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Thanks for the support, ladies!

 

In preparation for the big day, I have to shave down there.  I started that process today with a scissors trim and a light pass with an electric shaver.  I'll follow up at the hotel with a proper razor. 

 

Yikes!  I can't believe that people do this for recreational purposes!

 

Kathy

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So, I arrived in Montreal this morning.  I don’t fly often, so this was my first experience since transitioning.  The machine selected me for the dreaded scanner.

 

It turned out to be no big deal.  The security person said I had an option to be patted down or scanned.  Well, I long ago decided that no one would ever grope me again, so I opted for the scan.  That was a good opportunity to tell her that she should press the blue button instead of the pink one.  She hesitated for a second, then nodded.  
 

With that, the entire experience was uneventful.  No contraband found.  No boobs found either, apparently, so I guess mine are in the plausible range for blue-button people! :(

 

I resisted the urge to tell her that the pink button would be the right one on the way back. :D

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@KathyLauren I'm glad the flight was uneventful and I hope you had a nice day in Montreal.  Tomorrow is the last day as your new life begins on Wednesday.  Big Hugs! 
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Aw, thanks, Jani!  I’ve got my two bottles of “special treat” for tomorrow evening.?

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I think I understand those to not be the kind of "special treat" we might look forward to on a trip to the big city!!!  Ahh the price we pay.  It will all be a distant memory soon.

 

Hugs, Jani

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The tradition is that your last meal before the clean out is either a hot dog or other big sausage.  Best on the trip to The Other Side.

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Glad you arrived unscathed and in good spirits. We’ll be thinking about you!

 

My best to you,

Susan R?

 

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Ahhh the magic elixir, my last solid food meal was "In n' Out" burger since I was in CA :) 

 

It will be over soon, and then that first meal afterwards is just soooo good 

 

Best

 

C

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14 hours ago, VickySGV said:

The tradition is that your last meal before the clean out is either a hot dog or other big sausage.  Best on the trip to The Other Side.

 

Ugh, I wish I'd thought of that. That would have been awesome.

 

May your flavor choices of magic elixir be to your liking. I had cherry and grape. Cherry was actually pretty good. I still have nightmares about the grape.

 

See you on the other side sweetie!

 

Husg!

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1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

 

Ugh, I wish I'd thought of that. That would have been awesome.

 

May your flavor choices of magic elixir be to your liking. I had cherry and grape. Cherry was actually pretty good. I still have nightmares about the grape.

 

See you on the other side sweetie!

 

Husg!

The magic elixir isn’t oral!

 

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That's unfortunate. I had a "not-oral" component too, but it was for after I'd cleared most of it out with the oral stuff. Good luck with that. I wasted one of the bulbs figuring out how the whole thing worked. I ended up on all fours in the bathtub so I wouldn't make a tremendous mess.

That would have been a good time for some lube.

 

Hugs!

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Surgery done.  Dopey and sleepy, but no pain.  More later.

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Oh, that seems fast for some reason.  I didn’t think we would hear from you so quickly after the surgery.  I am amazed you posted.  This is great news, Kathy...I am very happy it’s done and now your moving on to recovery.

 

*Hugs*

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She's a hardy Nova Scotian!

 

All my best! 

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Well done @KathyLauren now just to get on to healing up and all goes well for you from here on Hon.

 

Big Canadian Hug for my neighbor

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Congratulations Kathy! Welcome to the rest of your life!

 

Hugs!

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13 hours ago, KathyLauren said:

Surgery done.  Dopey and sleepy, but no pain.  More later.

YEEEAAAA!

Congrats Kathy!

I look forward to hearing more of your process.

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I don’t look my best without my wig, but I feel good.  I just went for a walk around the ward, and it was fine.  The nurse was happy with my progress.  I have almost no pain.  I suspect that that is an advantage of the shallow vaginoplasty.


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Glad you not feeling much pain, and walking is so good. 

 

Hugs and healing Kathy

 

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You look lovely dear!  Rest well.

 

Hugs, 
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1 hour ago, KathyLauren said:

I don’t look my best without my wig, but I feel good.  I just went for a walk around the ward, and it was fine.  The nurse was happy with my progress.  I have almost no pain.  I suspect that that is an advantage of the shallow vaginoplasty.

 

Yeah, I wore my fox ears at the hospital for the same reason. Also, it's hard to feel anything but happy when you're sporting a pair of big red fox ears.

 

I didn't realize you went "no depth" You're going to miss out on the mile of packing material crammed into your abdomen! Admittedly you're not missing much, that stuff was foul after a week and super uncomfortable.

 

I was surprised by the lack of pain too. I mean it hurt, but not that much. It hurt more for tonight and tomorrow, but it dropped off really fast. I mostly used the pain meds to get to sleep easier.

 

Get some rest sweetie. Your body has healing to do.

 

Hugs!

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When someone looks good, even when not put together and coming through a major ordeal, that someone must be truly beautiful.

 

What I should say is heal well Kathy!

 

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