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So I have trouble at work whether out or closeted. When out at work, I get misgendered about half the time, and have to waste time and energy correcting people, or ignore it like misgendering a trans person is acceptable. When closeted at work, yes, I always get misgendered. But I don't have to go through an entire coming out explanation to every single employee I encounter.

 

Bottom line is, I just want to do my job in peace.

 

I'm closeted at my workplace, especially since I'm pre-T. The misgendering is meh, but when I get treated like a woman, when someone does something that shows how they inherently view me as female, that's like a dagger straight through the chest. I work as a stocker, and apparently some of the guys think that's weird. That someone like me is a stocker. They usually give me a hard time, especially when it comes to me using equipment. There's one guy that shouts "Crazy woman driver!" every time I'm moving a pallet, and today he straight up took the pallet jack out of my hands and moved it for me. This even happens with random customers. They see me using a pallet jack and are always offering to take my job out of my hands. It's a PALLET JACK. It's not that complicated. But it's so obvious how the world views me as a female who shouldn't be allowed to have a job involving equipment or moving heavy things.

 

Jesus Christ, I just wanna do my job in peace. 

 

If you see a woman working, don't get in her way. Let her do her job, because women holding jobs is important. Women making money for themselves and supporting people in their household is important. Women don't deserve being pushed into menial, secordary positions where they get paid like s#&$. Women deserve financial dependence too.

 

I just got out of a bad situation where I lived under a borderline abusive man who held all the money and control in the house. I want to be able to leave situations like that. I shouldn't have to go and get a cis man who works for a cis-male-only company and makes cis-man-only company money in order to leave an abuser.  Cis-man-only companies shouldn't even exist. And I shouldn't be fighting so hard to keep a job because people think it's for cis men.

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Hey @Drake  . All's I got is amen to all that. That's completely whack. I hope venting helps because that toxicity at work sounds stifling. I can think of some fantasy responses to that kind of nonsense which I hope would make you laugh at least, but I'm guessing they would not be appropriate to post here for general audiences...something along the lines of smacking someone in the face with a processed meat product which is longer than it is wide next time they insist you hand over the pallet jack...

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42 minutes ago, Vidanjali said:

Hey @Drake  . All's I got is amen to all that. That's completely whack. I hope venting helps because that toxicity at work sounds stifling. I can think of some fantasy responses to that kind of nonsense which I hope would make you laugh at least, but I'm guessing they would not be appropriate to post here for general audiences...something along the lines of smacking someone in the face with a processed meat product which is longer than it is wide next time they insist you hand over the pallet jack...

🤔🤪

It does help, and ikr? It's so crazy how cis men are allowed to act, and I gotta put up with the general sexism and wear my game face through the dysphoria. I'm not gonna stop trying, I just wish more people saw what's happening

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7 hours ago, Drake said:

I'm not gonna stop trying, I just wish more people saw what's happening

 

For what it's worth, @Drake , I see you & I'm heartened that you keep trying. 

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