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37 minutes ago, Natasha K said:

I can also see why it can sometimes be a bigger deal to Trans girls than cis ones.  Especially considering how much work most trans people have to go through just for others to respect their identity and see them as valid in the first place. 

So agree.  I never thought anything about it and even when I started I told everyone I would not care and would understand mistakes being misgendered.  Now it’s like a knife in my heart.  

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Welcome to Transpulse. Just as soon as you get out go to the VA and get a therapist to help sort things out emotionally. The VA has been very helpful. They will provide HRT but not GRS, they will provide after care for surgical procedures and they do offer voice coaching. At least that is how it is done in California. I tiptoed all around transitioning, was an emotional mess, talked about some of my dysphoria but always very vague. Six years into my therapy for PTSD both my therapist and my psychologist separately asked me if I wanted HRT and then I knew exactly what I wanted. Three years in and I have never been happier. Hang in there. But be VERY undercover. The military is a dangerous place for transgender persons.

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1 hour ago, kelly sinclair said:

But when I was younger when someone  say ladies  first  and were referring  to me it get would  upset  inside  

I would get vocally upset when I was "misgendered" in my youth.  I think I felt defensive about appearing male to others because it was important to supporting my own delusion of masculinity.

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2 hours ago, MetaLicious said:

I would get vocally upset when I was "misgendered" in my youth.  I think I felt defensive about appearing male to others because it was important to supporting my own delusion of masculinity.

This hits home for me.  In my youth (9-12) I had very long hair, and looked quite feminine to begin with, and I remember getting so mad when people thought I was a girl.  XD

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1 hour ago, Natasha K said:

This hits home for me.  In my youth (9-12) I had very long hair, and looked quite feminine to begin with, and I remember getting so mad when people thought I was a girl.  XD

I know, right?  I would fight tooth and nail against getting my hair cut, and I remember getting a perm and hoping it would transform me into a beautiful girl, yet I would get offended if anyone actually saw me as I wished I could be.  I suspect I had already absorbed some toxic notions that masculinity cannot include femininity, and I grew up with some pretty liberal men and feminist women.

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Hey Natasha you look amazing. I don't know what everyone else think but you already like a woman.

I never service, couldn't if I tried, but I heard some crazy -crap- about how they treat trans people so do be careful. Welcome keeping post its very therapeutic..Be Safe, BE Proud and KICK ASS

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Welcome, Natasha.  I am new member who just signed up.  I am hoping to learn from others here as well. 

 

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