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Hi Sol, thanks so much for the tips, I will check out some of the websites, I do get so envious when I see women in pretty dresses sitting down and showing their legs in a skirt and high heels 👠😃will check out  the floral leggings or different colours and styles. Hugs Stefi 

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I enjoy womans unders and cute stuff that shows my body I've always had a cute butt I've been told (and even though I have to suck my belly in) I have natural a cups (I don't like big breast anyways) so I think I feel euphoric when I can see the shape of my body especially when everything is smooth and tucked away but anyways I feel like im babbling but I'm new to figuring these things out so....nervous 

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I love anything feminine. I like crop tops and things like that, as long as they're looser and not too short (so they still hide my binder). Combining skirts, chunky shoes, and heavier jewellery is my go-to look. A softer goth style is what makes me feel the most comfy.

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I think at this point in my transition it's not about clothes making me feel my correct gender. I love fashion and love the fact that I can now engage in expressing that love. Before, I just wore stuff that fitted me reasonable well and were plain colors. It's not like growing up I put on clothes and felt "masculine". they were just clothes.  

What I love now, is that I pick clothes that flatter me and are fun and colorful etc etc.  My viewpoint has changed about fashion now that I'm living as my correct gender, rather than fashion choices making me feel like I'm the right gender.  

Now, ask me what makes me feel "sexy" and without a doubt, bodycon dresses, gorgeous strappy shoes and plunging necklines. (and a good hair day) lol

ps: I used to think bras made me feel more femme but now that I have boobs, I rarely wear one lol

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9 hours ago, Hannah Renee said:

Yeah, @Bri2020 you're becoming a bad influence on me. I may have to run with it.

Sorry, not sorry ;)

Don't be influenced by me please. My journey isn't your journey. I've had certain privileges that make moving quicker more feasible.  There are plenty of things in my life that remind me or trigger me that I'm not what I want to be yet. Clothing isn't one of them though so I tend to embrace fashion to help stave off things like beard growth dysphoria.  While I "feel" feminine now and mostly look it, I am constantly reminded I am trans and not cis. That is something that will never go away but one has to come to a level of acceptance.

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1 hour ago, Bri2020 said:

That is something that will never go away but one has to come to a level of acceptance.

I suspect this is true for a lot of us.

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6 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

  While I "feel" feminine now and mostly look it, I am constantly reminded I am trans and not cis. That is something that will never go away but one has to come to a level of acceptance.

For what it's worth, me too. And, as @Jandisays, "I suspect this is true for a lot of us." I would add that it's true for most of us.

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20 hours ago, Marcie Jensen said:

For what it's worth, me too. And, as @Jandisays, "I suspect this is true for a lot of us." I would add that it's true for most of us.

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On 4/29/2022 at 1:09 PM, Bri2020 said:

ps: I used to think bras made me feel more femme but now that I have boobs, I rarely wear one lol

Isn’t this the truth…lol  I think way back during my early crossdressing years, I felt bras made me feel most feminine too. I’m not sure if it was because they were harder for me to come by or because it’s one garment that (cis) men never needed to wear. In either case, I enjoyed wearing them to bed.

 

Flash forward to today and having boobs…if I can get away without wearing a bra, I will. Of course, my wife reminds me often when I attempt to go without that it’s more ladylike to wear one. She always has the last word on that.😙 And I can’t imagine wearing one while sleeping now.😁

 

Life is ever-changing.

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Heels❣️  actually ALL of it, but mostly looking at my legs in 3inch heels.

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On 4/29/2022 at 4:09 PM, Bri2020 said:

ps: I used to think bras made me feel more femme but now that I have boobs, I rarely wear one

Yeah.  I rarely where one unless I am going out.  Often not then, depending on the situation.  In cold weather I'm usually layered up pretty good anyway.

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My bra the girls need it and I feel better when I have it on 

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I stated earlier that a slip does it for me but recently my daughter brought me a gift from Europe of 3 pairs of Petti Pants OMG they are simply wonderful, so comfortable and the soft material with lace trim is just a wonderful feeling to wear.

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12 hours ago, Susan R said:

Isn’t this the truth…lol  I think way back during my early crossdressing years, I felt bras made me feel most feminine too. I’m not sure if it was because they were harder for me to come by or because it’s one garment that (cis) men never needed to wear. In either case, I enjoyed wearing them to bed.

 

Flash forward to today and having boobs…if I can get away without wearing a bra, I will. Of course, my wife reminds me often when I attempt to go without that it’s more ladylike to wear one. She always has the last word on that.😙 And I can’t imagine wearing one while sleeping now.😁

 

Life is ever-changing.

I never wore bras but with recent "developments" and some of the tops I am wearing for the summer, it is beginning to feel more natural for me to wear them than not. The first time I got a sports bra and tried it on and looked at myself, it just clicked, that was the final missing piece. It's a goal of mine to wear one of my workout bras in public with my pink fitness pants. I see girls in my hood like that all the time when the weather is warm, or when walking their dog... and gosh darnit, I can too!

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For me, it's definitely men's shorts and button ups, together or separately. I usually feel much more confident when I wear any of those.

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