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What does it mean to be transfeminine


PheonyxJayde

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Hi!!! 
 

im new here and when asked my gender identity I saw a term i hadn’t seen before - transfeminine. A quick google search and I thought it was the most appropriate for me - I’m just coming to grips with truly identifying as a woman but I also have done literally nothing about it except decades of crossdressing in secret. It seems like transfeminine is a pretty broad category that would cover my identity until I (if I) choose surgery to become MTF.  Is that accurate? I’m interested in others ideas in the term. 
 

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Eh, it's a label. I don't really believe in those. It's more short-hand so other people get what you're talking about without you having to write them a book. If you feel transfeminine fits you, then that's the right label for you. When I joined the site, I was just starting my journey and I selected MtF because I knew that's where I was headed. Now it just reads female. I'm a woman. The world sees me as a women. I'm perfectly content with that. My journey isn't over, but that part of my transition is behind me.

 

If where you are in your journey feels transfeminine, then you're transfeminine. Congratulations! It isn't set in stone. As you discover more about yourself, who you are, what you need to do and who you aspire to be, that label might change. Don't worry about it. The only label that really matters is "friend."

 

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1 hour ago, PheonyxJayde said:

Hi!!! 
 

im new here and when asked my gender identity I saw a term i hadn’t seen before - transfeminine. A quick google search and I thought it was the most appropriate for me - I’m just coming to grips with truly identifying as a woman but I also have done literally nothing about it except decades of crossdressing in secret. It seems like transfeminine is a pretty broad category that would cover my identity until I (if I) choose surgery to become MTF.  Is that accurate? I’m interested in others ideas in the term. 
 

pheonyx 

I guess since I am not able to transition I might be considered transfeminine as well. Anyway I see myself as female with no way to change anything.

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It is a label. Humankind often seems obsessed with pigeon-holing everyone and everything. It is one way to share where you feel you belong.

It does mostly work for me - non-binary according to my therapist, but transfeminine based on who I see myself as.

TA

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Thanx for the thoughts everyone! I guess I’m too label focused on myself. My therapist isn’t a big label person and encourages me not to be as well.  I’m not sure if I really am all about the label as wanting to know where I fit in the world and maybe it helps me make sense of that?  The world is so disorienting sometimes I guess I am looking for something to hold onto lol

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Hello, all! I too was surprised when I first saw the term "transfeminine." I've never been a big believer in categorizing things, especially people, but I realize that categories can and do help us relate to others––so long as the categories are neither demeaning nor damaging. I'm like others of you are curious: What is transfeminine? How does a transfeminine differ from transwoman (besides the obvious)? Is it possible to defend transfeminine as a legitimate trans identity (rather than a marker of a person who simply can't bring herself to 'go all the way')? What was it like growing up as a transfeminine individual? (Should I have said transfeminine woman? Or do some of us prefer that it be said transfeminine man?) So many questions! As I'm uncertain about myself, I find this sub-forum really intriguing and would love it if we could get a vibrant back & forth conversation going. Something tells me we're legion; we just don't have very many places where we can talk about ourselves. ––Riannon

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Gender Identity is such an individual thing and it seems each of us has a slightly different on the spectrum. As we and society continue terms will change as in the surguries (SRS to GRS to GCS and now I hear preferred is Gender Affirmation Surgery and that has horrible initials) - but whatever you feel most comfortable at this moment in time and that is subject to change based on how you feel as you continue your journey.

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Hi, Shay. It had crossed my mind that transfeminine, as a self-identifier, might be challenging. As I was growuing up and trying on all sorts of identities, for a while I announced myself as bisexual. Oh, boy, did I invite the scoffers! I was accused of being unable to commit to being either gay or straight. Thank goodness now bisexuals are enjoying the acceptance they deserve. So, you see, that's why I was wondering if transfeminine might be inviting a similar tsunami of ridicule. Of course, I hoping that's no the case. ––Riannon

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