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Hi, I'm Lana!

 

It feels amazing just to say that. I have recently accepted that I am transgender and am just starting out my transition from male to female.

 

I have been unhappy and anxious for most of my life, but simply ignored the link between those feelings and my gender dysphoria. At 32 the pain is now so strong that it gets in the way of all of my relationships - including my partner who loves me very much but is not sure how much longer she can put up with my disposition.

 

I am both terrified and excited at the same time. Terrified because I don't know how the people in my life will respond or whether I will be able to pass (I have a perfect body to transition with the huge exception of significant balding and I don't know if this is fixable with a transplant). Excited because for the first time in my life there is the chance to live as the woman I truly feel like inside.

 

Anyway I am super excited to share my story as it progresses with a community like this and look forward to seeing what others are going through/have been through as well!

 

Lana 🥰

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3 hours ago, Lana4 said:

I am both terrified and excited at the same time.

Hello @Lana4 and welcome to our forum. You have perfectly described the feeling I had when I finally made the decision to transition. There are simply so many unknowns and new experiences, it can at times be overwhelming. I can’t speak for all here but in time that terrified feeling slowly disappeared. Now when I look back, I can still remember my frame of mind but the memories of that time are very positive. In the end, the good it did for me far outweighed the bad.

 

It’s nice to have you with us. Enjoy the site and please join in the conversations if you feel comfortable doing so. We’re a friendly bunch and are here to help and support you any way we can.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R🌷

 

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2 hours ago, Susan R said:

Hello @Lana4 and welcome to our forum. You have perfectly described the feeling I had when I finally made the decision to transition. There are simply so many unknowns and new experiences, it can at times be overwhelming. I can’t speak for all here but in time that terrified feeling slowly disappeared. Now when I look back, I can still remember my frame of mind but the memories of that time are very positive. In the end, the good it did for me far outweighed the bad.

 

Thank you for your kind words. It's so comforting to know that other women have experienced this all before. One day hopefully I can look and feel as feminine as you 😍

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Welcome to Trans Pulse, Lana.  Terror and excitement go hand in hand with being trans, it seems, although  I think @Susan Rsaid it well, about the terror and anxiety giving way to better feelings over time.  I hope that your wife comes around, and realizes that living with a trans woman isn't such a terrible thing.  My wife and I are going strong 13 years after I came out to her.  Give her time, Lana; it takes a while to grieve the loss of what she knew and counted on, if you continue down this path.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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31 minutes ago, Carolyn Marie said:

Welcome to Trans Pulse, Lana.  Terror and excitement go hand in hand with being trans, it seems, although  I think @Susan Rsaid it well, about the terror and anxiety giving way to better feelings over time.  I hope that your wife comes around, and realizes that living with a trans woman isn't such a terrible thing.  My wife and I are going strong 13 years after I came out to her.  Give her time, Lana; it takes a while to grieve the loss of what she knew and counted on, if you continue down this path.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

It's so nice to know people are capable of that kind of love 💜

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Welcome, Lana.

 

I felt a lot like you do before I transitioned.  Like you, I was lucky to have a body that was not ultra-masculine, so I didn't look out of place after transitioning.  And, like you, I had a badly receded hairline.

 

Whether or not hair transplants will be an option for you depends a lot on what you have to work with.  If you can spare enough to transplant, it could be a good option.  I didn't have enough, so I wear wigs in public.  You get used to it.

 

However you decide to approach transition, we are here to support you.

 

Regards,

Kathy

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Welcome to this wonderfully terrifying journey!  While fear plays a part so does joy.  I actually look in a mirror now and see the person i am and can smile at her.   As to hair......i lost that years before transition.  I wear a wig throughout the day in the same way i once wore a baseball cap but with much better results.😄

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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G'day @Lana4 welcome to TransPulseForums.

 

As you've already experienced the type of interactions you'll receive here. There are people from all walks of life here, everyone I've encountered have been first and foremost, kind. You're among like people here who share support from their perspective, and experience. The best quote I've read here is: "Your Mileage May Differ"-unknown.

 

While we share a similar story, there are variables that my change your specific results. Many here will advise you to seek out your own therapist, to guide you through your specific transition situations. I really gain insight and help form the people here who have gone before me, as well as the people on the same timeline in transition. This isn't therapy, it can be therapeutic to read, respond to the topics others have started. Don't hesitate start your own thread of questioning/venting when you don't see something addressing your current feelings.

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and safe,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋 

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Hi Lana.

I am fairly new to the being honest with family and friends.

Having done so recently, can I tell you how (for me anyway), family were much more accepting and supportive than I expected - even to the point where they started joining the dots between your behaviour when younger, and who you now know you are.

There will always be some disappointments, but I have been amazed at the support I have received.

This lot on this website have become my rock - even if I’m not joining in, it is comforting/interesting/informative/affirming to be not alone.

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Hi lana welcome to the forum. 

This is the place to be if you need questions or a place just to talk to like minded people who don't judge but tell you how it is even if sometimes it's not what you wanted to hear. 

 

Since being here my transition started

I started to fly with my wings and I won't stop till I get there. 

The road can be very up and down so be prepared for the bumps but I can personally say I've never been happier in my life since being my true self xxxxx

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Welcome Lana! Glad you're here. Unhappy, anxious, terrified & excited, yes, yes, yes & yes that described me. Not sure how others will accept me, the me I hated for years, yes again. The wonderful people, their support, advice & acceptance in this forum & a great gender therapist helped me see it's okay to be me, just as I am, a transgender woman. How others take it, I have to let them figure out. May you enjoy the journey, just remember to breathe!

 

Hugs!

Delcina

 

 

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