Marriage stuff in different Countries after legal Name and Gender Change

[Byleth]

Hello there! This is going to be very specific and I'm not sure if anyone can help me but I'd still appreciate some advice. I tried to Google stuff on these topics but only found partial answers and have no idea how this is going to go down. 

So I'm a trans man from Germany and I'm going to have my legal name and gender change this month, which I'm really happy about. The issue is that, my current fiancé (cis girl) lives in New Zealand, and we were going to get married in her country. From what I've read and heard, this gender change makes it possible for me to marry someone and get listed as a male in our marriage, but this only applies in my country (Germany). I couldn't find anything on how it works in New Zealand, because I've heard that in the UK for example you need to have your birth certificate changed in order to be recognized as the preferred gender in marriage. So if this was the case in New Zealand, would my legal gender change in Germany still count and would I be listed as male in our marriage?

Sorry if the terminology I'm using is completely wrong or confusing, I'm extremely unsure of how things like these function, this is all still for the future but I'm so unsure of what I potentially have to go through... Maybe there's any trans people who've moved to another country that can help me with that at least?

Thanks in advance for any sort of advice! 

[Jackie C.]

Does your girlfriend have a lawyer she can talk to? I know it seems like a lot, but you're dealing with international law and you absolutely want to get it right. I'd start with a web search on NZ trans legal support and follow that thread until I found someone helpful

 

Hugs!

[Jani]

Hello Byleth,  

If you are having your legal name changed, does that allow you to petition to change/correct your German birth certificate as well?   That would certainly solve the issue.  Understand that having the court order that changes your name and gender is just a start.  You still need to contact your Debtors (credit cards, apartment lease, etc), Division of Motor Vehicles (drivers license, auto registration),  Health Insurance (does Germany have universal healthcare?), Federal Gov't (travel Passport), basically any place where your name and gender are listed to have records updated.  The court degree doesn't change any other record.   It can be a bit of work to chase down everything, but it is worth it as it solves many issues such as the one you suggest.

 

I believe any degree from Germany would be legal in New Zealand but as Jackie suggests having your fiancee investigate might be the best route to finding out for sure.     

 

Cheers, Jani