Some Questions

[LunarOrchid99]

Hello there. As I was saying in my intro, I identify as an agender woman. I don't experience dysphoria because being an agender woman personally for me means that while I agree living as a woman like my assigned gender at birth (female) told me, my gender feelings are actually neutral and/or undefined. I am presenting quite feminine so people around me assume that I'm a cis woman. I don't have dysphoria so I'm okay with that. However, sometimes I feel that I'm not queer enough based on how I present myself to the world and my lack of dysphoria. Many times I asked myself, "why don't you just be a cis woman?" and I feel like I need to get over this "trans phase" but unfortunately I cannot go back to identify as a cis woman. Do you folks consider me a valid trans/nonbinary because I don't have dysphoria? Do you consider trans people without dysphoria trans? I know that this forum's rules are implying being supportive but I'm afraid there's some transmeds or truscums here

[Susan R]

 

1 hour ago, LunarOrchid99 said:

I need to get over this "trans phase" but unfortunately I cannot go back to identify as a cis woman. Do you folks consider me a valid trans/nonbinary because I don't have dysphoria? Do you consider trans people without dysphoria trans? I know that this forum's rules are implying being supportive but I'm afraid there's some transmeds or truscums here

Welcome @LunarOrchid99. It’s a pleasure to meet you.

 

The concept of gender is probably slightly different, for many, if not all of us. Where we fit on that gender spectrum can be debated with never an accurate answer agreed upon. It’s all about where we individually feel comfortable today. Some people change their gender identity not because they can but it can happen after learning new information about yourself through revelation, seeing yourself in a new perspective, or even while experiencing a triggering event.

 

Even if there were some transmeds among the membership, no one on the forum will judge you. We will not accept you for anything less than the beautiful human being you are. So long as you do not judge others, you should be just fine.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

[Carolyn Marie]

Many trans folk do not have severe, or any, dysphoria.  I don't know how common that is, but my impression is that it is not uncommon to not experience dysphoria.  I never had severe dysphoria, but that never stopped me from knowing I was trans and knowing that I wanted very much to transition.

 

More importantly, there are no rules that require someone who is a member here to have dysphoria, and I am not aware of anyone expressing such views.  We do not denigrate or disapprove of someone if they do not experience dysphoria, and would not tolerate such an attitude if we became aware of it.  If someone has come across that way to you, or there are posts that give that impression, you are welcome to PM me or another Mod or Admin and point them out so we can verify it. 

 

Carolyn Marie

[VickySGV]

As said above on this set of Forums, no one is "not Trans enough" and no one is "too Trans" to be here.  Dysphoria translates to "terrible burden" and gender for some people, while not Cis gender (ie: content with the gender label put on them at birth by others) is much much less than a terrible burden, but still it is a fact of your life that you do not feel as if you 100% fit with those labeling themselves Male or Female.  You are just a YOU and nothing more or less.  Have fun while you are here and work toward being the BEST YOU you can be however it takes you to do it.

[Chloe Cozee]

5 hours ago, VickySGV said:

no one is "not enough Trans" and no one is "too Trans" to be here

 

Thank you for stating (or re-stating this). This is so important for me to hear. I should write it on the wall of my office and look at it everyday!

 

Chloe

[MaryEllen]

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Do you folks consider me a valid trans/nonbinary because I don't have dysphoria?

The short answer is, Yes we do. 

 

MaryEllen

[Audrey]

8 hours ago, LunarOrchid99 said:

Do you folks consider me a valid trans/nonbinary because I don't have dysphoria? Do you consider trans people without dysphoria trans?

You are a valid person and welcome here, no matter how you identify. Everyone experiences and expresses gender in a uniquely personal way. Maybe that falls on the gender binary, or maybe it doesn't. Either way, that's okay. Your feelings around gender identity and expression are real. I would also add that dysphoria is not a prerequisite to being transgender, nor is the intensity of any dysphoria that may be present an indicator of how transgender a person is. As others have shared here, there's no such thing as "not trans enough." Only you can decide how you feel, and this community is a safe and supportive space to explore your thoughts and feelings.

 

Love,

~Audrey.

[Charlize]

I joined this site to find support and advice as i tried to understand my own gender issues.  I found that i wasn't judged.  Oddly that allowed me to look honesty at myself.  I have several female friends who present and live as their birth gender but who have confided that they have gender issues.

As said above you should not find judgement here.  If you do please let the Mods know.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[Gabriel]

On 2/6/2021 at 5:27 AM, LunarOrchid99 said:

my gender feelings are actually neutral and/or undefined

You feel it? You ARE. Full stop.

 

Welcome to TP

[justlauren]

On 2/7/2021 at 12:58 AM, Gabriel said:

You feel it? You ARE. Full stop.

 

Welcome to TP

 What Gabriel said.

 

I am also female-presenting but fluctuate between feeling feminine, masculine, and neutral. I don't do much currently to express that outwardly, but I'm starting to experiment with it. You are valid here and wherever else you go. I am brand new here, but I've found nothing but affirmation and even already some deep connection. Welcome!