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I guess I should start by saying hello. I just found out a couple of days ago that there is a name for what I've felt and struggled with all my life - transgender. At first I was relieved that there was a name for it, but the problem of telling others quickly consumed my attention. So, I'm trying to be brave and find others like me. As far as general info goes, I'm a biological female that identifies as a guy. I'm almost through college with a double major in biology and psychology. I'm married to a heterosexual man. I belong to a church that accepts everyone, but they still don't know that I'm transgender. (Or maybe they do, not like I hide my masculinity very well.) ;)

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Welcome to the forums, Eck,

Let me get you all comfortable, come on into our members lounge and have a seat, I'll get you a little snack, it's our way of making sure that you feel right at home.

Would you prefer pizza or a cheeseburger?

The smell of fresh food sends the signal to all of the corners of the playground and alerts our friendly (and hungry) group that someone new has arrived and they all come to great you - do take a second piece of pizza before they get here.

We are all here to support each other and answer any questions that we can.

That being said, we strongly suggest that you find a therapist wiht a background in dealing with Gender Identity Issues, that is a great first step.

Welcome to the friendliest place on Earth.

Love ya,

Sally

PS - I fixed your font and color, next time just type your post, then highlight it and select font and color - that's the way it works here - pretty easy once you get used to it.

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Guest bronx

ECK-

Hey welcome to the playground, Looks like the other guys haven't gotten here yet but they will. For now sit back and enjoy the food that Sally has offered. Everyone is really cool here.

YO, WE GOT ANOTHER GUY!!!!!!!

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Guest NeverSayNever

Hey, welcome to Laura's!

I hope you enjoy your stay here, I'm positive you will as everyone is very friendly.

I see you've met Sally, one of the best people here! :)

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Guest Naomi Stardust

welcome ! :)

enjoy yourself

i hope we can help find answers to your questions

(mmmmm pizza, still hot yum!)

and get you all the support you need

feel free to post a lot and to comment on others posts as well

there are a lot more words out there for people such as ourselves

my current favorite is Gender-Gifted

take care

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Guest Alyssa Leigh

Hi Eck

Welcome to the playground everyone is so nice here so make yourself comfortable and more will be by soon to greet you.

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Guest Nikk

ECKECKECKECKECKECKECK - your name is just so much fun to say over, and over, and over <3

Silliness aside, welcome to the playground! Good to hear from another guy. So make yourself comfortable and post around.

~Nikk

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Guest joe0117

Hey Eck!

Welcome to the Playground! This really is the friendlies place on earth! Take a look around and get comfortable. Food does seem to go quickly around here so load your plate up heavily :P Feel free to ask any questions and most importantly here you can just be yourself ! I look forward to getting to know you!

Joe

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Wow, this is great! I'm really pumped about getting to know everybody. Thank you all for your encouragement. I never thought I'd meet anyone who didn't think that I'm a complete...well, you know the words that people use when they're judging you. It's really hard when you feel like you have to keep everything about yourself a secret and never let anyone know who you really are. For me, that's been the hardest part - the secrets. It doesn't take long at all for you to feel that nobody likes you because if they knew who you really were, they wouldn't like you (according to the bad-thinking part of the brain). <_<

I do see a doctor for meds and psychotherapy, so I think I have a real edge there. I was so afraid that I'd get rejected that I wrote my doctor a letter the day before my appointment to see him last week because I didn't want to see the disappointment on his face when he found out. Of course, I didn't know the words to use because I had never told anybody before, but it turns out that he finally feels like he knows what's going on with me and can help me better because I finally told him. He explained that there was a name for what's going on and that it was okay, and that there are other people in the world that feel the same way I do.

In short, you really made my day!

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If you ever doubt that there is anyone else like you and are feeling alone - just log in and look at your member number - Laura is 1 and they didn't start with 5000 either, click on the Laura's Playground main header then scroll down to the bottom to see who is on line and there is a total number for members through the years and how many are on line a lot of information that says you are far from alone.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest ~Brenda~

Welcome Eck,

Yes you have come to the right place!! You now know that you are trangendered!!! Isn't that such a revelation!! Understanding that you are transgendered is a major step in you journey. Keep posting here Eck and you will learn so much more about yourself!!

Love and hugs

bernii

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Welcome to Laura's, Eck. I discovered that I was transgender four years ago. I didn't know what transgender was, either. Now I'm so proud being a transgender person. THis is a great site with some great people.

GENNEE

:D

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Guest Marissa Anastasia

Hello Eck,

Yes, there is a name for everything across the TG spectrum...frankly, some of it is a little confusing to me...the point is, you are who you are regardless of what name they give it...you are so much more than a name...we are always here for you.

Love,

Marissa

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