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1 hour ago, Willow said:

Good morning everyone.

 

well, today isn't my Friday, it’s a Saturday.  I get 6 Saturdays and one Sunday every week.

Willow,

 

You are my Queen, I'm so looking forward to the day my calendar reads as yours does. April 8, 2023.

 

Love your writings,

 

Mindy???

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1 hour ago, JustineM said:

Do you think this a little over the top just to go get lab work done? Lol 

 

OH well. Got to get this done so I can get my coffee!  Have a wonderful day everyone 

Looks great,

 

Good morning Justine,

 

Mindy???

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@Mmindy thank you!  I’m glad I can add to your day.  I don’t always have much new to add.  In fact often times I start writing something and wind up deleting it or rewriting it when I don’t think it really works for the message I want to send.  Then again, I’ve still put my foot in the muck a few times without intent.

 

take care, be safe and keep us all together.

 

Hugs

 

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11 hours ago, Willow said:

In fact often times I start writing something and wind up deleting it or rewriting it when I don’t think it really works for the message I want to send.  Then again, I’ve still put my foot in the muck a few times without intent.

 

I do this all the time even if it's just a sentence.

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Good morning everyone! Had a small breakthrough with my wife this week. We did some online clothes shopping together earlier this week. First time I didn’t have to hide clothes shopping from my wife (at her request after I came out). Bought several cute tops. The first arrived yesterday with a bunch of my wife’s stuff. Tried it on and while she wasn’t anywhere near as excited as I was, she did provide me with some feedback. So put this one down as a small win. ?

 

Happy Friday everyone! Hugs!

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that is amazing...great news....my wife has not seen me enfemme yet and i hope eventually she will share helping me develop my own style clothing, i sure could use her help although it is coming. 

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Great break through Sara.

 

Kymmie

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Awesome news to read Sara. It's totally awesome when your sweetie participates in the wardrobe choices. That is a win, a big win !!

 

Very happy for ya

 

Hugs

 

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Good morning everyone 

 

I hope you are staying safe and healthy.

 

Sara my wife and I went shopping together the first time before I went out in public.  We have continued to do so ever since.  We wear similar sizes so we do occasionally trade, or if she orders something online and it doesn’t fit, I get it.  Sometimes it won’t fit either of us and it just isn’t worth trying to return it so we donate it.  
 

the only problem I get is the occasional complaint about spending, but I guess that’s pay back for all the years that roll was reversed.  Glad you are making progress with your wife.

 

Willow

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Thanks everyone! She's far from ready to see me in a dress, but it's still progress. :) Didn't think I'd ever get this far with her, just a couple weeks ago.

 

Willow, I do a bunch of online surveys and focus groups to earn gift cards for Visa, MC or Amazon, I use that to pay for clothes and makeup, so she can't complain about the spend, even though I make 2x what she makes and buy a lot less clothes than she does. Also, feel guilty spending money, as I have a wardrobe of clothes, guys clothes, but still they're functional.

 

We are also similar in size for tops, she is more endowed but, my chest is larger, so it evens out. While we take the same pant size in width, my inseam has many inches on hers, so her pants are capris on me. Hopefully at some point she feels comfortable enough to at least swap tops from time to time. Her style is different than mine, but she has some cute ones I wouldn't mind wearing. Baby steps though.

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wow - how do you find the surveys - I'd love to earn a little extra money for all the lovely items I have been buying lately.

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Shay, I find them online. Belong to groups like Ipsos. Most of the sites I do surveys for are Canadian, but there are definitely ones for US folks, just google online marketing surveys and I am sure you'll find some. I do a lot of them while sitting in front of the TV in the evening.

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4 hours ago, SaraAW said:

Good morning everyone! Had a small breakthrough with my wife this week. We did some online clothes shopping together earlier this week. First time I didn’t have to hide clothes shopping from my wife (at her request after I came out). Bought several cute tops. The first arrived yesterday with a bunch of my wife’s stuff. Tried it on and while she wasn’t anywhere near as excited as I was, she did provide me with some feedback. So put this one down as a small win. ?

 

Happy Friday everyone! Hugs!

That's awesome Sara!  I'm just in the beginning and haven't come out to my wife yet but being able to clothes shop with her is a dream. #jealous #excitedforyou

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4 hours ago, SaraAW said:

So put this one down as a small win.

That's GREAT! SaraAW, I'm so happy that you and your wife are making small steps forward.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy???

