Stance

[JustineM]

So I have a question for all you ladies, how would you suggest altering my stance. My problem is I work in the security field and part of my training is standing in the “ready to react” stance. Which is rather masculine, but it’s such an ingrained part that I find myself always standing that way. Feet shoulder width, weight spread and ready to move in any direction. 

Is there any suggestions for how I can mentally change how I stand when I’m not on duty?

Thanks in Advance,

Justine

[Carolyn Marie]

That's an interesting question, Justine.  I spent years in the police culture and had the same training re. stance and posture.  But by the time I transitioned, I had retired from the police reserves for years.  Since you're still in the environment it will probably be harder to unlearn the techniques and training when you don't need it (off duty).

 

I think you just need to concentrate on having a more situational approach.  Separate what you need to know and do on duty from what you need to do off duty.  It will take concentration and practice, but I think you can learn to separate the two parts of your life.  When off duty, think about what you are doing with your body and will yourself to move your feet closer together and have a more relaxed posture.  I'm not saying you should slouch, but just don't stand at a ready-position all the time.

 

Some police training is good to retain; for example, I try to sit with my eyes toward the door in restaurants, and use situational awareness when in other public places, always eyeing people.  Those things don't interfere with being ladylike.  If I were you, I would also try not to bark orders or use a command-presence tone of voice when off duty.  That could engender some strange looks.  ?

 

Carolyn Marie

[JustineM]

Thank you for the advice Carolyn, I’m just having a hard time adjusting my feet it’s so second nature lol.  I generally have a softer voice, but I can definitely make myself heard if necessary. 

 

Hi Mary, thanks for the response. That was pretty much why I posted this question was to get others take that have been\are dealing with the same thing. 

 

Have a fabulous day ladies and gentlemen.