Realization of Coming Out

[Raven1981]

Well, I have noticed since coming out that I feel that I made a mistake coming out to the wrong people.  There is one person who I came out to that said they support me and they are there for me but now all of a sudden they are not and they are saying I am not a woman I a man and then turned around and instead of calling me by my name that I would like to be called, the individual called me by my birth name.  I should have seen this from this individual 8 years ago before transitioning how I asked them to take me out shopping and doing all things girly and this person said back then they would not take their son out to shop for women's clothes or see their son in women's clothes.  Well, 8 years later I thought I was safe coming out to them but it seems like I was not safe with how they do not want to acknowledge me as a girl.

 

However, I do have some good news.  I did come out to my grandparents on my dad's side and they are very accepting.  In fact they told me that they knew for a quite a bit of years.  When I asked them how did they know.  They told me that when they came to visit me and took me out or when on vacation and were out how females would come up next to me and that I would not even flinch or bat an eye at them.  Plus how they noticed that I would not look at girls the same way as guys but weather in a way of wishing I could wear that, or that looks pretty.  When they took me out shopping, they noticed that I was always hesitant to go into the guys section and that I was always glancing over at the girls section.

 

So I realized that one person I came out to actually was uncomfortable with me.  But the fact that my grandparents are fully accepting and how they knew.

 

Lot of Love

 

Amy

[jae bear]

I totally get it Amy, My kids are giving me sooo much grief about it right now, even my ex wife chewed my ear off for a couple hours! I am glad your grandparents get it, any support and love is better than grief and petty behavior.

Hugs,

Jae

[BrandiBri]

I'm glad your grandparents are good with your transition. It is weird how some people can read you and others can't, and then go sideways on you after the news sinks in. Just focus on the positive and let the negative roll off your back. I realize that might be hard to do, but remember that your friend's reaction is not your fault and is their problem. You have no control how people think about you. You are doing what you are for yourself, not them.

Hang in there sweetheart

 

Hugs, 

Brandi

[Jani]

Amy you have wonderful, insightful grandparents.  Cross that "friend" off your list. 

 

Jani

[Raven1981]

Hello All

 

Thank you for all your support and help.  You all have been the greatest friends and understanding.  

 

So I have some sad news.  Thought my grandparents were understanding and ok with me coming out, but it looks like they turned around and wrote me off.  I guess the price to pay for my feelings and transitioning.  So guess I am alone now and on my own.

 

Lots of love

 

Amy

[BrandiBri]

Amy, I'm so sorry to hear that. It seems that this is a common reaction, as others have stated that their friends have done the same. You are NOT alone, we are here and will never leave you. I realize that we may never meet irl, but we do have your back. Hang in there, sister, you are bound to meet new friends as time goes by.

 

Hugs,

Brandi

[Charlize]

Amy i would give it some time.  I've found that as time passes and others realize that you are still the same person they can come around and although things may change a relationship continues.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[Jani]

I'm sorry to hear this also.  Give them some time. 

 

Jani

[Raven1981]

Thank you all.  I am not going to respond and just going to it time.  Just today, I am feeling down.  

 

Lots of Love

 

Amy