I’m in a predicament

[Bruh moment]

So I came out as trans (ftm) a fat while ago in high school and now i’m in my freshman year of college. I’m taking 18 credits a semester, have a part time job at starbucks, and unfortunately, still living with my parents that think I can deal with being trans in other ways, not transitioning. If I take any medical steps whatsoever I will most likely be kicked out. Now here is the billion dollar question: how do I get the -expletive- out of here and still continue to be a productive member of society? How do I move out while only working three days a week, how do I transition when i’m surrounded by the catholic body police? (bars) please help

 

ps: I live in NY, not too far from the city. Good resources, bad mobility.

[Jackie C.]

Unfortunately, you're going to need your parent's financial support until you finish college and find a job with decent stability that will accept your transition. On the plus side, New York is pretty good about the second one. The reality in the US is that you need medical insurance and that transitioning is expensive.

 

If you absolutely need to start transitioning now, you need to reduce your personal expenses. That probably means a room mate situation. You need to increase your income, so that part time job needs to be at least a full time job. You'll need the insurance. College will have to go part time with whatever money is left over.

 

So basically your choices are stay the course and start transitioning after college or makes some serious life changes that will let you transition now, but push everything else back until you can afford to finish school. In the meantime, there are some grants you can apply for to help people who couldn't otherwise afford it transition. I'd look into those as well.

 

Hugs!

[ShawnaLeigh]

2 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

Unfortunately, you're going to need your parent's financial support until you finish college and find a job with decent stability that will accept your transition. On the plus side, New York is pretty good about the second one. The reality in the US is that you need medical insurance and that transitioning is expensive.

 

If you absolutely need to start transitioning now, you need to reduce your personal expenses. That probably means a room mate situation. You need to increase your income, so that part time job needs to be at least a full time job. You'll need the insurance. College will have to go part time with whatever money is left over.

 

So basically your choices are stay the course and start transitioning after college or makes some serious life changes that will let you transition now, but push everything else back until you can afford to finish school. In the meantime, there are some grants you can apply for to help people who couldn't otherwise afford it transition. I'd look into those as well.

 

Hugs!

What she said.  Jackie is so wise.  

[Lexi C]

Hey Bruh. I grow up in Queens so not sure what you mean about not being mobile .NYT is not great but it will get you where you want to go. First. Apply for students Grants. There's soon great ones for Transgender student, not sure were you live but if you can feed another friend or like mind student see if you secure a room or roommates. The Bronx is still affordable and some parts of Washington Heights but they can a bit dicey. and lastly, grown up in catholic fam inside a traditional catholic hood I get where your coming from. I never came out or even hint it. I would of be beating be either the mob( Irish, Italian and Columbian) or put my fam in danger( esp with Latin community). So I get it. I move away and for awhile that made it worse with catholic guilt, But it was the only thing I could do to keep my fam safe and me sane. So find groups LGTB center in Village is amazing place to start. Meet ups  and things that will give you moral support and a chance at sanity. LBTG and depending on yr school also offer great opportunities. Be Proud, BE SAFE and Kick Ass 

[ToniTone]

Hello and welcome to the forum! It's a great resource full of friendly people. Glad you are here with us ?

 

I also work at Starbucks. I live in MN though. It's a great place to work with great benefits. But the wages aren't really livable, ya know... I'm living paycheck to paycheck. I live in a sober house. The rent is about as much as a cheap apartment here. But the deposit was only a couple hundred. Bc I live paycheck to paycheck, I can't seem to get over that deposit hurdle and get my own place. Like others have said, save up, take more hours and maybe look for a roommate. Good luck! 

 

~Toni