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4 hours ago, Shay said:

that is amazing...great news....my wife has not seen me enfemme yet and i hope eventually she will share helping me develop my own style clothing, i sure could use her help although it is coming. 

 

 

You need to learn to have your own style dearest Shay, you need to be YOU. She may like red and you purple per example.

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And that's without going into what color her skin is, what color her eyes are, etc... For example, gold does NOT look good on me. I'm very much a winter. My spouse is an autumn. She can wear browns and reds that look terrible on me where I look better in blues and whites. That's not even getting into differences in cuts and body shapes.

 

Strongly recommend clothes shopping with your partner though. I'm hoping that this weekend we can find a pair of shorts that doesn't fit my narrow butt like a tent. ?

 

Hugs!

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Well something is drawing me to the clothes I was always envious of in the 1970's and the hippie look and also clothes along those lines as I know I was supposed to be that type of girl and those styles seem to be being worn by a lot of women. 

 

I need to learn more about colors and my body shape and what flatters me and what does not... another WHOLE world to learn about.

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23 minutes ago, Shay said:

I need to learn more about colors and my body shape and what flatters me and what does not... another WHOLE world to learn about.

 

Which is why changing rooms have mirrors. Assuming we ever get to use them again. ?

 

Great fun! Especially when you have an, "I need this to live," moment about something you happen across in a shop.

 

Hugs!

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I see Sara - you mentioned online surveys - THANK YOU for the tip.

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Before becoming Willow I was conservative didn’t like bright colors.  Now, bright colors are all things I like.   Green, pink, orange and blues.  Red is my wife’s color so I leave that out.  At first I bought gray and dark blue until I found myself.

 

Willow

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It is Pride week here in Nova Scotia.  I had a nice socially-distanced visit from a couple of trans friends today.  One identifies as bigender, and the other is a trans woman who has just started her transition.  We had a great conversation, getting caught up on what we've been up to since we last met, pre-covid. 

 

The bigender lady is in the air force, and has the support of her base commander to dress according to male or female uniform standards, as she feels, from day to day.  She was interviewed on the radio a couple of weeks ago, in connection with raising the transgender pride flag at the base.  It is nice to see such progress.

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I'm glad you enjoyed yourself.  I'm sure it was nice to get out and socialize.  That is very affirming of the Canadian Air Force to allow one to switch uniforms from day to day.  

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Good Saturday morning (unless it’s your Monday in which case Ugh it’s Monday already) lol


Having my coffee

 

I spent too much time in the sun and heat yesterday.  Paid the price for it with heat exhaustion .   At least no sunburn.  Well, I need to get my day going.  
 

Stay safe and healthy

 

Willow

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Fun day with my girlfriend,shopped at a lingerie shop.We picked out everything for each other to try on.It did go well and read my mind on what I love buying it.Been great so far with me and changes have been great.Decided to go fulltime as Mika 2 weeks ago since I came out as genderfluid.Much happier as Mika fulltime,my family supports my decision.My two daughters,been great with the changes that dad is completely happy fulltime as Mika.My girlfriend loves it,made our relationship much strong and she has been supportive.My customers,they have been great with the changes and have said I am the same person I was much happier

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Mika, sounds like a fun day.

 

Well today was my Monday. Had to open. One of our entry level managers got a medical excuse to be out yesterday and today. Yet, her boy friend was in town. and a car show at Wyotech. She did request it off. And I see her driving her truck in the direction of the show. Somethings are not adding up. Even the boss says so. The boss wound up working a14+ hour shift both yesterday and today.

 

Today was a fun day for me. Yesterday we took a ride to a small town about 30 miles west for home made ice cream. It is a fairly loose gravel parking lot. We have our ice cream. Mississippi Mud. yum. We get on the bike go to take off the front wheel digs in and we lay the bike on its side. He woman me try and get it upright. my back sounds like rice krispies snap crackle and pop. I pull my back out. With help we got it back on two wheels and able to get it home.  Now my back is totaled. major pulled muscle lower right side. barely move. So, was able to sleep ok. Getting out of bed was another story. 

 

So, That is my Monday. right now. then I get changed into my PJs as I am not planning on going out the rest of the night. My youngest gets on me for changing, Oh, you need to move to help it. Yeah, go work on his car. didn't happen.

 

Have a good second half of your weekend everyone.

 

Kymmie

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