Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Buying bras


Lilly James

Recommended Posts

So I have a question regarding bras. Being born male and now wanting to present more female along with top dysphoria I've decided to wear bras. However with this I've discovered two issues. Number 1 - being in the closet to nearly everyone means I'm only going to wear one with a small or next to no cup. This is so I can feel more comfortable in public and at work. What are the best ways to go about getting one and what kinds would you recommend.  

2. I'm really nervous about buying them in public. I feel like people and cashiers will judge me as so far I don't pass at all. I'd like to try online but I live with parents and they are home all the time. If a parcel arrives they always ask what's in it and even if I lie they still want to see it. Sorry for the long post but any help on the subject will be much appreciated.

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

Lilly you can obviously use an online size scale available for many brands at their website.   This can give you some kind of idea before actually go trying one on.  You will find cup sizes are aggressive at best.  You are tall the strap lengths will be shorter than required IMO.  You can go into a shop and just shop!  Yes there may be those that judge you but so what?  If you buy from a larger vendor there may be the option to have it shipped to a drop box, away from home and the store.  

 

My recommendation, just go with a sports bra.  These slip over your head so no clasps to mess with.  Buy the largest one you think will fit as they will be tight.  

 

Jani

Link to comment

Thank you Jani x

I'm aiming to go shopping this week and I definitely intend to pluck up the courage to buy some. Thanks for the sizing tips as well. Sports bras are a good shout.

Link to comment
6 hours ago, Jani said:

If you buy from a larger vendor there may be the option to have it shipped to a drop box, away from home and the store. 

Amazon has drop boxes everywhere (in our city, at least). You can choose to send it to one when you check out.

Link to comment
1 hour ago, Belle said:

Amazon has drop boxes everywhere (in our city, at least). You can choose to send it to one when you check out.

Didn't think of that actually. Thank you xx

Link to comment

Lilly most of the supermarkets also do click and collect so you can order online and simply turn up for your shopping. If you use something like George it comes in it's own package so there is no embarrassment when collecting the parcel (though it was in my male name because it asked for ID that I never had to show) - I I literally did this last week :) 

Link to comment

If you figure out your shipping issues may I suggest the AhhBra Cutie Racerback style.  It is similar to a sports bra but way more comfortable.  It has no cup size as it is stretchy and the racer back style keeps the straps from falling off a more male shoulder profile.  Plus the back looks like the top of a tank top style undershirt.  I am a size 40 band and I take a large size bra in this.  

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

If you have started growing breasts and want to support them, you can make a private appointment with a bra fitter.  They are discrete and have lots of small cup sizes for mastectomy patients.  They are also small shops not big stores.

 

Willow

Link to comment

Thank you all for your suggestions. I honestly might do click and collect as it seems the safest option for me currently. 

Link to comment
5 hours ago, DeeDee said:

Lilly most of the supermarkets also do click and collect so you can order online and simply turn up for your shopping. If you use something like George it comes in it's own package so there is no embarrassment when collecting the parcel (though it was in my male name because it asked for ID that I never had to show) - I I literally did this last week :) 

Definitely going to try this!!

Link to comment
5 hours ago, ShawnaLeigh said:

If you figure out your shipping issues may I suggest the AhhBra Cutie Racerback style.  It is similar to a sports bra but way more comfortable.  It has no cup size as it is stretchy and the racer back style keeps the straps from falling off a more male shoulder profile.  Plus the back looks like the top of a tank top style undershirt.  I am a size 40 band and I take a large size bra in this.  

Good shout. Definitely going to check out the AahhBra.

Link to comment
2 hours ago, Willow said:

If you have started growing breasts and want to support them, you can make a private appointment with a bra fitter.  They are discrete and have lots of small cup sizes for mastectomy patients.  They are also small shops not big stores.

 

Willow

No breasts yet unfortunately. I'm so new to this so I'm not on any hormones 

Link to comment

HI Lilly,

Another suggestion is Her Room or Bare Necessities.   They have a ton of styles and sizes.   When you watch for sales the prices are really good.

You can have them ship via UPS, then use UPS My Choice to choose a shipping location.  Picking up in a UPS Store is a convenient option.

https://www.barenecessities.com

https://www.herroom.com

 

Link to comment
20 hours ago, lauraincolumbia said:

HI Lilly,

Another suggestion is Her Room or Bare Necessities.   They have a ton of styles and sizes.   When you watch for sales the prices are really good.

