How to look more androgynous?

[Rojebo13]

Hey. I'm Robert. I'm interested in finding ways to look more androgynous. I'm large and naturally have a fairly masculine look.

 

I've been keeping my beard trimmed down as far as possible, but I don't know what to do in terms of hairstyle or clothing.

 

What clothing suggestions do you have? I tend to prefer fairly plain shirts, usually solid colors, sometimes plaid or stripes on my work clothes. For casual clothes, I like flannels and t-shirts usually.

 

The easiest change to make would be a haircut, which I plan to get in a few weeks. Do you have any suggestions for shorter androgynous hairstyles?

[Astrid]

2 hours ago, Rojebo13 said:

What clothing suggestions do you have?

 

You might want to take a look at comfortable shoe options, such as Sketchers for women. There are styles that are more androgynous (such as all-black with no or just a few sparkles).

 

You can learn a lot about clothes by simply trying on lots (and I mean LOTS) of both men's and women's clothes at clothing stores.  You don't have to buy any of it, if you don't want to. But there's no substitute for trying on a whole range of things in the changing room and checking yourself out in the mirror. Be sure to try a few things out of your normal preferences -- you may be pleasantly surprised.

 

Regarding more stylish hair, I would definitely recommend a (women's) stylist, not a men's barber.  Your stylist will be able to suggest options for you (if you have none), or you can bring in a picture or two of androgynous styles that you like, and ask if they could be done with your hair.  I've been using a salon for about three years now -- so much better than a barbershop. And I've noticed a lot more men utilizing their services now than before.

 

Have fun!  Remember: shopping is cheaper than a psychiatrist ?

 

Astrid

[tracy_j]

I would agree with the women's stylist. There are some male ones who are good but, I suspect, less obvious and more expensive. My approach has been to grow longer hair, but there are short androgyne styles (in fact I feel that it can sometimes be seen as stereotypically androgyne). When at work, although dressed fully male with shirt and tie, my hairstyle and use of makeup made for a androgyne (and even taken as female at times) look.

 

Clothing wise, I find womens clothes can make for a very androgyne look. They tend to be smoother and closer fitting. Just avoid girly, like skirts / dresses. Things like skinny jeans, or even leggings with a long top work well here. I say 'here' as a lot depends upon local styles. Your age group will have a bearing too. The point is to look androgyne without sticking out too much. Look at the clothes others are wearing local to you. Fitting in is always easier than setting a precedent . A point about you being, as you say, fairly large. It is worth looking at how clothes can disguise your looks. Women do use tricks with their clothing (patterning / styles) to cover things like body shape, pregnency etc. You can find references online. A good reason for doing as Astrid suggests and trying lots of clothes on.

 

Tracy