Transphobic people

[emily the wolf]

Well I helped my grandparents and informed them on what it is to be transgender so they aren't transphobic anymore.. but my cousin is.. I have to live with him and now I'm scared to come out as I don't want him to hurt me..

[Jackie C.]

That's probably a good instinct. Be safe. Way too many of us face violence from people who won't accept us.

 

I'm glad your grandparents are accepting though. Sometimes all it takes it to have someone in their lives who can show them that their phobia is just silly. Now they get to enjoy meeting their granddaughter.

 

We're always here to talk to. You'll get through this.

 

Hugs!

[emily the wolf]

Yeah sadly I'm not out to them yet but I did make them not transphobic soooo yay, and ontop of that I told them I'm bi and my cousin tried to make fun of me and well it didn't end well for him

[Jackie C.]

Your cousin sounds like a real winner. What's bad about being bi? Eh, nimrods gotta... nim?

 

Hugs!

[emily the wolf]

Idk he is a trans and homophobic person and he almost got violent...

[Jackie C.]

He gets that being bi is so common among women it's not worth mentioning, right (Kinsey Institute, fascinating stuff)? I never got the impulse to hit somebody because they're different from you. He's probably got some kind of gnarly skeleton in his mental closet that he's overcompensating for.

 

Even so, unless or until you can get him out of your life, best to play it safe. I absolutely don't want to hear about something horrible happening to you in the news... When did I turn into such a mom? Huh.

 

Hugs!

[emily the wolf]

I don't think that I can get him out of my life unless he gets kicked out of the house.. sadly..

[VickySGV]

You may want to start doing some things to find a safe way out of where you are living and the conditions you are in.  It will take planning and you will have to rely on others to help put your plan of action in motion.  Your cousin does sound unsafe.  Even his joking about the Bi outing does not sound accepting and is micro aggressive as it is.  I believe Cincinnati does have an LGBT Community which might be a good resource for you to investigate.  They probably have support groups and some of them have self defense courses as well.  It will be hard, but safety is a matter of action and not hiding.

 

[ShawnaLeigh]

2 hours ago, VickySGV said:

It will be hard, but safety is a matter of action and not hiding.

Truth.  Only you can ensure your safety. Sometimes that’s easier to say then do.  But do it.