Socializing With Your Gender

[Guest bronx]

So I thought this would be an interesting topic or both the guys and gals. I was hangin out with my next store neighbor last night having a few beers and watching gangland on the history channel. I remember b4 I passed 100% I was so worried about how other guys saw me or if they were really treating me as one of the guys or were they still holding back some things from me. Like I wasn't really part of the club. As I was sitting in the chair and we were talking I started to notice that I wasn't so worried about my mannerisim or what I was talking about. I had stopped second guessing myself and didn't even know it. Infact we had went outside for a few and I asked him to use his bathroom and he told me I could go in his bushes, I didn't have my stp on me so I just said I'd rather use the bathroom. No problem. So I guess now I'm free so to say. It's a good feeling.

Would like to know what other peoples experiences has been with hangin out with your gender.

[Sally]

Oh how I would love to have a story, but I'm still hiding out in the 'enemy camp' for my business.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Pól]

That's a great story, cause it means you're really passing no problem.

Most of the stories I have that are like that are not really appropriate for this forum, lol, mostly discussing girls like. A PG one though: a couple weeks ago, a buddy and I were joking about taking this women's studies lecture course next semester to pick up girls because a friend of ours took it this past semester and he said it was him and 59 women. Then this girl we were with called us chauvinist pigs and said any woman in that class would know better. :shrug: ... women. Another PG one: laughing about the trough in the men's room at a football game and debating whether or not it's cost-effective to build a public lavatory with a trough instead of urinals.

I know exactly what you mean though about it feeling good. It's kind of like a this-is-what-it's-meant-to-be-like kind of feeling.

[Guest Leigh]

eeh..it's topics like this that remind me that i'm not even trying.....

oh well.

i can kind of relate though, cuz when i have been "one of the guys" i did feel really comfortable...but i never got all the way in cuz i wasn't even trying to pass, but it was nice to know that i could get that close as "female"

peace&love

Leigh

[Guest leo]

i havent got any proper stories to tell

but when i was younger i would go stealth without tryin

guys would assume i was a guy and i didnt disagree with them on day trips and such

mum would blow my cover though

[Guest OneOutOfnOne]

It's always been easier and more natural to socialize with females than males, and while transitioning ought not to change this, I do anticipate feeling like the object of suspicion afterwards. I imagine everyone looking at me as though I'm a wolf in sheep's wool. However, socialization is something I try to look at by individuals rather than by generalizations.

[Guest Evan_J]

Man, where were you last year? This is exactly the kind of stuff I tried askin a transguy offline. I still haven't got an answer

I don't have any experiences since startin to transition. I'm still in that self-conscious/watchin to see if I'm bein actually accepted phase.

But I want to hear stories. (sits back and waits for the story holders to arrive.)

[Guest bronx]

Alright here goes another story. B4 I left NY I had moved to a diffrent neighborhood where no one knew me, any way in the building that my wife and I lived in was two other guys and the lanlord will come around a few times a week, not to ckeck on anything but to get away from his wife and have a few beers and play some cards. So a couple of times I would see them in the back yard and I would say hey and go about my buisness, stiil feeling that I wouldn't pass 100% yet.

One day I was in my room and the lanlord yelled up to me to come downstairs fo a minute he wanted to ask me something. I went downstairs and he asked me if I went fishing and tha the guys were gonna go out on the boat that weekend and that I was welcome to join them. Dude I was soo excited, but i played it calm and said let's see what happens in the morning. He then leaned into the back of his truck and handed me a beer, and then the other two guys that live there and another guy showed up. After awhile it started to get a little cold so the landlord goes down in the basement and we all follow and he opens this door and he's got another apartment down there. Fully funished that turns out this is the guys hang out. The frig was stacked with beer, nothing else and the bathroom didn't have any tolit paper and the light was busted. It was paradise. We are stated playing cards and after about an hour other guys were showing up. The conversation shifted from joking around to politics to women to whatever it was great. I had arrived!

Now I know some one else also has a story, share, share...

[Guest nova]

Men!

I've always hung out with the girls, but I'm not at the point where natal women assume I'm a natal woman.

a couple of days ago I was walking home from the market and two young girls (hood rats) were checking me out. One said to her friend, "that's a man" and the other one said "What?, no way, are you serious?"

I guess I'm halfway there?!

[Guest angie]

Would like to know what other peoples experiences has been with hangin out with your gender.

The potty issue was my biggest hurdle.I would be going in or out,some woman would be doing the

same,and give me this shocked<what are YOU doing in there,look.Since everything about me now

say's woman...I am being included in conversations,thought of as a woman.I find it pretty dang neat

to be interacting and they forget who I used to be.And strange women having no idea,treat me like

one of their own.Yeah,I think it's pretty cool indeed.

Angie