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I've been in the music industry for decades and it seems in that line of work you run into a lot of drug and alcohol abuse. When I think back I can only think of one person I worked with who had a substance abuse problem who got sober and stayed sober. Booze, weed, Oxy, and coke seem to be the drugs of choice for the folks I worked with. 


I have a sister who's a late stage alcoholic and prescription drug abuser. Lots of drama in her household. A few weeks ago she nearly burned down her house. She's been hospitalized for alcohol induced esophageal varacies. She was slowly bleeding to death internally. Like they say at AA, her life has become unmanageable. She has other behaviors when she's drinking that are very unacceptable. 


She refuses to get help. I told her about Naltrexone and let her know that she could still drink while on it. In fact, it is recommended that most alcoholics continue drinking so that they won't have withdrawal symptoms. The mechanism of the medication is called pharmacological extinction. It restores the brain to the state is was before alcohol or opiates became a problem. I don't think she can or will get into a program. It's painful watching her drink and drug herself into an early grave.

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As an alcoholic in recovery, active in AA, one of my hopes is that i can help others find sobriety.  "Our primary purpose is to stay sober and help others to recovery, " is stated at the start of most AA meetings.  It is very difficult for me to see others throw their lives away.  That is of course also the case for non addicts.  Bill W (who was an AA founder) was married to Lois W who started Alan-on to help those close to addicts.  

There is also a program for the family and friends of addicts called Nar-alon.  They have a website at   https://www.nar-alon.org   

You might find help and support in their meetings.  





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I grew up with an alcoholic mother but I think alcohol was secondary to her crazy making behavior. Drinking seemed to make her better at it. At an Alanon meeting someone told be not to expect a new and better person if she ever got sober. As she became elderly the drinking pretty much stopped but the games continued. I'm quite certain that my mother was a grandiose and vulnerable narcissist. It got so bad that her lady friends kicked her out of bridge club. She was like the SNL character Debbie Downer. My sister on the other hand does the crazy making, and whisper campaigns when she's drunk and she's drunk more often than she's sober. She thinks she has adult ADD and is taking Vyvance and other prescription amphetamines. Her "ADD" has another name, known as hangover. 


I'm thinking it's time to have the cops do a welfare check on her.


I don't think AA would be the right thing for her because if she even went she'd probably be disruptive or try to sabotage others. But she would probably not go into and program.


Her husband has been sober maybe 14 years with know relapse. There was an intervention and immediately he packed his bags, went into detox for 3 days and never looked back. I knew that he would commit to sobriety because he's a very logical and highly intelligent person. Shortly after he got sober, his brother and mother followed. 


My sister still brings copious amounts of booze into the house which I think is cruel. He hide in the basement and keeps himself busy with projects that he purposefully complete at a snail's pace. 


I don't like my sister but I love her.

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