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It's gonna be a long day. My microwave is apparently broken. It's raining and the coffee isn't brewing nearly fast enough. I am not patient enough for my attitude today. I can't install a microwave above the range alone. I will have to hire someone to do it I suppose. I am used to being alone all the time. It's not easy on days like this though. :rain:

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@Abi, Home Depot or Best Buy will install their appliances for you, though it might take a few days to get on their schedule.  Rainy days.... nice for relaxing with a good book or surfing nature photos online.  I really miss warm summer rain (and thunder), something we rarely have here.

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Hi

 

some crank callers can be fun. They have a script To follow and the more you work them off their script the more frustrated they get.
 

I got my nose swabbed today. I’ll know The results tomorrow.

 

my good friend had her bottom surgery yesterday with no complications.  And my boat is all but ready for my family to come Friday.  Sweep and Mop the floor in the cabin. Everything else is done.

 

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@Tori M Thanks for the tip. I got an install set up. I think it's funny that it cost almost as much as the microwave but, I guess it's better than hurting myself while trying to do it alone. I don't mind the rain. I prefer nice breeze and cool sunlight, though. I think it just makes me happier in general. I get stuck indoors on rainy days and do not enjoy that very much. I did get a lot of latch hooking done though so the day was not an entire wash. I will most likely post a picture when it's done. I have about eighty hours invested in this one.

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Good morning everyone!  As I sit here sipping my java I was thinking about my comment to my wife when I got up that I have to remember this journey is mostly baby steps and to look back from time to time to see how far they've taken us. I was in a bit of a funk because we took a huge step last night when I wore women's PJs to bed with her for the first time but then when I got dressed in the morning for our walk it was such a let down.  She pointed out that we will get there soon and just look back at how far I/we've come in such a short time.  So that's my morning perspective today. Remember to look back over your shoulder every once in a while. 

Hugs to all and enjoy your morning coffee.

 

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Last night I was finally able to have conversation with my with wife that end in yelling. In the interest of not hiding anything I explained that I am in the actively looking for a gender therapist (fingers crossed i get called back today). and that I will hold off on changing name until after we buy our house sometime in the next 6-9 months. I don't want to cause any issues or confusion with loans or legal docs. She did make it clear that even after it's legally changed she will use my dead name.

Most of co-works are treating my like a curiosity as they find random reasons to stop in my office to talk. I can see their eyes, I know what they're looking at, my eyes are up here. And others have already started using she/her pronouns without prompting. Finally my life is making a turn for the good.

 

?Liz

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35 minutes ago, Bri2020 said:

 Remember to look back over your shoulder every once in a while. 

 

 

That's really good advice. Especially when you feel like your stuck and not moving forward.

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i know its hard...i have been through struggles and pain for 68 years and just starting the hrt and coming out process and i am scared. i admire you younger ladies and wish i could have been braver sooner. 

i admire your courage and i hold you in my thoughts every day and it helps me move forward and i hope it will mean a little something to know you have a sanctuary here where we can help each other with our struggles.

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Good morning

 

Coffee just finished brewing.

 

As I expected, my Covid test was negative.  But at least now I can proceed to my specialist appointment.  My wife and I wear masks, socially distance and avoid going places like the grocery store.  We avail ourselves of no contact pickup.

 

stay safe and healthy.

 

Willow

 

 

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1 hour ago, ElizabethStar said:

Last night I was finally able to have conversation with my with wife that end in yelling. In the interest of not hiding anything I explained that I am in the actively looking for a gender therapist (fingers crossed i get called back today). and that I will hold off on changing name until after we buy our house sometime in the next 6-9 months. I don't want to cause any issues or confusion with loans or legal docs. She did make it clear that even after it's legally changed she will use my dead name.

Most of co-works are treating my like a curiosity as they find random reasons to stop in my office to talk. I can see their eyes, I know what they're looking at, my eyes are up here. And others have already started using she/her pronouns without prompting. Finally my life is making a turn for the good.

 

?Liz

I’m so happy to hear you’re life’s turning a corner Liz!  

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Met with the specialist. One concern alleviated, my cancer has not come back.  We are going to try a series of medications to find one that resolves my problem with the least amount of negative side effects.  That took a big weight off my shoulders or larynx to be more exact.  I’ll start the first medicine tomorrow and report Progress in two weeks. 
 

Willow 

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That is wonderful news in regard to cancer Willow. iam hoping to hear even better news in two weeks.

Heather Shay

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Afternoon guys, gals, and whom ever is out there. My Saturday everything is going well. Have a video appointment soon with my Therapist then one with my new regular DR. This has got to be the 5 or 6 regular DR. I have had.

 

Some news, I talked to the parts manager at the dealership I applied for in Portland, OR. Sounds like this position is right up my ally. With the potential to move up. plus starting more than I am making now. All I need to do is let him know a yay or nay.

 

I need to get my back healed. It is only marginally better. Still get spasms, that can happen anytime. Just a wave of pain goes over my back. standing is OK, but bending, getting up, is pain full. Anyone have a spare back They are not using at the moment. LOL.

 

Tomorrow, I had to Ft. Collins to see about Hair prosthetic. My breasts are on special order, they are having the straps lengthened on the bras.

 

Everything is back to normal at home. No mention of me leaving at all. Looking after a motorcycle trip with the wife.

