NB and trans sex

[Kathy_Rose]

A while back I read a pretty good article about lgbtqia+ sex.  It included suggestions for ways to interact sexually as and with partners of varying genders and sexualities. It included a lot of non traditional options.  Now I can’t find it.

 

i just started dating someone that is non-binary(afab).  I’m a trans woman still figuring out what works for me.  I’m very big on communication, but my new partner is less experienced than me and maybe still a little hung up on heteronormative sex.   We discovered that PinV isn’t possible for us. I don’t really care, but they do.  It seems like they care more because they think that is how it should be.  

 

I would really like to have some alternative possibilities in mind before we have an in depth discussion about it.

 

I would really appreciate any suggestions or articles/videos you might be aware of.  Thank you 

[Jackie C.]

You're actually on the right track. Honestly, a lot of cis-women can't reach climax through penetration alone so it really isn't that bid a deal. It comes down to what both of you are comfortable with and what brings you pleasure. It's not like there's a blueprint for bedroom activity. Experiment. Have fun. Keep talking to each other.

Sex is about enjoying each other's bodies and intimacy, not about... well not about anything either of you have seen in a porn video.

 

I mean if you're not having fun, what's the point?

 

If you absolutely MUST have a manual though, I recommend "Two Girls Teach Sex." It's designed to hit men upside the head with a 2x4 and teach them to not be such a disappointment in the bedroom, but it's frank and talks about women's bodies and how they work.

 

Hugs!

[Kathy_Rose]

Thanks you for the suggestion!  

 

I’m very “up” for new ideas.  To me, sex doesn’t have to be any particular thing.  This article presented some very “out of the box” ideas that had never occurred to me, but now I don’t remember them.   

 

We tried our own version of tribbing.  It was nice.  They said they liked it, but certainly didn’t look like they did.

 

I do know that I like a “simulated “ version of being penetrated.   I don’t enjoy being actually penetrated, but the feeling of someone thrusting against me in that way feels very sexy and also very validating in what is probably a heteronormative sort of way.  So an “in the box” but also “out of the box” act.