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Is being Tg make you gay?


Lexi C

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12 hours ago, Jandi said:

And being a transgirl doesn't help.

Jandi, I hope you don't mind but I am going to PM you about this because I am conscious of hijacking Lexi's thread. But I do just want to say to anyone reading this, I think trans women may be having a cultural moment. I think there are many, many men who desire us. I think maybe society has repressed this collective desire for so long it is bursting out with a vengeance. But I'll leave the rest for the PM.

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Not that I know much about all of this,  it's my understanding that your sexuality and gender are two different things.  Some men may change their sexuality when they transition their gender to a woman, but not always.  Personally my sexuality preference has been for men, but I haven't started on HRT yet, so I guess I will see.  I hope I continue to be attracted to men, since  transitioning to a woman makes sense for me.

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On 1/26/2021 at 7:20 AM, Mx.Drago said:

There are three terms on attraction I can think of.

 

Sapphic, is also known as Woman Loving Woman (WLW), LBPQ (Lesbian, Bisexual, Pansexual, Queer), and Difemina, a woman/woman-aligned gender person who's attracted to women/woman-aligned (exclusively or not) 

 

https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Sapphic

 

 

Achillan, also known as men loving men (MLM), apollian, chaeronean, and chaeronic, is a Man/man-aligned gender person who's attracted to men/man-aligned (exclusively or not)

 

https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Achillean

 

 

Diamoric - also known as adonian, adonic and cypric, is a Non-Binary person who's attracted to any person.

 

https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Diamoric 

 

😅 Probably missing a few other terms, plus who knows maybe more terms are being conjured as we speak.

 

I used to laugh at the alphabet soup ... LGBTQABC....XYZ. Now it makes so much sense to me! Once you get over the squeamishness of exploring all the various combinations, it's actually really fascinating. When I look at people now, instead of a binary M/F decision, I look a little deeper and see other aspects of the person. Not that I mention it, but I do notice it. I don't have the vocabulary to describe it, but will definitely do some browsing on lgbta.wikia to learn more. I think it makes us so much more interesting when we can open up and be honest about these sort of things.

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AgnesBardsie
On 1/29/2021 at 10:08 PM, Susan R said:

We’re nothing too out of the ordinary. We’re just two monogamous bisexual females married 22+ years now. After 20 years of marriage, I came out to my wife as transgender and began my transition to female.  We simultaneously both opened up about our sexual orientations to each other. We’ve both accepted one another completely. We now increasingly enjoy each other’s company as both best friends and romantic partners.

Susan, I want to be just like you when I grow up! Does that sound silly? 

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5 hours ago, AgnesBardsie said:

Once you get over the squeamishness of exploring all the various combinations, it's actually really fascinating.

 

So nice to hear you say that Agnes. x

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6 hours ago, Joannie said:

Personally my sexuality preference has been for men, but I haven't started on HRT yet, so I guess I will see.  I hope I continue to be attracted to men, since  transitioning to a woman makes sense for me.

 

Hi Joannie, nice to meet you. I think it must be pretty rare that someone MtF who was attracted to men before transition suddenly is not attracted to men after. But I will say some dramatic and amazing things can happen to your sexuality. I haven't even started hormones yet, but just embracing my female side has been enough for me to realise I am totally attracted to men, even though I've been a hetero male all my life.

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On 2/4/2021 at 3:11 PM, AgnesBardsie said:

Susan, I want to be just like you when I grow up! Does that sound silly? 

LOL, you’re funny! You’re sweet and silly all rolled up into one.

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Teri Anne

No law says you have to be gay if you are trans where would you come up with an idea like that?

If you are gay you would know it don't you think?

You like women so there is your answer so you aren't gay.

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Teri Anne

I have been with both and each are wonderful in their own way.

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Hey Teri Ann

it' might be  that simple to you, but To me and few others here its not.

I not even sure if I  am human anymore much less gay, straight or bi.

I am just trying to fig out stuff. A lot of us are.

But as I said, I am happy you have it down. 

 

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