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Gratitude day: 

1: I'm so grateful I found the place, you all have been amazing. Reading through everyones posts and searching the forum for insights has truly helped me process this newly discovered me. Hugs to all of you.

2: My circle. I have consciously tried over the last year to make sure I surround myself with the best quality people and distance myself from toxic ones. I knew I needed to for my mental health but wow, the relationships and people I have in my life because of that bore fruit this week as I came out to my family, friends and employees.  I never knew how much I was loved until I came out. (insert tears of joy here)

3: My wife and kids.  Their immediate and enthusiastic support of my decision to come out and transition has me so humbled. Words cannot describe how proud of my kids I am right now and how humbled I am to have won the unconditional love of such a great woman.

4: Good coffee in the morning- it's hard to be worried about things when you have a good cup of java ;)

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@KymmieL you have thumbs up about not letting HR manager telling parts manager stand in your way. i was told several times in my career that you have to look out for number one and number one is YOU. I hope you resolve the back issues and get physically better soon.

Shay

 

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I'm glad your day (and life) is going well @Bri2020.

 

@Shay  that thought, 

3 hours ago, Shay said:

you have to look out for number one and number one is YOU.

is something I have said for years.  I made sure my son understood it well.  Its difficult to help or love others if you don't look out for yourself. 

 

Jani

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Hi everyone! 
 

Officially full swing at my retail job. Everyone now knows me as Tessa! It’s a good feeling! Did my nails 2 different colors. Pink and gold. So far a lot of compliments. End of August we will require all customers to wear masks at the Gap where I work. I’m getting use to the mask. 
 

Been doing a lot of soul searching and working on myself. My mom is becoming much more accepting these days. Just today over the phone a customer said “I bet your drop dead gorgeous!”  He has no idea what I look like but my voice must reflect a very cute girl or he’s teasing me. This isn’t the first time some guy has tried to flirt with me over the phone. I just wish I felt that way. I am very skinny and my best features are my nails, eyes, and legs. I’ll take it as he meant it. 
 

Today went to Village Inn and had pancakes and a coke. 
 

Talk to you all later. 
 

Tess

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@Tessa

That is wonderful news, especially the acceptance more and more of your mom - after all she has a  journey to and will have ups and downs - it is reassuring that she is coming around to understand and that is a great ally to have - I do my toes nails and clear on my regular nails - no one other than my health care and you wonderful ladies call me by my new name yet - and your voice - great - I have been working on mine through on-line voice feminization lessons and exercises and slowly but surely it is getting better every day but not ready for the random calls to services like airplanes or walmart.....also slowly changing my appearance and clothes with more androgenous look so by the time I am completely ready to share the world close to me they will be like the frog in water that keeps getting hotter - they won't realize the change happening over time....Your hands are very feminine even if you didn't have polish on....

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40 minutes ago, Tessa said:

Hi everyone! 
 

Officially full swing at my retail job. Everyone now knows me as Tessa! It’s a good feeling! Did my nails 2 different colors. Pink and gold. So far a lot of compliments.

You do have beautiful hands! Work it girl.  

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I made coffee about 8 one granddaughter was up playing Minecraft.  She finally crashed around 10am. Everyone else got up at various times.  Its another really hot day today.  Its not supposed to be as bad starting tomorrow.

 

My daughter accepts me but doesn’t want to talk about it.  The youngest doesn’t know so for the next week I have to be careful and not be Willow.  Thats ok. My wife doesn’t want me to be full time and I’m not out to very many people, so I’m used to it.

 

Willow

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38 minutes ago, SaraAW said:

@QuoraQ Just some sinus / nasal surgery. Nothing transition related yet. 

Good luck Sara.  I had a septal defect fixed a few years back and asked them to give me cheerleader's nose.  I was disappointed when I woke up and it was my same ol....   lol

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28 minutes ago, Bri2020 said:

asked them to give me cheerleader's nose.

 

They were probably out of stock.

 

Seriously though, what's a cheerleader's nose? I'm thinking of the prettiest cheerleader from high school and, while gorgeous, she wasn't conventionally attractive if that makes sense.

 

Hugs!

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Thanks Bri, I asked my surgeon something similar, I think the result will be similar to yours. LOL

 

Just finished the pre-surgery COVID test. Wasn't bad at all. Treated myself to an iced cappuccino. Now 5 days of self isolation until surgery.

 

Have a wonderful day everyone! Hugs! 

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58 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:

 

They were probably out of stock.

 

Seriously though, what's a cheerleader's nose? I'm thinking of the prettiest cheerleader from high school and, while gorgeous, she wasn't conventionally attractive if that makes sense.

 

Hugs!

A little button slightly upturned.  Oh, and your joke was funny. lol

 

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@SaraAW - best wishes on the coming surgery - keep us posted...

Heather Shay

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2 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

asked them to give me cheerleader's nose. 

Whatever this is, sign me up too. Sara? Let's get it!

