When is best time to talk?

[Krisvm]

I was planning to come out to my mother soon and was prepared and ready. However, we have had a bad two deaths in the family that have hit her hard. So she is in a bit of a fragile emotional state. 

The thing is I want to talk to her about this but don't want to bring it up whilst she is going through things. So I wondered how long do people think I should hold off? 

[ShawnaLeigh]

Ooooo  I would wait on it until she seems to of gotten past her losses.  Sadly getting over the loss of a loved one can take a while for some.  Some never do completely.  But I would wait until the shock of it at least has past and she has accepted their loss.  She will always be sad over it I am sure.

A child coming out to her parent is quite traumatic as they can see it as loss of their son (or daughter).  Even if they are understanding and supportive after the fact it is still a shock and they do not want to lose another known in their lives.  Some are accepting up front and welcome the addition of a daughter (or son) so it depends on how your mother is as far as that.  Though I assume that is kind of unknown at this time.

Especially if you had not been dropping hints or clues before hand and it is "out of the blue".

 

Though I am speaking from my own experience and it sadly was not positive.  

My mother did not take it well at all, like I had KILLED her son.  I was told I was not welcome to any holiday visits or her house and she had all sorts of plans on how I should do this and that to cover up the "issue".  That she has plans to not tell anyone and we can keep this secret.  She definitely did not want me around if I had intended to present as a women.  She was ashamed of me and disappointed "I could do this to everyone".  (Yes.  WOW)

I have since been invited but now I am struggling to go or not.  But that's another story.