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Matty

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I've recently discovered I'm male to female. I'm trying to accept it. I feel much more comfortable as male. I'm slowly telling people my new name and pronouns. I've had a few close people accept me. I had a friend who recently abandoned me because of it. I'm not sure how to do it or what to do to officially start...Socially or what? I'm dreading coming out to my dad. He's not very accepting at all of anything like this. Any help guys? with even accepting it? Luckily i have an outlet for my dysphoria. nice to meet you all and thanks guys. I'm def looking for new friends here. 

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Your first sentence there is a bit confusing.  Your Gender on your side bio says Female to MALE which makes sense when you say you feel more comfortable as male.

 

My big recommendation if you can pull it off is to find a therapist that knows their stuff about gender issues.  The next step is to find an LGBT center near you (the therapist may be one of theirs for that matter) where you can meet other Trans people and get their hints and tricks for living in your community.  Both can help you with the Parental Units and what to do there if anything for the time being.  Third item is to simply get reading in this forum and see how others have tackled the  problem already, and we have success stories here as well as not-so-success stories. 

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Hello Matty and welcome.  Vicky's advice mirrors mine.  I think you would find speaking with a counselor very helpful.   Please read as much as you can and join in the conversation.  There is a good group of guys (and girls) here that can relate to your journey.  You're not alone. 

 

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On 3/14/2019 at 8:46 AM, Jani said:

Hello Matty and welcome.  Vicky's advice mirrors mine.  I think you would find speaking with a counselor very helpful.   Please read as much as you can and join in the conversation.  There is a good group of guys (and girls) here that can relate to your journey.  You're not alone. 

 

Jani 

Thanks. I'll look into it. Glad to find some support

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