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[Guest Cody_T]

So apparently I should refrain from ever assuming I know anything about anyone no matter how solid I consider the evidence

Cause my mom just sort of told me that...

I ought to get going on my transition

She said that her big issue is with androgyny, so (I'm assuming, she literally only said the last two lines and that I should find a therapist) she's okay with transitioning since I'll at least be binary, and getting it done now will mean that she doesn't have to deal with it in the future and I won't have to be awkwardly confusing forever.

So yeah . I was already looking at therapists just cause I figured I needed one, but now I can make sure it's a gender one and everything . I keep worrying there's a catch or something, cause it was completely unexpected. So it was kind of weird... but no less amazing

Oh except now I'm getting hit with both the guilt that I get whenever I get my way, and the guilt that it was too easy. I'm so messed up

[Guest Evan_J]

So apparently I should refrain from ever assuming I know anything about anyone no matter how solid I consider the evidence

Cause my mom just sort of told me that...

I ought to get going on my transition

She said that her big issue is with androgyny, so (I'm assuming, she literally only said the last two lines and that I should find a therapist) she's okay with transitioning since I'll at least be binary, and getting it done now will mean that she doesn't have to deal with it in the future and I won't have to be awkwardly confusing forever.

So yeah . I was already looking at therapists just cause I figured I needed one, but now I can make sure it's a gender one and everything . I keep worrying there's a catch or something, cause it was completely unexpected. So it was kind of weird... but no less amazing

Oh except now I'm getting hit with both the guilt that I get whenever I get my way, and the guilt that it was too easy. I'm so messed up

lol See, just when you least expect it

[Guest StrandedOutThere]

WOW!!! That's amazing!!

This is quite a change from that last thread you posted. I bet you feel a lot better.

I don't know what to say other than...

AWESOME, RADICAL, AND COOLNESS!!!!!

[Sally]

Well we are all messed up one way or another - congratulations!

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Pól]

That's amazing. Like absolutely amazing. (I agree totally with Ainsley and Evan)

Don't be surprised if there's a little whiplash though. I think that could be expected if she changed so quick. But overall, that's awesome.

[Guest Martin]

Yay!

[Guest Jeannine Bean]

She said that her big issue is with androgyny, so (I'm assuming, she literally only said the last two lines and that I should find a therapist) she's okay with transitioning since I'll at least be binary, and getting it done now will mean that she doesn't have to deal with it in the future and I won't have to be awkwardly confusing forever.

So yeah . I was already looking at therapists just cause I figured I needed one, but now I can make sure it's a gender one and everything . I keep worrying there's a catch or something, cause it was completely unexpected. So it was kind of weird... but no less amazing

Oh except now I'm getting hit with both the guilt that I get whenever I get my way, and the guilt that it was too easy. I'm so messed up

For years my dad was cool, he just thought I was gay.... but when I'd say, "no I'm a woman" he'd scrinch up his eyebrows and look confused and then say... "well, okay... I think you should write a book about this because someone would want to read it." He's from Georgia, and really all this transsexualism was pretty far outside his understanding. But I always appreciated his willingness to be accepting to me.

My mom, on the other hand is a religious nut for many years and kind of didn't seem to want to deal with it. I remember her talking about 'passing phases' several times throughout the years and... all the moments talking about it were very uncomfortable. Nor was she very happy about it when I tried to transition in my early twenties...

Then one day, more or less out of nowhere, my sister called me up and said mom was talking to her and said she'd always wished she had been more supportive of me throughout the years. When I talked to her, she apologized to me for all the comments she made about me wearing makeup and nail polish in my teens, said she always had some amount of envy for my "flair for style" throughout the years... and started calling me by my real name (the one you see on all my posts)... She never went back.

People can surprise ya! People can change, and people can well.... sometimes they aren't thinking what you think they're thinking, LOL.

At least that's been my experience. I'm glad things are going pretty good for you on the family front, too.

--Jeannine

[Guest Cody_T]

Don't be surprised if there's a little whiplash though. I think that could be expected if she changed so quick. But overall, that's awesome.

yeah, I'm pretty much waiting for it. And I doubt this actually changes anything as far as our stances and how she wants me to act/dress, at least until I get real changes with T and stuff... but at least now I can look forward to getting T and everything I'm not gonna push too much with like, a binder or whatever, since I figure this is what I ultimately want and there's no reason to upset her with smaller things. Also cause I'm a wimp and that's my natural response to any resistance

Oh *and* this means that there's a chance I'll be done transitioning by the time I apply to med schools, so I'll be able to just put myself down male and not have to worry about any of that That would be beyond awesome.

[Guest 1charlotte1]

So apparently I should refrain from ever assuming I know anything about anyone no matter how solid I consider the evidence

Cause my mom just sort of told me that...

I ought to get going on my transition

She said that her big issue is with androgyny, so (I'm assuming, she literally only said the last two lines and that I should find a therapist) she's okay with transitioning since I'll at least be binary, and getting it done now will mean that she doesn't have to deal with it in the future and I won't have to be awkwardly confusing forever.

So yeah . I was already looking at therapists just cause I figured I needed one, but now I can make sure it's a gender one and everything . I keep worrying there's a catch or something, cause it was completely unexpected. So it was kind of weird... but no less amazing

Oh except now I'm getting hit with both the guilt that I get whenever I get my way, and the guilt that it was too easy. I'm so messed up

Guilt bad! U deserve this!! Enjoy!

I guess that's all I got. Best of luck!!

Hugz, Charlotte

[Guest joe0117]

Cody - I am so happy for you! See what can happen when you take a breath. Your mom may go back and forth a bit but it is a learning process for her as well. Be open with her and encourage her to be open with you about questions, concerns, occasional comments - but lay the ground rules that there always has to be respect = both ways. It will go a long way to help you both have a firm foundation when you get to some of the obstacles that jump out during transition. Definitely - way cool!

Joe

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Dear Cody!!

Path is clear!! All lights green!! Cleared for take off!! GO!!

LOL

bernii

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Cody

Hope for the best, expect the worst, but RUN RUN RUN, before things change!

And I agree, I an androgynous now by default (on the HRT) and its killing me! EVERYONE looks. Before only a few stared at me - now I want to pass into that next phase, looking like a masculine woman.

Oh yes: I define tranition MTF as

Presenting male

Looking like an effeminate male

Androgynous

Looking like a masculine woman

Presenting female

Of course your journey is the reverse.

Just some thoughts

Lizzy

[Guest Zabrak]

Grats, man.

I know the feeling 'too good to be true' but don't let it get to you! Enjoy this...things are going your way.

[Guest Eth]

Way cool- congratulations! ^^