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Is there a great book for "learning to be and accept yourself transgender" that you recommend?


LucyTheSorceress

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I'm looking for a book that goes into detail the way I feel, how to act as a woman and how to accept myself for who I am.

 

If anyone has a great book for something along this line, please let me know.

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I don't have any suggestions at this time concerning a book, but as to how to act womanly look around you.  Women come in all personalities, styles and manners.  Sit on a park bench with a coffee and people watch.  See how they carry themselves while they walk.  Women will be more expressive in movement than men.  They may walk a little slower and tend to flow rather than use the short brusque steps men take.   Look, learn, then apply.  Just don't over exaggerate. 

 

Accepting oneself is a matter of time and gaining confidence in who you are.  It will come!  

Jani

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You are actually looking at a whole library wing of stuff there, not a single "magick" book with all the answers.  The two authors that first come to my mind are Jennifer Finney Boylan and Janet Mock, and both have several books to their names.  Trans Bodies, Trans Selves is an anthology of writings and analyses by and for Trans folks.  On the "how to" line there is Miss Vera's School For Boys Who Want To Be Girls, by Veronica Vera who has run an actual cross dressing "academy" for many years,  although it is a bit on the fetish side.

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Early on I found the following books to be helpful just in terms of things I hadn't thought about...kind of overviews, I suppose. Vicky listed some great ones that are more in line with what I ultimately found helpful - focused more on my thoughts than my presentation.

Transgender 101 by Nicholas Teich
The Transgender Guidebook by Anne Boedecker

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Julie ( sugarMagnolia )once gave me a short list of books, and I found three of them on Amazon and purchased them. The first one I read cover to cover without stopping and I really loved it, it was Jenny Boylan‘s book ‘she’s not there’, and I found it had many parallel aspects about Jennys story and the way that I grew up and felt, so in the respect that I understood Jenny because I understood myself... that helped me understand myself better as trans. There’s not a lot there about how to be trans or how to be a woman, but it certainly helps anyone looking to understand their identity. 

 Thank you Julie for this recommendation as I have thoroughly enjoyed reading that book and have already passed it along to another friend, I am now reading Helen Boyd’s book ‘she’s not the man I married,’ I got it for my wife but I have started reading it myself and have found it a valuable insight to the perspective of one’s spouse, I had no idea just how ridiculous it is for our spouses to except what’s happening to us and how crazy it is for them to go along for the ride. Again Julie thank you, you’re an amazing asset to this forum and a wonderful friend! Helen Boyd‘s book she’s not the man I married, I got it for my wife but have started reading it myself and have found it a valuable insight to the perspective of one’s spouse, I had no idea just how ridiculous it is for our spouses to except what’s happening to us and how crazy it is for them to go along for the ride. Again Julie thank you, you’re an amazing asset to this forum and a wonderful friend 

 Hugs, 

Jackie

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Oh how weird, my post had a text echo! I don't know if that is just an iPhone thing but I notice my voice to text feature often doubles up and causes a text string to repeat... Does that happen to anyone else?

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Throwing in one more Sarah McBride's Tomorrow Will Be Different is a wonderful young woman.

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