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Hi everyone! My name is Sami and I’m new to the forum. I’m a 28yo AMAB and although I’ve always identified as cisgender I’ve had feelings of gender dysphoria throughout my entire life.
 

Up until the pandemic I was too caught up in trying to be the sort of man my family and church wanted me to be to honestly question why I have conflicting feelings about my gender identity. Two years ago I decided to live as authentically as possible and came out as gay. While it has certainly been a liberating experience and I’ve fallen in love with an amazing boyfriend, I still feel like I haven’t been entirely open to reckoning with my issues of gender identity.

 

I would love to have someone to share my experiences with, a community of people who have experienced similar feelings. Unfortunately, I don’t personally know any non-cisgender and while there are plenty of supportive people in my life, none of them have felt like I do, so far as I’m aware. I hope that by making an account here I can finally have the sorts of conversations I’ve been putting off for too long.

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2 minutes ago, Samichan said:

I would love to have someone to share my experiences with, a community of people who have experienced similar feelings. Unfortunately, I don’t personally know any non-cisgender and while there are plenty of supportive people in my life, none of them have felt like I do, so far as I’m aware. I hope that by making an account here I can finally have the sorts of conversations I’ve been putting off for too long.

 

Salutations! You've certainly come to the right place!

 

Please feel free to look around and join in the discussion as the mood strike you. This is a safe space. All we ask is that you abide by the rules of conduct.

 

Lovely to meet you and welcome to Transpulse!

 

Hugs!

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1 hour ago, Samichan said:

Hi everyone! My name is Sami and I’m new to the forum. I’m a 28yo AMAB and although I’ve always identified as cisgender I’ve had feelings of gender dysphoria throughout my entire life.
 

Up until the pandemic I was too caught up in trying to be the sort of man my family and church wanted me to be to honestly question why I have conflicting feelings about my gender identity. Two years ago I decided to live as authentically as possible and came out as gay. While it has certainly been a liberating experience and I’ve fallen in love with an amazing boyfriend, I still feel like I haven’t been entirely open to reckoning with my issues of gender identity.

 

I would love to have someone to share my experiences with, a community of people who have experienced similar feelings. Unfortunately, I don’t personally know any non-cisgender and while there are plenty of supportive people in my life, none of them have felt like I do, so far as I’m aware. I hope that by making an account here I can finally have the sorts of conversations I’ve been putting off for too long.

Welcome, @Samichan

This has been a great place for me to discover who I was, who I am, and who I'm becoming. There's a lot to unpack in any life, especially for trans folks. Enjoy the ride and expect to learn to love your changes. Not easy, but satisfying.

Welcome home,

Davie

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Welcome to Trans Pulse, Samichan.  I hope you find answers here to all your questions.  We'll be happy to help.  You might start by looking around the forums and finding some threads that resonate.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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Hello @Samichan! As others have already told you, this is a safe and welcoming place to be...I haven't been here long, but long enough to know that there's not much that's NOT discussed - so I'm sure you'll find welcoming ears and words of wisdom from experiences similar to yours...welcome!💜

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Hi @Samichan and welcome to our support forum. It’s nice to have you here.🙂

 

12 hours ago, Samichan said:

I have conflicting feelings about my gender identity. Two years ago I decided to live as authentically as possible and came out as gay.

That is wonderful to read! So many of the difficulties and feelings of being ‘out of place’  or inadequate in my life can be attributed to living inauthentically. Things seem to come together when you live as you were meant to be even if there is some adversity along the way. We at Transgenderpulse try to encourage one another to live like this when possible and help each other work through some of those obstacles that make it so hard to do.

 

So make yourself at home and feel free to share as much or as little of your story as you feel comfortable. Thank you for your introduction and sharing a little bit about yourself with us!

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R🌷

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Welcome Sami

Cool journey so far. Dam it took guts to finally come out and be you.

Not going to lie and dose not getting any easier, but you have love in your life and that certainly will help

Yeah TP aways has your Back

 

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Hi Sami,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here.

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf🐾

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Welcome Sammi! Glad you're here. I hope you find the wonderful support, advice & acceptance here as I have. A book I found helpful is You and Your Gender Identity by Dara Hoffman Fox. They read it on YouTube as well.

 

Hugs!

Delcina

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On 3/18/2022 at 9:23 AM, Delcina B said:

Welcome Sammi! Glad you're here. I hope you find the wonderful support, advice & acceptance here as I have. A book I found helpful is You and Your Gender Identity by Dara Hoffman Fox. They read it on YouTube as well.

 

Hugs!

Delcina


Thanks for reaching out, Delcina! I really appreciated the recommendation and gave the book a listen on YouTube. It definitely helped me get a clearer idea of why I’m going on this journey and what my next steps should be.

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