Need help coming out

[jennamelissa]

I need help trying to come out to my family, as I don’t know where, when or how to do it in a way that won’t annoy them.

[Ellora]

Do you have a family member you feel more comfortable talking to?  If you are not sure, do you have a gender therapist that you could speak to? 

If not, do not rush if you do not have to, it is good that you feel as comfortable and ready as possible. We are here for you, and more of us will help you through any difficult times. 

I am working on the courage to tell a friend of mine. I’m sure she will be here for me once I tell her, it’s just the initial moment of bringing it up I need to do. Hang in there! 

[DeeDee]

Hi, JennaMelissa (JM?), pleasedto meet you.   What do you mean by annoy them?

Without knowing more about you or your family situation it is hard to give any real advice, Ellora is right about finding someone you are comfortable talking to - I found saying it out loud actually helped to stop it from just tumbling around my brain but you will know your family and friends best and know who you will be able to trust with the information.

 

I spoke to my eldest sister first, she was the most likely to be personally supportive and the one who I knew has had all of the equality training for her work.  She made the mistake of asking how I was and answering yes when I asked if she really wanted to know lol...

 

I spoke to her about the fact that I had spent times wondering if I should have been born her sister and not her brother and then I asked her to read the first couple of blog entries I wrote when I decided to write my thoughts down as I questioned (writing can be so good to just dump things out and then you can go back and look at it if you want to), I then showed her a pic of me dressed as Dee so she could see that it was more than just in my head, once she had read the blog we then talked properly as some of the questions she would have had would already have been answered by what I had written..

 

You will know the best course for you and whomever you tell, how do you normally have deep and meaningfuls?

[Astrid]

Hi, JennaMelissa!

 

I chose to come out to my daughter via a letter (which in my case was about a page and a half).  This allowed me to think through what I wanted to say, and not just rely on memory, since it was an emotionally charged moment.  After she read it, she was able to ask questions and we had a good conversation. All went well.

 

Astrid