You can have them ship via UPS, then use UPS My Choice to choose a shipping location.  Picking up in a UPS Store is a convenient option.

https://www.barenecessities.com

https://www.herroom.com

 

Thank you xx

I'll check them out

Link to comment
  • 1 year later...
  • 8 months later...
On 1/6/2020 at 2:22 PM, Lilly James said:

So I have a question regarding bras. Being born male and now wanting to present more female along with top dysphoria I've decided to wear bras. However with this I've discovered two issues. Number 1 - being in the closet to nearly everyone means I'm only going to wear one with a small or next to no cup. This is so I can feel more comfortable in public and at work. What are the best ways to go about getting one and what kinds would you recommend.  

2. I'm really nervous about buying them in public. I feel like people and cashiers will judge me as so far I don't pass at all. I'd like to try online but I live with parents and they are home all the time. If a parcel arrives they always ask what's in it and even if I lie they still want to see it. Sorry for the long post but any help on the subject will be much appreciated.

Amazon hun, if you have prime most our free returns. I started with sports bras myself. Got so shoulder strings next as my best were growing. Wearing the straps gave me more freedom on the tops I could wear. Well, now today an probably for the last two months I don't wear a bra. I am a large A-cup, It just looks more natural then the padded bras I has been wearing. No bra burning yet (lol)

Link to comment
  • 5 months later...
On 1/6/2020 at 5:30 PM, Jani said:

Lilly you can obviously use an online size scale available for many brands at their website.   This can give you some kind of idea before actually go trying one on.  You will find cup sizes are aggressive at best.  You are tall the strap lengths will be shorter than required IMO.  You can go into a shop and just shop!  Yes there may be those that judge you but so what?  If you buy from a larger vendor there may be the option to have it shipped to a drop box, away from home and the store.  

 

My recommendation, just go with a sports bra.  These slip over your head so no clasps to mess with.  Buy the largest one you think will fit as they will be tight.  

 

Jani

Yes sports bras are the way to I have great success with zip front ones also like the camis with the under shelf bra I am a 38B  I get most of mine thur Amazon and they drop hubs around most places  I shop for clothes in the store as well always looking for those sale and clearnce items 

Have a wonderful day

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   5 Members, 0 Anonymous, 121 Guests (See full list)

    • VickySGV
    • Ashley0616
    • Birdie
    • GF2CD
    • Ashterlin27
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.7k
    • Total Posts
      768.9k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,041
    • Most Online
      8,356

    Ashterlin27
    Newest Member
    Ashterlin27
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. April Marie
      April Marie
    2. daniela...
      daniela...
      (59 years old)
    3. Emily May
      Emily May
    4. Felixr
      Felixr
      (20 years old)
    5. Leann
      Leann
      (56 years old)
  • Posts

