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Hi.

 

Just a quick message to say hello from the UK. I've been trans all my life I guess, but just didn't know it. You'll all know the feelings no doubt...the fantasy, the highs, the lows...the shame, the hurt to those around you and the constant struggle trying to come to terms with something that just makes no sense.

 

And then as one gets older, it just wont go away and something new appears...the feeling of despair...that I should have done something sooner......and still the denial that it is even real is still there. The well developed 'male' rational and with years of expected behavior and then the secret 'female' side - she's been there for years too, intertwined, but at odds with each other. Complicated? Yep. Do people understand? Not really....and how could they?

 

That all sounds very negative, but it isn't. I am coming to terms with this and finding a way forward...a way to keep my family with me and let everyone adapt. I hope that maybe I can help others and find support myself at the same time. What I have realised is that there is only one person that can make it happen - find a way to resolve the conflict. Our medical professionals are massively over-stretched and there is no magic bullet for gender dysphoria.

 

Anyway, hello ?

 

Shelleycat

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Welcome, Shelleycat!

 

You have come to one place where people do understand.  Feel free to share your story, ask questions or just vent, because we get it.  Many of us have been where you are.

 

Regards,

Kathy

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Hi Shelley.  Welcome.  You wrote this...

1 hour ago, shelleycat said:

Complicated? Yep. Do people understand? Not really....and how could they?

 

Yes is certainly is but we understand and listen real good.  Please know this is a safe place to communicate.  Please join in.

 

Cheers, 

Jani

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2 hours ago, shelleycat said:

I am coming to terms with this and finding a way forward...a way to keep my family with me and let everyone adapt.

Hello Shellycat, it’s a pleasure to meet you and thanks for joining us here.  It’s always nice to meet others like ourselves. You have much in common with myself and many others, I’m sure.  I’d enjoy reading more about your journey and how you are coming to terms and finding your way...if you’d feel comfortable doing so.  It could be therapeutic for you but I’m sure your insight and experience will help many others too.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

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Welcome to TO Shelly!  Yep I can fully relate to all that.  I love the way you said it too.  It how my mind says things and how I write.  Lol

Glad you are here!

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