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Wilma R

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Hello all

Sorry its taken so long to write this but A- I'm shy and B- living at home with a wife who is in the dark.

I am Wilma...I will change that user name as soon as I can, got knocked out when it said there was already a Wilma.

I am 63 years old and have had my toe in the water for quite a while and have only for the past year been buying clothes that I want to wear.

I am a former serviceman and spent 22 years in the Royal Navy (Submarine service) and I have been married since 87.

Although I am 6'3" tall I am severely attracted to heels, kittens at the moment but the possibilities are endless.

We live in a 2 bed flat so privacy is a bit of an issue but luckily I buy off "Amazon" and get my stuff delivered to a drop zone, pick it up on my way home, leave it in the car overnight

and then take it to work and then try it on/wear it whilst manning the Radar at work.

Managed to get these beauties from Amazon and they have a chunky heel....I absolutely love them.

Many thanks & Hugs

Wilma X

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Welcome Wilma,

It's never too late. I started here at 68 and been the most affirming thing I ever did. You'll find amazing people here and I'm glad you overcame your shyness - that is a very difficult thing to do.

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46 minutes ago, Heather Shay said:

Welcome Wilma,

It's never too late. I started here at 68 and been the most affirming thing I ever did. You'll find amazing people here and I'm glad you overcame your shyness - that is a very difficult thing to do.

Hi Heather

                    Thank you for the welcome, shyness has been a curse since childhood, but once I'm comfortable I start to open up.

Having a quick look around, there are so many of us lucky people around. Is there any way of "Liking" a post without commenting?

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Welcome to Trans Pulse, Wilma.  If you'd like to change your user name, please PM me with some choices and we'll make it happen.  Adding a number or initial before or after "Wilma" should work.

 

Your story resonates with me.  I, too, hid things from my wife long before telling her about Carolyn .  I'm not proud of that.  Like you, I had things delivered to a private box and hid them at home to try on.  I wasn't in the military, but I was a volunteer with the local police department for many years.

 

Please have a look around the forums and post in whatever threads appeal to you.  We'll be here to offer advice and support if you need it.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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Hello Wilma and welcome! There are many of us "more seasoned" (I never say "old" or "older" LOL!!) girls here on TGP...all of whom are more than happy to answer questions and welcome you with open arms!💜

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11 minutes ago, Katie M said:

Hello Wilma and welcome! There are many of us "more seasoned" (I never say "old" or "older" LOL!!) girls here on TGP...all of whom are more than happy to answer questions and welcome you with open arms!💜

Hi Katie

Definitely seasoned in my case...lol

 

Hugs

        Wilma

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16 minutes ago, Carolyn Marie said:

Welcome to Trans Pulse, Wilma.  If you'd like to change your user name, please PM me with some choices and we'll make it happen.  Adding a number or initial before or after "Wilma" should work.

 

Your story resonates with me.  I, too, hid things from my wife long before telling her about Carolyn .  I'm not proud of that.  Like you, I had things delivered to a private box and hid them at home to try on.  I wasn't in the military, but I was a volunteer with the local police department for many years.

 

Please have a look around the forums and post in whatever threads appeal to you.  We'll be here to offer advice and support if you need it.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

Hi Carolyn

Have PM'd reference the name.

I am also not happy with hiding things from my wife, but on several occasions she has seen a crossdresser/transgender person on TV and not been complementary about them.

She found a pair of my stockings and went ballistic about my being Gay and mentioned several times that I had 2 gay uncles.

So I am keeping my clothes at work now.

Many thanks for the warm welcome....I'm off to walk around the walls of this fine forum

Hugs

        Wilma.... 

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 Welcome Wilma! Glad you're here. I hope you find the wonderful support, advice & acceptance here I have. Love the heels! 

 

Hugs!

Delcina

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16 minutes ago, Delcina B said:

 Welcome Wilma! Glad you're here. I hope you find the wonderful support, advice & acceptance here I have. Love the heels! 

 

Hugs!

Delcina

Hi Delcina

                Many thanks for the warm welcome....need more heels..lol

Hugs

          Wilma x

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Hi Wilma,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here.

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf🐾

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19 hours ago, Timber Wolf said:

Hi Wilma,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here.

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf🐾

Many thanks TW

Hugs 

         Wilma R

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