    • April Marie
      Thank you. It seemed to me when I was driving home that I had a bit more bounce in the rear end over bumps so I'm wondering if the frame was bent. I will have them check it tomorrow morning when the do the appraisal.
    • Abigail Genevieve
      There is just a feeling that this is normal when I wear f clothes.  As a biological male I am supposed to, I suppose, experience dysphoria in f clothes. Instead it is reversed.  Sometimes there is euphoria about being a girl, but it is because my self-perception is lining up with my self-expression. Clothing is actually secondary.  Or third.  Secondary is what my body looks like.  I am a girl regardless of what I look like. I just am one.  As I get used to this I will probably stop talking about it.  Most women do not go around announcing they are women all the time.  They talk about themselves but the presupposition is that they are women.  Never a matter of debate.
    • LittleSam
      Do you feel euphoria when wearing feminine clothes? I'm curious about why you think you are supposed to feel dysphoria in fem clothes. I totally get why you would feel dysphoria with masc clothes. For me what urged my transition forwards was the amount of gender euphoria I got from dressing like a guy , and my dysphoria from wearing anything remotely fem got worse and worse until i get rid of evey fem article in my wardrobe and all my makeup, so I could concentrate on just being me and chasing the euphoria. Dysphoria didn't go away though, because I've been misgendered constantly and it hurts more when dressed in my man clothes . However now I'm on T, my doubts and dysphoria have massively lifted and I'm excited to see the masc changes to my body happening. I do have to learn patience though lol.
    • EasyE
      You're still cool to this Catholic... no worries... ;-)
    • Mmindy
      Well that's no way to start off a birthday. Be sure to look at your frame just behind your rear axle to make sure it wasn't bent. When I was rear ended... At first look it appeared that my bumper was folded down, however the frame was bent which also bent the floor of the bed. I'm glad everyone is okay    Happy Birthday,   Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋
    • Ivy
      Well, I am a veteran.  I did manage to get an honorable discharge - just barely.  I was drafted to start with, and I wasn't wild about it.  But I figured it was my duty as a citizen, so there's that.  TBH I find it hard to stomach people who dodged the draft, going on and on about being such "patriots" and all, and literally hugging the flag. My egg hadn't cracked yet when I was serving, so I don't think being trans directly affected my time in uniform.  But there was most likely some subconscious stuff. Sorry, I don't think this is much use to you.
    • Ivy
      That was just one reference that came up.  I originally saw it somewhere else.  Technically, he did call for the eradication of "transgenderism".  But it would be hard to get rid of that (whatever it is) with us still here.     Yeah, later, when he got called out on it.   I don't really see how you can say this.  Sure he doesn't know what he's talking about, but the damage is real.   I will bend over backwards to give someone the benefit of the doubt.  But at some point…. I'm just not as limber any more.   They can say what they want, but actions speak louder than words, and when I see what is happening in red states it is obvious.  They do want to get rid of us.  I'm tired of pretending they don't.
    • Ivy
      For a time I would get an anxiety attack when I had to dress in male mode.  Haven't tried it in a while.
    • MaeBe
      Indeed! Most happiest of Birthdays to you!
    • Ashley0616
      Happy birthday @April Marie!
    • April Marie
      Thank for the birthday wishes, everyone!!!   It started great...and then I was rear-ended at a highway construction site this morning. I'm OK. The woman who hit me was shaken - was going fast enough to deploy her air bags. I was at dead stop. Her car had to be towed away. My truck too a hit to the tailgate and the bumper. It seems OK otherwise but I'll know tomorrow when they do the appraisal.   UGH!   Happy Birthday to Me!! :-)  
    • Abigail Genevieve
      "How did it go yesterday? Any trouble in Millville?" He shook his head. "Your biscuits and gravy are great." "Mama's recipe. She taught this girl to COOK." "Uh-huh.  Well, it rained the whole time.  We did the ground breaking in pouring rain.  Your friend, the former head of manufacturing, is now on the Board.  It looks like sunshine down there, he told me, with the missile plant starting up and they re-hired all the people they fired.  Millville Products is as it was.  And the Chinese money is still coming.  That was just an ugly rumor.  Gibson quit, but you knew that." "Missile plant, huh.  Yeah.  Gibson and I may go into business.  But I have been thinking-" "Yeah.  It's been declassified.  I can tell you they made missiles for Navy ships and planes during World War 2. It was shut down after Vietnam.  Several other supporting companies are moving in - paint, electronics assembly, a few others - that support missile production." "Okay."
    • Lydia_R
      That is, it's a great document in that it seems to clearly define things, not that I'm in agreement with it.
    • Abigail Genevieve
      https://www.digitaltransgenderarchive.net/col/cj82k733h   I am now dissatisfied with the thread title because it seems to exclude Catholics and maybe others .  I am not sure what to change it to, so I will fuss over THAT now. 
    • Lydia_R
      I'm on the ballot being mailed tomorrow for an open US Rep seat.  I have both an honorable discharge and an other than honorable discharge.  I told the Navy that I was smoking pot every day right after Y2K.  I told them that while I was in the Navy, I substituted alcohol for marijuana and that the alcohol was making me violently sick.  After 5+ years of that, I said enough is enough and I went back to smoking pot.  I got better and I felt like the quality of my work was improving.   I certainly wasn't the perfect military member, but I excelled at my job and earned a promotion in boot camp.  They drug tested our unit several times after I told them I was smoking pot and I may have never tested positive.  I was opening smoking pot in the Navy for 3 or 4 months before they decided to kick me out.  At my captain's mast, the captain tried to shame me by saying I looked bad in uniform and that I was a disgrace, but all my evaluations said that I looked great in uniform.  I took great pride in looking good in my dress blues and whites.  Sure, I had grown my hair out a little bit (you know, it's not like I became trans in my 50's all the sudden) and I was enjoying some green anodized eye glasses :)   I think that people get very emotional about these kinds of issues when they should be concentrating more on engineering things and work performance.  I think we should take the lead and talk about our professional lives more instead of focusing on this type of politics.  That's a great document and I saved the PDF to my hard drive.  I think we should have more respect for the production that China is doing instead of concentrating on raising a military defense against them.  I personally disliked the hazing rituals in the Navy and think our military would be better off with being more accepting and intelligent.  
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...