a roller coaster to be fair 

but I’m here now I’m 40 and going the whole way with this change. 

but I won’t rush 

 

I am also 40 and I knew from an early age that I was a female in a male bodies. I also think during your transitioning process it is very important to stay as healthy as possible. So continue with that running and eating healthy as you go along. Trust me, you will become more and more comfortable with who you are and soon you will be going out in dresses and skirts and thinking nothing of it. Be proud of who you are. You also said something really important do not rush it. The reassignment surgery they won't practically allow you to rush it with the therapists and all the doctors appointments you have to go to before the actual surgery so you won't be rushing once that comes.

[Guest Ade6589]

Just now, Daisy Mae said:

I am also 40 and I knew from an early age that I was a female in a male bodies. I also think during your transitioning process it is very important to stay as healthy as possible. So continue with that running and eating healthy as you go along. Trust me, you will become more and more comfortable with who you are and soon you will be going out in dresses and skirts and thinking nothing of it. Be proud of who you are. You also said something really important do not rush it. The reassignment surgery they won't practically allow you to rush it with the therapists and all the doctors appointments you have to go to before the actual surgery so you won't be rushing once that comes.

Thanks for the information 

how long id it take ur breasts to fully devolved 

and did u go for more enhancement after?

my hips have slightly changed too as when I first wore lingerie they did not look that good 

but now starting to fit better

my penis is not getting hard eithier but to be fair I’ve not been interested lol

[Daisy Mae]

Just now, Ade6589 said:

Thanks for the information 

how long id it take ur breasts to fully devolved 

and did u go for more enhancement after?

my hips have slightly changed too as when I first wore lingerie they did not look that good 

but now starting to fit better

my penis is not getting hard eithier but to be fair I’ve not been interested lol

Ade to answer your question I suppose that all depends on the person. As for me what happened first was I lost weight in the shoulders, back, and especially the hips in the first 4 months. When I say lost weight I mean a considerable amount. In the first 3 months of HRT I started noticing some changes but nothing extremely drastic. Around 6-8 months of HRT treatments my breasts were a pretty nice size and the nipples seemed to stay erect quite often which was awkward. Around 1 year was when I think they were fully developed. I then did go and get them enhanced because I am rather tall and it makes them look more proportional. My hips have changed also because of the HRT and the weight loss so that is not something unusual. Have you ever noticed those Transgender MTF models with waists and hips smaller than most birth females? 

[Guest Ade6589]

Just now, Daisy Mae said:

Ade to answer your question I suppose that all depends on the person. As for me what happened first was I lost weight in the shoulders, back, and especially the hips in the first 4 months. When I say lost weight I mean a considerable amount. In the first 3 months of HRT I started noticing some changes but nothing extremely drastic. Around 6-8 months of HRT treatments my breasts were a pretty nice size and the nipples seemed to stay erect quite often which was awkward. Around 1 year was when I think they were fully developed. I then did go and get them enhanced because I am rather tall and it makes them look more proportional. My hips have changed also because of the HRT and the weight loss so that is not something unusual. Have you ever noticed those Transgender MTF models with waists and hips smaller than most birth females? 

Yes I’ve seen them many times lol 

thankyou for taking the time to chat as you can I have a face pic up now and I’m still very much a man lol

ive realy noticed the changes in me but I will as I’m really looking and intrigued in how I’m changing 

ive had a crap day today but this has certainly cheered me up and it’s great to chat to you and other on here 

everyone is so supportive !

just felt down until I got picked up by you guys lol 

[Daisy Mae]

Just now, Ade6589 said:

Yes I’ve seen them many times lol 

thankyou for taking the time to chat as you can I have a face pic up now and I’m still very much a man lol

ive realy noticed the changes in me but I will as I’m really looking and intrigued in how I’m changing 

ive had a crap day today but this has certainly cheered me up and it’s great to chat to you and other on here 

everyone is so supportive !

just felt down until I got picked up by you guys lol 

Hey, no problem at all. I have been down that road many times before. That is one of the main reasons I joined here is to possibly help and cheer up other members who just might be going through a rough day. 

[Guest Ade6589]

Aw thanks 

it’s good to know that you know everything I’m going through and exactly how I’m feeling with ups and downs  

I know one day I will be where I want to be as a woman it’s a very exciting experience so far and I can’t wait to live as woman and have a partner 

but first I have a wife and kids to deal with lol 

 

[Daisy Mae]

38 minutes ago, Ade6589 said:

Aw thanks 

it’s good to know that you know everything I’m going through and exactly how I’m feeling with ups and downs  

I know one day I will be where I want to be as a woman it’s a very exciting experience so far and I can’t wait to live as woman and have a partner 

but first I have a wife and kids to deal with lol 

 

Definitely take care of your family first while you are transitioning. They will always be a part of your life especially your kids.

You will love your life as a woman.