I’m 15 and want to start transitioning to a female without hormones or surgery. How can I do this?

[MadelineWilco]

Hi all,

I’m shy about posting this, but I’m going to anyway. What would be the best way for me to transition from male to female at my age without hormones or surgery? I feel like a girl, I dress like a girl, I’m starting to talk like a girl, etc. I feel like I want to identify as a woman now. My mom said she will accept me for whoever I am, and even though she says she’s a little unhappy that I’m uncomfortable with my current gender, she’ll support me in any decision I make. My Dad is a little more reluctant right now, as he says it may be a phase, but I don’t think it’s a phase. I think I’m a girl and I desire to do girly things, act like a girl, paint my nails, dress like a girl, etc. The name I chose for myself is Madeline. I’ve posted on here before identifying as a demigirl, but I think I’m fully a girl now. 
Thank you all for your time,

Madeline

[Dinaki]

Hello dear Madeline

 

Your mom is accepting you and that is a plus for you dear.

Second, you mommy along with you, should both go and talk to a gender therapist. You are very young Madline, that's why a doctor needs by your side.

 

I am certain, a better answer will come up to you as I do not know the steps taken as I am foreigner and we do completely different in Europe than USA.

 

Good luck to you Madeline and when I transitioned, I was at your age dear.

[Jackie C.]

Hey Madeline!

 

@Dinaki is right in that the first step is nearly always a gender therapist. They hold the keys if you will. You're on the right track otherwise. Dress, speak, walk and generally present as your real gender. At fifteen, you should notify your school system so they can make sure you get the correct name and pronouns in class. Maybe get a pocket bra and some breast forms. I know it's tempting, but don't go overboard. You don't need HH cup breasts. ?

Presentation is key. You want to be on the girly side in your presentation. The other girls have genetics and the weight of a three and a half billion other women behind them. You're going to need to try a little harder than they do. That's OK, it's fun!

You might consider puberty blockers. Testosterone does a lot of damage at your age that you might feel more comfortable without. That's something to discuss with your therapist though.

 

HRT and surgery are largely out of the picture at your age anyway. Until you hit eighteen, most doctors won't even consider you as a candidate.

 

Hugs!

[Rorelai]

Hi Madeline!

 

It's awesome to hear that you have your mom in your corner, and like you said I'm sure your dad will come around too. Like Jackie C said, getting to see a gender therapist will help you work out a game plan in your transition, however there are plenty of other things you can do to start feeling more at home in your body as well before you get to a point where you want to start hormones. 

 

Spend some time experimenting with makeup, there's an abundance of tutorials out there to help you learn the ins and outs of the beauty world, and there are even videos from other trans girls out there that can help guide you. Now's a good time to start growing out your hair if you want to, and once you've got some length to work with see about going to a salon to have it cut in a more feminine way (provided salons aren't closed due to COVID). 

 

Also, when you're shopping for clothes online, make sure that you know your measurements, as sizing from one brand to another is not uniform in women's clothing. Don't worry about what the tag says, find clothes that are you-sized.

 

Ultimately, find what makes you feel good. There's no one way to be a woman, and you have the chance to decide what kind of girl you want to be. 

[MadelineWilco]

On 7/5/2020 at 1:42 PM, Jackie C. said:

Hey Madeline!

 

@Dinaki is right in that the first step is nearly always a gender therapist. They hold the keys if you will. You're on the right track otherwise. Dress, speak, walk and generally present as your real gender. At fifteen, you should notify your school system so they can make sure you get the correct name and pronouns in class. Maybe get a pocket bra and some breast forms. I know it's tempting, but don't go overboard. You don't need HH cup breasts. ?

Presentation is key. You want to be on the girly side in your presentation. The other girls have genetics and the weight of a three and a half billion other women behind them. You're going to need to try a little harder than they do. That's OK, it's fun!

You might consider puberty blockers. Testosterone does a lot of damage at your age that you might feel more comfortable without. That's something to discuss with your therapist though.

 

HRT and surgery are largely out of the picture at your age anyway. Until you hit eighteen, most doctors won't even consider you as a candidate.

 

Hugs!

Thank you for your reply! I may want to talk to my doctor about what I’m dealing with and see what he can do about it. I’m homeschooled, and hopefully going into college this Winter, so I may start identifying as a girl when I start college. I’ll just have to work on it a lot between now and then, including buying some more clothes, makeup, breast forms and padded panties, a wig, etc. 
Hugs,

Madeline

[MadelineWilco]

On 7/8/2020 at 1:17 PM, Rorelai said:

Hi Madeline!

 

It's awesome to hear that you have your mom in your corner, and like you said I'm sure your dad will come around too. Like Jackie C said, getting to see a gender therapist will help you work out a game plan in your transition, however there are plenty of other things you can do to start feeling more at home in your body as well before you get to a point where you want to start hormones. 

 

Spend some time experimenting with makeup, there's an abundance of tutorials out there to help you learn the ins and outs of the beauty world, and there are even videos from other trans girls out there that can help guide you. Now's a good time to start growing out your hair if you want to, and once you've got some length to work with see about going to a salon to have it cut in a more feminine way (provided salons aren't closed due to COVID). 

 

Also, when you're shopping for clothes online, make sure that you know your measurements, as sizing from one brand to another is not uniform in women's clothing. Don't worry about what the tag says, find clothes that are you-sized.

 

Ultimately, find what makes you feel good. There's no one way to be a woman, and you have the chance to decide what kind of girl you want to be. 

Thank you for your reply! I’m going to try and grow my hair out long. It naturally is very curly, so I don’t know how it’s going to grow down. I want it to be butt length, but shoulder length will do, so I’ll really need to start growing it now.  I need to learn how to do makeup, so I’ll start watching makeup tutorials as you suggested. I’m going to college starting Winter hopefully, so I’ll start identifying as a girl then. 
Thank you for your support and hugs,

Madeline