Came Out To A Support Group

[Tessa]

All, 

 

Last night I decided to go to a support group PFlag. This was my first time! I met some really nice other transgender and gay people. I had a time to talk in a small group. I was really nervous at first but after a while the nervousness left. It was a good start. I’m going to go again. I think I might be able to find friends there. 

 

This was a big big step for me I think. I felt welcomed and supported. 

 

Tessa?‍?

[Charlize]

Getting out  of the closet and meeting others was certainly a big step for me in accepting myself.  I remember the fear and excitement you describe.  

Enjoy  the fact that your breaking out of the egg and beginning to feel your wings!

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[Kirsten]

Awesome Tessa! One step at a time. And the next step becomes so much more reachable!! Good for you!! ??❤️

[Willow]

Hi Tessa,

 

My first Group meeting wasn’t that long ago.  I too was nervous and didn’t know how it would go.  The group leader spend some time with me and others were very nice and helpful.  Since then I’ve been back and I’ve checked out two other groups. I’ve found the right group for me.  Similar to what you describe everyone was nice and talked to me. 

 

Groups can can be very helpful.  Like others here advised me, keep going.

 

Willow

[Jani]

Very good for you!  Support groups can be fun as you meet others in real person that are like yourself.  Enjoy!  

[SugarMagnolia]

That's great, Tessa! PFLAG meetings are always one of the highlights of my month. 

[Tessa]

I’m still searching for who I am. I love the warmth of feeling like a woman. It’s my sweet loving side. 

 

I had a girl over to my place last night. I really like her! We cooked lasagna and watched a movie. She is so sweet! I have not come out to her though. I don’t know if she would accept Tessa. 

 

I feel I have to find a person that will love me for who I am. I’m not fully transitioned but I am a woman inside. I noticed when I was around her it was more girlfriend to girlfriend. This felt a little strange to me. 

 

In my marriage though I was told one of the reasons my ex divorced me was that I smothered her. I think this is because I want to be the one cuddled, held, kissed, and loved. She never gave me that. She refused any effection toward me. 

 

Im my next relationship regardless if I transition all the way. I need to find a woman that will treat me like that. Do they exist? I’m still attracted to woman not men. Although if I changed completely and became a woman I might see things differently. 

 

Just some thoughts. 

 

Love 

 

Tessa?‍?

[Cassie]

On 4/13/2019 at 11:07 AM, Tessa said:

I’m still searching for who I am. I love the warmth of feeling like a woman. It’s my sweet loving side. 

 

I had a girl over to my place last night. I really like her! We cooked lasagna and watched a movie. She is so sweet! I have not come out to her though. I don’t know if she would accept Tessa. 

 

I feel I have to find a person that will love me for who I am. I’m not fully transitioned but I am a woman inside. I noticed when I was around her it was more girlfriend to girlfriend. This felt a little strange to me. 

 

In my marriage though I was told one of the reasons my ex divorced me was that I smothered her. I think this is because I want to be the one cuddled, held, kissed, and loved. She never gave me that. She refused any effection toward me. 

 

Im my next relationship regardless if I transition all the way. I need to find a woman that will treat me like that. Do they exist? I’m still attracted to woman not men. Although if I changed completely and became a woman I might see things differently. 

 

Just some thoughts. 

 

Love 

 

Tessa?‍?

I doubt changing physically will change who you're attracted to. If you're a lesbian female, your attraction to women is still different from that of a hetero male. Just roll with it. And yes, they exist.

[Robin]

On ‎4‎/‎13‎/‎2019 at 5:07 PM, Tessa said:

I feel I have to find a person that will love me for who I am. I’m not fully transitioned but I am a woman inside.

 

I think this is because I want to be the one cuddled, held, kissed, and loved. She never gave me that. She refused any effection toward me. 

 

In my next relationship regardless if I transition all the way. I need to find a woman that will treat me like that. Do they exist? 

Hi Cassie,

 

I can definitely relate to these points that you have raised.

 

Men have traditionally been blamed for not talking about their feelings and for not displaying affection, but many women appear to have some kind of emotional barrier between themselves and their partner.  The old idea of treating a woman badly, in order to keep her interested, is unfortunately what many people seem to want. 

I hate the fact that a lot of women would not find me attractive because I am not sufficiently selfish or abusive.  I don't know how lesbian women generally behave, but they won't like me anyway, because I have the wrong type of body.

 

Has anyone got any helpful suggestions please?

 

Robin.

 

 

 

 

 

[Robin]

Sorry it was Tessa that I meant to reply to.

 

Robin.

[Tessa]

Robin, 

 

It’s the heart that counts honey. You are what you feel inside. So feel beautiful and regardless of what a person sees in the outside your inside will come shining through! It’s so hard for people to love themselves because we’re alwaus looking on the outside shell. What lasts is who we are inside. Instead of working so much on the outside we shoukd work on the inside. Beauty is found inside your heart and no one can take that away from you! That is yours to keep! Don’t let anyone cheapon you by saying your ugly because it isn’t true! Be beautiful and be you and let that live inside shine through and let the world judge if they want but don’t let them judge you. 

 

Love 

 

Tessa?‍?