Here's The Plan

[Guest 1charlotte1]

I am going to tell than that I have never felt comfortable with my male role in society, and that I need to see a therapist.

Will this be enough? Will it backfire?? Any suggestions?

Anything appreciated, Charlotte

[Guest Neuro]

In my experience, asking to see a therapist will help with coming out. Even though my parents did not believe that I was transgender, they knew that things like depression, suicidal thoughts and sleeping problems were linked to something. The way you say you will put it as not being comfortable with your male role, is good. It sounds like you have thought it through and is more mature than "I wanna be a girl!" Lol.

It all depends on your parents, though. If they are understanding and willing to try to see from your point of view, or if they would even be willing to help you FIND a therapist... I have some friends who's parents just flat out don't believe in depression OR spending money on therapists, so they have to live with depression and ignorant parents.

If you are coming out soon, be sure to a) not do it on monday (stressful day for everyone) or any time they seem stressed, or friday (just winding down). A weekend or before bed is a good time. Putting an emphasis on the fact that you want HELP is just as if not more important than coming out as female--because with help from a therapist, you can ease your parents into the idea and get tips from him or her rather than have them asking all kinds of questions at once.

I hope this helps a little, I really wish you the best of luck! Please learn from my mistakes >_< I did not have anyone to ask for help from first.

--Michael

[Guest 1charlotte1]

Thnk you! U are very wise! I have been thinking about this hard (it is all I have been doing) I will try to choose an ideal time! Thnx again! Charlotte

[Guest Neuro]

Wish ya the best of luck~

--Michael

[Guest Sophie H]

I am going to tell than that I have never felt comfortable with my male role in society, and that I need to see a therapist.

Will this be enough? Will it backfire?? Any suggestions?

Anything appreciated, Charlotte

It really depends on how much your parents know about Gender Dysphoria - If they are aware of it they will probably know what you are talking about, but if not they might need more info from you. And they are likely to ask you anyway I would have thought, but it's definetly a good opening.

[Guest amie]

From my observation, suggesting the therapist initially is always a plus in your favor. It offers an apparent sense of reason and that's always a good thing.

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

In my experience, asking to see a therapist will help with coming out. Even though my parents did not believe that I was transgender, they knew that things like depression, suicidal thoughts and sleeping problems were linked to something. The way you say you will put it as not being comfortable with your male role, is good. It sounds like you have thought it through and is more mature than "I wanna be a girl!" Lol.

It all depends on your parents, though. If they are understanding and willing to try to see from your point of view, or if they would even be willing to help you FIND a therapist... I have some friends who's parents just flat out don't believe in depression OR spending money on therapists, so they have to live with depression and ignorant parents.

If you are coming out soon, be sure to a) not do it on monday (stressful day for everyone) or any time they seem stressed, or friday (just winding down). A weekend or before bed is a good time. Putting an emphasis on the fact that you want HELP is just as if not more important than coming out as female--because with help from a therapist, you can ease your parents into the idea and get tips from him or her rather than have them asking all kinds of questions at once.

I hope this helps a little, I really wish you the best of luck! Please learn from my mistakes >_< I did not have anyone to ask for help from first.

--Michael

Since i live so far from my Mum I simply picked up the phone and called her, I explained to her what had happened, what the diagnosis was and what it meant. I really didnt expect problems from her since my brother had kind of paved the way when he came out as gay some 15 years ago. She questioned me about some of the jobs Id had and how those fit into things, i did my best to answer; she doesnt have internet (she is in her 80's) and doesnt want it. We talked about it for a few minutes and then moved on to other things, she knows and is accepting, my brother and his life partner know and accept as wel so does one of my daughters. They are all blood family and live a long way from me. If it were practical I'd move closer to them so they could be my support through this.