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6 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

A little button slightly upturned.  Oh, and your joke was funny. lol

 

 

Put me in line too. but I'll take a cheerleaders body to match the nose.

 

Today was great went to Ft Collins and did some shopping for wigs. OMG I never knew they could cost that much. we looked through the catalogs I picked out styles, colors, length, bang style, all kinds of fun stuff. She is going to get with the owner on Monday and put a bid together and submitit to the VA. fingers crossed.

 

Kymmie

 

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35 minutes ago, KymmieL said:

 

OMG I never knew they could cost that much. we looked through the catalogs I picked out styles, colors, length, bang style, all kinds of fun stuff. She is going to get with the owner on Monday and put a bid together and submit it to the VA. fingers crossed.

 

Kymmie

 

Good luck Kymmie.   I looked at quality wigs once, wow $$. But human hair ones last for over a year if you take care of them, the cheaper ones only a couple months at best.  It also helps if you can find a stylist who works with wigs. They can do a wash and style on it for you and boom-salon quality blow out that if you care for it, it lasts a week or more.  

 I decided I just need to be patient with my hair growth. I only have a slightly receding hairline and now that it's long enough the curls kinda hide that.  I still have another year's worth of growth before I will be really happy. How long before your bid is decided on?

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Bri, don't know the time line for that. but it is the government so who knows.

 

Up early the Monday morning of mine. three opening shifts then 2 closing. Its a living.

 

news on my back front. It is getting better. somewhat. Should be getting my meds today. Something to help with the inflammation. 

Now for the big decision? Still don't know what the hell I am going to do. Time is ticking away on my own timeline to make a decision. Things are so hard when you need to decide something  especially when it is your heart that is being torn in two. just realized that my granddaughter will be 2 first part of Sept. First girl in the family since my generation. She is my oldests. so once I transition I will probably loose contact with her. I am going crazy over everything. yet no one to discuss it with.

 

Kymmie

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@KymmieL I understand the feeling about no one to talk to.  You have all of us but it’s not exactly the same.  Trying to find someone that isn’t biased one way or the other is difficult.  Sometimes you just have to decide on your own and that’s not really what you want.  Just remember, though, no one can decide for you.

 

i don’t have a human hair wig.  I went to a real wig store and looked once.  What I wanted and what I ended up with based on my budget are very different.  Still I’m satisfied with the one I have.  The color is really good for me.  Mostly it’s just shorter than I really I wanted.  I also bought one from one of the better online stores.  It’s a longer Style which I also like but I know it won’t hold up long term.

 

Loving having my family here.  
 

Willow

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Good morning everyone, the coffee is hot, strong, and black.

 

Let's follow the @Mary Jane request to be kind.

 

Love you all,

 

Mindy???

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Willow, Yeah, I realize that the ultimate decisions is mine and mine alone. But I don't know why I am holding on. Maybe the chance that my wife decides to accept me. Yeah, And I am the queen of England. Well I could be. I am related to King  Henry the V. So that analogy is out the door. LOL. 

 

Well took my second dose of steroids this morning. The back is better than yesterday. Only spasmed once today where it did it 7 times at work. not fun.

 

Kymmie 

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Coffee's on!! thank the Java godess!  I've been living full time as a woman for about 5 days now and it's been pretty much great. Shopping with family, working etc have all been pretty good. Told my best friend and the first guy to learn of my transitioning and he was supportive. So basically was living high. Then I went grocery shopping by myself. Nothing "bad" happened but every interaction I had with people was concluded with a "thank you sir" "have a great day sir" etc.  It sank me so low, so quick.  Now I know I don't pass.  I just came out for goddess' sake and I've no make up or boobs but clearly dressed as a woman.    I know this is going to continue as the norm for quite some time but I need to figure out how to control my moods better.  Sorry for the vent.

But to be positive again- Woo Hoo! Best friend cool with me transitioning and even wanted to get together with his wife and mine for drinks to hear all about it!  

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Hey girls and guys! 
 

Today is Monday. I want to get this day started off right! To do that I need to put tomorrow’s worries aside and focus what’s good for today. Even in the small things I need to see that they can bring me joy and happiness. 
 

So I choose to be happy and think myself as beautiful regardless how I look or feel. I accept my flaws and insecurities but I won’t let them rule me. I don’t have time to worry because I’m to excited about the possibilities that are right in front of me. 
 

Put that in your coffee. 
 

Love to all

 

Tessa

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31 minutes ago, Bri2020 said:

 Nothing "bad" happened but every interaction I had with people was concluded with a "thank you sir" "have a great day sir" etc.

I had this happen a lot until I found different places to shop. I don't think it was always intentional but that they were overly familiar with who I was and it was more of an automatic response. Regardless, I don't frequent those places anymore.

 

I'm also looking for ideas for handling social media pages. I tried to search but couldn't find anything useful. Specifically, pictures of the old me. I feel the need to delete them all and purge that person from my life so they won't be used against me later. If there's already a thread on this I will be happy to go there but I can't find one.

 

 

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