 

Kymmie

 

 

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1 hour ago, KymmieL said:Anyone have a spare back They are not using at the moment. LOL.

 

you can have mine . It’s Only got one slightly crushed vertebrae and a couple of fusions. But other then that it’s good.

 

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Goomornin! Well its morning to me and any other 2nd shift folks out there. ? Dear morning people, do you still have to sit and contemplate the universe for x amount of minutes after waking up before you can get moving for the day? Or do you just spring into action straight out of bed? If it is the former, how do u define what being a morning person is? Is it the mood u start with after regaining consciousness? I am in a fairly content mood this morning but having trouble finding motivation to leave my recliner to get productive... One more dose of caffeine then maybe...

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While I don't consider myself a morning person, I swing out of bed as soon as I hear my wife start brushing her teeth. When I was depressed though... I'd sit on the edge of my bed for a couple of minutes. Nowadays, I only do that if I'm super tired or sick.

 

Hugs!

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Willow, that is wonderful news! So happy to hear that.

 

QuoraQ, I am pretty good to go the moment my eyes open. Doesn't matter when I wake up or how much sleep I actually got. The body just wakes up ready to go. I also have developed an internal alarm clock that between, 5:30am and 6:15am, I wake up. Again, regardless of the amount of sleep I've had I just wake up.

 

The only time I don't is if I'm really sick, then I just sleep, as much as possible and am really groggy when waking up, usually taking a bit of time to get going.

 

Well, found out my pre-op COVID test is tomorrow afternoon. Already got my blood work results back, from yesterday morning, crazy. Most of it looks good, couple things were a little off, but nothing that will prevent the surgery from going forward next week. Apparently, they are going to stuff more gauze up my nose than a magician has scarves in their sleeve, which will need to be removed the next day. I imagine it will probably be uncomfortable, but I am strangely looking forward to my nose being involved in a magic trick. LOL.

 

Have a wonderful day/evening everyone! Hugs!

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26 minutes ago, SaraAW said:

Well, found out my pre-op COVID test is tomorrow afternoon.

Excuse me for missing this elsewhere... If you don't mind me asking, what kind of operation are you in for? 

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Kymmie have you tried any sort of back brace?  I’ve had back strain at different times and usually found that finding a brace that held things in place felt good.

 

The other thing that helps relax the muscles in your back is a “tens” unit. There are a lot of them in drug stores.  They sent electric pluses into you nerves which helps relax the spasms.

 

Willow

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On 7/14/2020 at 4:43 PM, lauraincolumbia said:

@abi   The fear of what my current wife might do to me, keeps me in a marriage that isn't healthy.  The fear is very debilitating.  Sometimes, even causes suicidal thoughts....

 

I'm very sorry that I did not see this comment before today. You are more than welcome to reach out to me if you ever need a shoulder. I can relate in many ways. I know it can be very hard to see your own worth in a bad marriage but you matter very much. Please don't give up on yourself. I feel terrible that I didn't see this message sooner. I hope things get better.  ~Abi~

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Willow, I have thought of getting a back brace.

 

Well had good appointments with my Dr. and Therapist. My Dr. is putting me on steroids to help with the inflammation. My therapist gave me some things to think about. I am giving myself until Monday to decide on the position in Portland. Even though I have came out to the HR person with no problems. I am not sure that she passed on the information to the parts manager. 

 

Kymmie 

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Good morning 

 

I just got up.  I’m expecting my daughter and her family any minute now.

 

@KymmieL I am very sure you won’t have any acceptance issues in Portland, any more than Shawna Leigh did.  I’m sure you know that they are a very accepting liberal place to live.  I wouldn’t let the thought of whether the HR manager told the Parts manager influence your decision.  If it’s what you want go for it.  I know changing jobs and moving that far is stressful. Add to that coming out to the new employer and your family concerns can all be overwhelming.  But if it’s what you want,...

 

Well they fam will be pulling up any minute now.  Have a great day, I know I will.

 

Willow

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9 hours ago, Willow said:

Kymmie have you tried any sort of back brace?  I’ve had back strain at different times and usually found that finding a brace that held things in place felt good.

 

The other thing that helps relax the muscles in your back is a “tens” unit. There are a lot of them in drug stores.  They sent electric pluses into you nerves which helps relax the spasms.

 

Willow

Kymmie: Willow's right. Tens units have kept me in the game for many years. For chronic spasms they work great. They're a good "quick fix". I also take CBD oil every day to reduce spasms and inflammation. It's really helped me keep off of cycles of steroids and pain killers.  I've has two fusions and still have a major nerve that gets compressed so I have to constantly keep up with preventative measures to keep me out of major flair ups of pain. Gentle yoga is also great as long as you're not in a spasmed state.  Good orthotics for your shoes might help too. Everything starts with our foundation. And because it's my career: find a good deep tissue massage therapist and make her/him a part of your life.   Good luck with the decision for the new job!

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12 hours ago, SaraAW said:

 

 

 Apparently, they are going to stuff more gauze up my nose than a magician has scarves in their sleeve, which will need to be removed the next day. I imagine it will probably be uncomfortable, but I am strangely looking forward to my nose being involved in a magic trick. LOL.

 

Have a wonderful day/evening everyone! Hugs!

 

LMAO, Sara you almost made me snort my coffee out of my nose. Thank you for the laugh and good luck with the procedure!

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