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I came out to a good friend today.


Red_Lauren.

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Today was the day I came out to a friend. Who is more then just a friend. I view her as the older sister I never had, or asked for. She has been one of the most supportive persons in my life. So me finally coming out to her. Was a big thing, and a few months of keeping it a secret from her. 

 

I wrote her a letter. As I was nervous to tell her in person, and there was some stuff in it. That is personal. That only we would know. 

 

It was definitely more emotional then telling other people. Probably because of our relationship, and my hormones. I got the reaction I knew I would get from her. We both fought back tears, till I couldn't hold them back any longer. Now I wish I would have taken a day off from work. I'm that happy. 

 

 

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@Red_Lauren. This makes me so happy to read! Thank you for sharing your happiness with all of us, and I hope those were tears of joy. It's wonderful to hear that your friend is just as supportive to you now as before. I imagine this will make your relationship with her even closer. I have a friend who is also like a sister to me. She was the first of my friends to know, other than my partner. It was hard to tell her too - how would she react? - but now in hindsight, it was the best thing I could have ever done for our relationship.

 

Love,

~Audrey.

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@Red_Lauren. This is so great to hear. Everyone of us girls needs that friend that we can talk to when we can't talk to our family about the stuff that's going on in our lives. The first person I told was my best friend Jessica. And because of her being accepting, it gave me the courage to start telling other people. I hope she will always stay your friend. And remember, you will always have friends here.

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I always love to hear a good coming out story!  One where a best friend becomes an even better friend is the best kind.  Congratulations, Lauren!

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They were definitely tears of joy. I expected her to get emotional. As I knew her well enough, but I wasn't expecting me to get emotional. Dang hormones. 

 

She loves my name, and yes its the same as here. She was super excited to call me by it, and she asked when she can call me it. I told her when ever. As im still presenting as a male. 

 

I also know I'm getting lucky on people accepting me, and I know not every one will be. In my eyes thats ok. They are people that arnt in my life a whole lot, or are friends. If I lose them so be it. It could be way worst. I'm not married, any kids that I know off, etc. So its not like I'm losing any thing of importance.

 

With me coming out.  I've gained a few new friends. Who I don't have to pretend to be some one else. 

 

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Thanks ladies, There is one more person I should tell, but I'm debating on telling her. She's my mom. Who ran out on me when I was like 10/11, used me to screw over my dad, and my brothers dads. She should have never had kids. To put it nicely.

 

I try to to be civil with her, but she keeps shooting her self in the foot. Not to mention she's been gone 25ish years now, and I have only seen her three times sincs.

 

She dosn't mean anything to me. At all any more. I don't have negative or postive feelings towards her at all. She's like a coworker you might talk to, and tolerate, but will never hang out with. She is that to me. 

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