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Michelle_Anne

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Hello everyone,

 

I’ve been gone from here for a while just taking time finding myself.  The last year or so has just been crazy with trying to figure out my gender identity.  I feel like before I was looking for something that would confirm or validate how I felt about wanting to be a woman instead of looking for answers with in myself.   Through this I finally came to a self acceptance that I am with out a doubt transgender.  I feel like the trigger for this process was reading about the stages of self acceptance.  Numerous articles described to a T what I felt. 
 

Yesterday evening I just had a moment where I broke down and cried and finally for the first time accepted I was transgender. 
 There have been so many thoughts going through my head.  Childhood memories of not feeling comfortable being a boy that i ignored for so long.  
 

I still have a lot of dysphoria now but I feel much better.  I have my first therapy appointment next Thursday.  I was scared before and had canceled two appointments. Now I’m excited and just want to open up completely. 

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Dear @Limitededition, I'm so happy to hear about your journey to self-acceptance and embracing who you are. Sometimes the release of a good cry can be powerfully healing, and it's wonderful you are coming away from that with a sense of hope and excitement. Welcome back to the forums!

Love,

~Audrey.

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Thank you Audrey.  I started crying and I thought...wow I’m not even on hormones yet and I’m already becoming emotional.  
 

you can call me Michelle now :)

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It's lovely to meet you Michelle! Being connected to your authentic self is an emotional experience. May those tears be tears of joy as you go forward!

 

Love,

~Audrey.

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10 hours ago, Limitededition said:

Yesterday evening I just had a moment where I broke down and cried and finally for the first time accepted I was transgender.

Hi L.E!  Nice to meet you!
I had a similar experience.  Driving on my way to my 3d therapy session I had a literal breakdown in the car, and again when we first started our session.  So many things poured out, but at the end I had reached that point of Self-Acceptance.  It was a breakthrough for me.

Still a rollercoaster and times, and many obstacles to navigate, but starting from a point of self-acceptance makes it so much more worthwhile and constructive.  Happy you are going to make it to therapy.  Don't hold back!  let it all out and continue on your journey!

 

Deep breaths ... one step at a time

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Hi, Michelle.  Self-acceptance is 99% of what this journey is all about.  I am so happy for you that you have found it!  From here on, it is mostly just paperwork. ?

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Hi Michelle, nice to meet you!

 

Very interesting what you wrote about the stages of self-acceptance. Powerful stuff.

 

Congrats on reaching your breakthrough. As @KathyLauren says, that's the ultimate goal. From here the steps to happiness can flow without so much struggle.

 

I myself feel I'm half way there, but getting closer because that is also my main focus. I also believe that should be the main focus in any conversation about our trans* journey, but that may just be my bias.

 

I'll like to know more about your journey.

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8 hours ago, KathyLauren said:

Hi, Michelle.  Self-acceptance is 99% of what this journey is all about.  I am so happy for you that you have found it!  From here on, it is mostly just paperwork. ?

 

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